Who else is fed up with rude family members?

[LBJ10]

I have been sort of stewing all day. I am so sick of my mother-in-law being rude to people. My husband had quite an interesting story to tell me yesterday. His aunt (his mom’s sister) is staying with his parents for a visit. My husband has been busting his butt trying to get work done on their rental house so they can sell it. It was really hot yesterday and he was outside with his dad working. His mom calls and says she wants to have lunch with them. So she shows up with my husband’s aunt in tow. She takes a cooler out of the trunk of the car, apparently she thought it would be a good idea to pack some sandwiches. She then proceeds to make everyone go inside the house where it is a little cooler than outside, but still not that cool. There is no furniture in this house and they just had new carpet installed. So his mom makes everyone sit in the kitchen and eat these sandwiches. She gave his aunt the only chair and then forced everyone else to sit on 5 gallon buckets. Then she proceeded to argue with my husband’s dad about stuff going on with the rental house and then blaming my husband for “finding more things that need to be done”. Oh my gosh, how ridiculously rude is that? The sad thing is that I believed every word of my husband’s story because she has pulled stuff like this before. Like when she forced everyone to go on a “family” vacation and then insisted we ate nothing but peanut butter sandwiches. I hate peanut butter. I’m sorry, but I do. And there she was making snide remarks the entire time about how they were “good enough for everyone else”. My husband doesn’t care for peanut butter too much either, but he wasn’t brave enough to actually say something.

I’m hoping this sounds familiar to some other people. I’d hate to be the only one.

[Stickerbunny]

Honestly, family or not… anyone who treats me like that doesn’t stay around me long. Because I don’t put up with it. When my mother flips out on one of her “episodes”, I point out to her she’s being unreasonable and then remove myself from the situation until she comes to her senses.

Sounds like your hubby needs to have the “I am an adult and you should treat me and my wife with a little respect” conversation with her.

[LBJ10]

Being rude to my husband and I is one thing. I’m just thinking of what was going through his poor aunt’s head. He said she looked uncomfortable.

[brittbritt]

Our whole family is full of people who should learn to filter their thoughts before saying them out loud. I love my mom but many times over she says things inappropriate to me and infuriates me so much. But, I’m too nice to say anything back.

[MimzMum]

Not to excuse it, but just look at what is popular on television today. Rudeness. Opening your mouth and letting fly because you can. It’s rewarded with hour long reality tv and radio shows and million dollar book deals.
What bothers me is, the only people who could really say anything about it to make a point are the people who were brought up properly and feel it is too impolite to partake in trash talk. Now if it’s something that has the potential to hurt someone else physically (like someone who is rude in traffic when they should be paying attention to how THEY are driving) then I say all bets are off, but for the most part, there is nothing really that can be done about such people. They have their opinions and everyone should know them. They like their ducks in a row and if you don’t march, then let’s make an example of you or start a long, drawn out family feud.

Yes, I’ve had to deal with such people. They are a waste of my time. There is no winning an argument with someone like this, nor a hope in hell of changing them. You just have to minimize your exposure as best you can without being rude yourself.

[Lani]

I agree with Stickerbunny that people like that don’t hang around long, family or not. I just can’t put up with that stuff anymore and would much rather “make my own family” out of my friends.

Interestingly enough, I’m dealing with my own family irritants. My cousin, who is a few months older than me, just got married last month and now everyone is giving me the “you’re next” speech. I’m so tired of it as I’m only 24. But no matter how much I tell them I think I’m too young and I have lots I want to accomplish like getting my masters and furthering my career before I think about marriage, they don’t want to hear it. My cousin dated her husband for 4 months before they got engaged. Everyone knows I’ve been dating my bf for over 3 yrs and that we do want to get married someday, they just won’t stop with telling us we’ve been dating long enough, time to settle down, etc etc. It’s ridiculous to me that marriage is their yardstick for “success” Nevermind that I have a great career, just moved out on my own, am applying to grad school. I’m not married therefore I’m not a successful adult. Shoot, if I ever told them that Oreo is the closest thing to a grand/great grandchild that they’re going to get from me, they’d lose it!
 

[LBJ10]

Lani – Don’t feel bad. My husband and I were together 7 years before we actually got married. I am so sick of people asking me when I’m going to have kids. “You’ve been married for 5 years now, you should be having kids”. Ugh! They don’t understand that it wasn’t until we got married that I was able to go to school. I am now in grad school. I am no where near ready for kids. We have no money and I’m terrified about finding a job when I am finished so I can pay back all my student loans. At the same time, I realize that I am getting older. But everyone has a different time line and I don’t think success should be measured by whether or not you are married and pooping out kids. I want to focus on making myself happy with a career and a better living situation (i.e. our own house) first.

[Lis]

My family gave me “so when are you getting engaged?” thing for like 2 years. The woman is totally the one that controls that one. Not.
Now everybody’s started telling me I should know when I’m getting married. Well, I don’t know when I’m graduating, how should I know when I’m getting married when everyone tells me I have to graduate first? We’ve just started saying “a long time from now”.
Surprisingly, my future in laws are much better than my family. I love them.

[Lintini]

My dad’s side of the family has no filters and they say and do or take whatever they want.

I’m surprised WWIII hasn’t broken out yet from me getting my grandparents bedroom set. I am sure they are just making tactical plans for a full on invasion soon.

[LoveChaCha]

I’m not too fond of drunk family members, and ones that like to tell me to do things.. because I won’t do it.

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