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[kamdynandsunshinesmom]

I know this had nothing to do with rabbits but I am upset right now. I live with my mother my father passed away 5 years ago. I have had problems in the past with my mom because i think she favors my sister all the time. I am the baby of the family. My sister doesn’t live here. My problem is were part of a relay for life team in memory of my dad so my mom is on the team. She has a tastefully simple party every year to raise money for the team. I don’t take a book to work because i work at a restuarant and everybody is struggling to make ends meet. Plus she has the party on a night that i work which no one i work with would come and i don’t take a book. so i am having a party to raise money for the team not the same party. I asked my mom who she wanted to invite from her work and she said nobody don’t invite anybody you don’t invite people from your work so i dont’ want anyone from my work coming. 2 people she works with are part of the team. It just really hurt me because she could have been nice about it. it just upsets me because when i think things are getting better with her things get worse. thanks for letting me vent i really needed this! thanks again

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

*HUGS* You know I had a hard time geting along with my mom when I lived at home, and I have to say we are BEST friends now. It’s hard as you become or are an adult, to live with another adult-especially a parent. Teenagers fight with parents and it becomes worse the older they get (often) -perhaps parents see their role as almost over and are instead of a parent, more of a person to their children.

It’s just that parents are people too, never perfect and cannot always wearing the parent hat. If you can, it’s easier to heal from a hurt by putting on her shoes for a minute. She’s trying to raise kids, has lost the love of her life and is now raising money/planning a party. Thats stressful for anyone. Not saying she couldn’t be nicer, or anything like that. (I’m not taking her side, just trying to consider her view, as I find it’s easier to forgive someone if I know the why ) But recognize she’s human, and likely doing the best she can and is still coping with the loss that you are as well.

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