Looking For Advice About New Job

[mindy10]

So I started a job a few months ago doing bookkeeping at a law firm.  It is a very detail oriented job.  Well I found out i’m not very detail oriented!  The first week I was there I cut a check to the wrong Registry of Deed.  The error was caught before it went out but my boss screamed at me and said this is a detail oriented job and  there is no room for error and if it went out we would be in trouble!  So on and so on!!  Well I first of all felt she should’nt of screamed she could of said it nicely. I’m new and she should be checking my work.  The third week I put an invoice in with the wrong number and she screamed seriously Melinda, seriously are you Fr$&#& kidding me!!  Well at first I thought she was kidding but she was serious.  The error was fixable.  So now my old boss asked me if I wanted to come back and he would give me more responsibility and more hours.  I was working 20 and he would give me 32.  I left the job because it was too slow.  The new job keeps me busy 4 hours a day.  but is it worth the stress to get yelled at and every day you go in  your so scared your stomach is in a knot?  I have lost 10 pounds since I started!!  Any opinions?

[Monkeybun]

Honestly, the stress isn’t worth it. You’ll start hating it and looking for reasons to not go in. I’d go back to the old job, even if it is a bit slow

[Beccaberry]

Well it sounds like you have answered your own questions with you making your new job sound a nightmare and your old job seeming to be the easier option to us. It depends on what you are looking for in a career. Your new job sounds extremely challenging and something new that you’ve never been good at and could possibly discipline you and improve your area of being more “detail orientated” but it also sounds a bit extreme and might not be what you’re looking for? Taking your old job would be going back to your normal comfort zone and may not be as stimulating but if you enjoyed that job it could also be an opportunity for a slight promotion, somewhere you are more happier to work at, which you wouldn’t have got if you didn’t leave.

What I would recommend  (if you haven’t done so already) is writing everything down on paper putting each job in table and writing out pros/cons this is a standard procedure but seeing it written down will help you more. I’m going through similar emotions as you with the whole job thing but a completely different situation so I know what you’re going through with extreme anxiety of what to do and going in to your job the next day etc so I hope you figure it out soon =)

[Silly Sungura]

Mindy, I’m sorry to hear that you’re being treated this way. It sounds like you would be better off emotionally and physically if you go back to your old job. Your current boss is in a high stress position, but it is wrong-headed of her to scream at you, which will likely only cause more tension and errors, not to mention that no one should behave like that regardless of what kind of stress they may be under personally and/or professionally. ((Hugs)) and best wishes.

[IsabellaRobyn]

I would say definitely go back to the old job. While I don’t have any experience of this situation myself I’ve had to watch my mother go through countless jobs as I grew up and watch her slip in and out of extreme depression because she was quite simply not enjoying herself at work. It would always start the same – if she didn’t like how things were dealt with she’d say it was a “challenge” but as time progressed I saw again and again what seemed to me simple cases of adult bullying. Your new boss seems a little like an adult bully to me and your old boss (in offering you a higher job than before) seems to be a very considerate person. Do what is best for your mental health – at the end of the day – that is what matters most. Hope you get your situation all figured out soon and make a decision you know you are happy with! Good luck!

[LBJ10]

Well it is a law firm, so I suppose mistakes would be really bad. I agree that your boss shouldn’t have screamed at you though. If you feel like this job is too stressful, then perhaps it is better you go back to your old job. Being yelled at certainly wouldn’t be worth it for me.

[Roberta]

I concur with everyone else. Take your old job back. I worked in a similar situation years ago and the high blood pressure and resultant depression isn’t worth it. If this woman resorts to screaming and yelling its a sure bet she won’t improve and will always find fault. If she is anything like the psycho fruit loop I worked for eventually she will also make you the scape goat for her own errors and you will never have a win. So quietly pack your desk, give notice and state failure to communicate as a reason for leaving. Politely thank her for the opportunity but you feel it would be mutually beneficial for you to move on.

Oh, and don’t doubt your skills and abilities based on this situation. You could find you handle fine details extremely well when you are not under the scrutiny of someone irrational and unreasonable who is willing to coach you in the tasks required.

[FrankieFlash]

I agree. Sounds like your old job will appreciate you more. The new company you’re working for does NOT sound professional. If you do go back to your old job and you do an exit interview- I would find a way to mention the inappropriate communication (the yelling- it’s BS. You deserve to be treated respectfully and I’m so sorry that has happened to you)

[LoveChaCha]

Take the old job. Your boss is everything, and quite frankly, if your boss keeps yelling at you for mistakes that can be fixed, it isn’t worth being there.

[LittlePuffyTail]

Working for a lawyer = why I’m currently off work due to high stress and anxiety. Life’s too short to be at a stressful, unpleasant job.

[Michelle&Lolli]

The new company you’re working for does NOT sound professional.

I agree. Doesn’t matter if it’s a lawyer’s office or not, this is extremely unprofessional and downright abusive. You need to take care of YOU and if going back to old your old job, at least for the time being, is what you need to do, then do it.

[mindy10]

Thanks everyone,  You have been helpful.  Now Im anxious to go in tomorrow to have to tell her I don’t feel its working out and I want to move on.  Im assuming you still give a two weeks notice.  Thanks again.  Mindy

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