I agree that you should focus on building trust rather than trying to pick her up! Spending time with her is definitely good. I would spend time with her, and only pet her when she wants, forgetting about picking her up for now. If you get more aggressive she will continue to associate you with bad things.
My bun also hates to be picked up, so we just never do it. She is trained to hop in her carrier (she gets a treat), and we use this to get her onto the table for grooming and going to the vet. In a pinch we can also lure her onto a towel, wrap her in a tight hammock, and pick her up this way. The vet showed us the towel technique, it works really well but you have to make sure they are contained so they can’t jump out mid lift and hurt themselves.
In general though, we only pick her up for emergencies and transport, we never do this for practice. This way she trusts us more, since we are usually the source of only food and pets
It might be counter intuitive, but the more she trusts you, the easier it will be to pick her up in the long run.