Help! How do I convince my brother to take me to the vet!?

[georgepetlover]

 Hey! I really need help covencing my family espically my brother that spaying a rabbit is VERY important. I want to get my rabbit spay but no one will take me. When i told them that spaying a rabbit was $155 they ALL triped, and say no were not going to take u to the vet, you can eaily get a new rabbit for $5! >.< I already have the money to get my rabbit spay, but they won't take me to the vet. They don't understand and when I try explaining it they say, "We could always get you a new rabbit!" Which I don't want a new one, I want Lulu to have the BEST care possible. I tell them that it'll be better and healiter for Lulu, but they just don't understand. Please help me out!! How should I convience them? As I cannot drive and I finally have the money to get her spay, and want to do it ASAP. but my family just don't understand.

Please lmk how I should convey them!

[manic_muncher]

I know what you mean. My situation isn’t near as important as yours is, since mine is male, my husband doesn’t consider neutering a priority at all. It’s really unfortunate that your family don’t see Lulu as an important part of your life, worthy of the best care possible. I’m guessing you can’t drive due to your age… if you did manage to get to the vet, would you be able to authorize the surgery to be done or would you need one of them to do it? If you can be the responsible client, what about taking a cab? I know it will be a little bit more money, but at least you would have that option. What about a friend giving you a ride?

[BinkyBunny]

Good for you for saving the money to get your Lulu spayed. Since it looks like the “individual” animal is not important to the rest of the family, then you may have to go another route. YOU are important to your family. As a family, not everyone may agree, but YOU have saved the money for something YOU care about. They don’t have to agree with you but they can respect your feelings and reward your efforts in earning the $$. That’s pretty amazing Georgepetlover and I, myself, am very proud of you for that. That’s not easy to do under your circumstances. Are there things that your family members like, but that you don’t care that much about, but yet because you love your family, you support or help them out? You can try and use that reasoning.

If they still don’t help you, then do you have any friends or extended family that would drive you?

I am so very sorry you are in the predicament. You are doing the best you can for a valuable living being (that can live up to 10 years or more). Some people see rabbits and other small animals and easily disposable/ cheap toys. They are not toys, they are a living thing that deserves care and love and you are doing that for Lulu. Good for you.

Keep us updated. I hope there is a way to get this worked out.

[BinkyBunny]

By the way, my brother is the same way as your brother. I don’t even bother reasoning with him. (Though I don’t live with him and so that makes it easier!). However, when I was younger and we did live in the same house, if I were upset about something he may have thought was silly, he would care about my own feelings not HIS thoughts about what I was upset about. There is that difference. You can feel for someone and support them because you love them, without having to understand or agree with their reasoning. If anything your efforts highlight responsibility — you made a commitment to caring for something (a LIVING creature) and you are sticking to it. That should be respected.

[LittlePuffyTail]

That must be a very frustrating situation and I hope you can use some of BB’s advice. I think just the fact that you saved up the money should be enough to let them know how much you love her. Not every young pet owner would do that.

Explain to them that she’s not replaceable to you. She’s an individual, just like you are to your parents and no other bunny would ever be the same. You love her and you don’t want to lose her to something you can prevent.

[jerseygirl]

It’s fantastic that you’ve saved the money for this.

Do you have other relatives that would be more understanding? See if they would help you convince your family that this is important to you?

Would it help convince them if the cost of the spay was less? There are some places that will do rabbit desexing at a lower cost.

manic-muncher brings up a good point. You will probably need an adult to sign for the operation also.

Do you know her age? You might have some time to keep working on convincing your family. Plus some time for saving some extra dollars. If there are any problem after a spay, the cost of follow-up visits should be covered by the vet or at least a reduced fee. But its a good idea to have some savings aside just in case.

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