Hi and welcome, Widget and Becky!
As Doodles says, it is perfectly normal for a bun to not appreciate being held. Baby bunnies accept being held, but as soon as puberty strikes, 99.9 % or more of buns detest being picked up and held. They have deep instincts that tell them being picked up and held means they’re about to become somebody’s dinner. Some buns can learn to like sitting in your lap and be pet, but only if they get to choose when to hop away.
As for coaxing a bun back to the crate after play time, food works best. If you always feed your bun in his crate, he will be more apt to go back there, because buns really like their food. (He can of course have the odd treat outside of the crate, but his water, hay, greens and pellets should preferably be given in his crate, so he learns that the crate is a really good place to be).
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