heart is breaking

[aerosmithgrl]

well some of you know how my parents are getting a divorce (not talking about that though) until it happens i cannot take my bunny home! and it might not happen until september or longer i can only see my bunny while i stay at the shelter he is in, i spend the night there because the owner is one of my close friends. and although i havent spent much time with him i bonded with him too much to just be able to leave him there.

he is in good hands but… i need to take him home. mom LOVES Nova! absolutly adores him in every way possible. dad however, looks at him and just sees a bunny.

and its not fair

i did buy Nova. he is my bunny but i cant take him home because my dad just says no. but he says no to everything and i dont see how someone can be such a pesamistic jerk all the time. and he just comes up with some bull-poopy reason that he just made up in a matter of seconds.

part of me says that me and mom should just step it up and say “you know what its two against one. we win.” and part of me wants to keep trying to win him over, but thats hard when he wont take part in any conversation he doesnt want to hear. he will litterally tune you out.

keeping in mind that he hasent really taken any interest in what i am proud of in any way lately (show him a painting and he shrugs, play in my band concert he doesnt even go, show him the bunny i am so proud to have when they picked me up at the shelter. he wont look at it and says “yep… its a bunny…”

what do i do? i cant live without my not-so-little black silky love machine any longer! i am about to explode, and thats a mess that no one wants to clean up.

[aerosmithgrl]

i guess what i am asking is, how do i approach this? what can i use to win my father over, i cant just flop the rabbit into his lap because i cant even take the rabbit home. otherwise flopping the rabbit into his lap would probably work…

[TaraMichele]

 I know how difficult divorce can be.. and I know how hard it is when both parents are in the same house…have you tried having a conversation with your father (non-bunny related) to basically tell him how you feel and no matter what happens between your mother and him you are still his daughter?  my father went through a period where he was very stand offish until we had a huge blow out that kind of made him realize how horrible he had been towards me… sometimes parents need a wake up call….

[aerosmithgrl]

well the thing is, mom is leaving dad. and he doesnt even know it yet because she cant tell him until she is 100% ready to leave. because we dont know at all how he will react, and im actually scared to think about his reaction. and every time we have a talk that is somewhat serious he turns any problem i am trying to resolve around and it becomes MY fault, this girl at school almost physically attacked me and he said it was MY fault (how could it be it was started with lies and rumors, i never would fight and he doesnt realise it).
i dont know what to think, all i know is i wish i could tie him up and force him to listen to me. it looks like i loose either way, there is no winning when you have a dictator who runs the house like the old king of france, completly ignorant of the suffering around him.

[kralspace]

I know it’s hard aerosmithgrl, but think seriously about not taking him home right now. Not to sound mean, but when he finds out your mom’s plans he’s liable to take it out on what you love, and it wouldn’t be hard to harm a bunny, even by just frightening it. Talking like an old mom here, I’d leave him in his safe place until you’re able to protect him. (((((hugs)))))) Kathy

[aerosmithgrl]

i highly doubt he would take it out on an animal. the whole point of me looking into an bunny was to find something that would love unconditionally and let me cuddle it and it wouldnt talk back or scoff at my feelings. i have dogs and guinea pigs but the guinea pigs always pee on me when i keep them out for long periods of time and they dont seem to understand as much as my rabbit does, and the dogs cant focus on anything for long enough to make me feel better, then along comes this rabbit. and he snuggles you for ever and he will pin you down if you get up. he is a dream!

and i need that right now… i understand your concern. but i would be more worried about my boy dog who adores my dad and constantly scratches and annoys him. my dad wouldnt go out of his way to take my bunny out of my room (Nova will have the whole house when me and mom leave) and do harm to it.

[TaraMichele]

what has your mother said?

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Just a worry-if mom isn’t telling dad about the divorce yet, are you careful to clear your internet browsing history?? You wouldn’t want him finding out like this *hugs*

I think the only way to win over a dad is to behave, talk to them (they love that…) and do the pretty please can I have this kid face You may have to wait. It’s life sometimes we can’t have what we want and you do have something good that your friend is the shelter owner and Nova is yours and not going anywhere.

I haven’t met you before on here-so Welcome!!!

[aerosmithgrl]

i have actually been on here for a while, i just dont have my bunny yet so i cant take part in manny conversations or post pictures or have any fun *pouts*

oh he doesnt use the computer, he is one of the (not to offend anybody) 50 year olds who are completly technophobic besides that i am ALWAYS on the computer so he cant ever get on it hehe.

Tara what about? she said that i can keep my bunny (she loves him to bits) all she worries about are bunny poos all over the house, but i have an older dog and i know that rabbit poo is good for them so i will just let her have them for a bit of extra vitamin.and Nova only really poops in his box, such a good boy gosh i miss him so much <3 she LOVES my boy guinea pig and i always find her snuggling on him in my room me and my mom are so close i swear we could be sisters. so its no big deal for her to have my bunny, until i move out for collage cause then i am taking him with 100% sure about that!

oh and i doesnt matter WHAT face i put on or what i say, when he says no there is no changing it. even if he says no before i can even prove that its a good idea. wonder why we are leaving lol

[aerosmithgrl]

speeking of my old dog, she is scratching herself in her sleep

[TaraMichele]

 Have you had your mother speak to your father about the rabbit?  maybe she just needs to stand up to him…I understand this isnt always possible but if she sees how much this is affecting you maybe its possible for her to get through to him…also I know how difficult it is living in a split home where communication is impossible can be but hopefully theres some way to get through to him…maybe eve write him a detailed note.  when I went through this I wrote a 4 page letter to my father trying to convince him I am his only daughter and he is my only father and I dont want our relationship ruined because of what goes on between my mom and him, sometimes writing is stronger and you can express exactly how you feel. 

[aerosmithgrl]

i wrote him one note, i even doodled a really cute bunny on it. he never even made a movement to let me know that he saw it (even though it was taped to his pillow O.o) and i can ask my mom to talk to him again but we are both tip toeing around him sence he decided not to talk to us for a week. i talked to the owner of the shelter he is in, we havent spoken for a while because someone turned her into the DNR *rolls eyes* i hate people who live to eff everythig up for other people. but its alright now she got it all figured out. sence im on summer vacation i can go over there a lot more often for like a week if i wanted to

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