have you ever thought of returning or returned an adopted 2nd bunny??

[stinkybinky]

I just adopted a rabbit today and am already faced with tons of issues, because my mom suddenly disapproved when I brought her home (told her weeks ahead of time and even made space, etc) and is now trying to take control of my rabbits. AND moved them into a room where I don’t want them to be. She used to have rabbits of her own but honestly she does not know how to care for them properly, she thinks they belong outside. I know its not about me and my mom and about the rabbits but I was wondering what happened with your situations and if you ended up returning the rabbit if you were faced with being unable to handle a second or how you solved it??  I am shameful to admit that there is a possibility, even thouugh it is day one, I am just unhappy with what I have to offer her because we are having a space/trust issue with my mom and I now I am currently re-doing my bedroom because I will be moving Binksy (my first rabbit) to my bedroom and hope to move the new rabbit Belle too but I honestly don’t think she’ll fit (she is mature and would need more space, plus right now I am not bonding them) and not sure if I can provide for two anymore regarding space, now that there is a conflict in the house. II feel guilty and overwhelmed right now. I feel guilty because Binksy is going to sacrifice alot and also because Belle is so sweet and cuddly and I want her but of course its day one and I haven’t even give her the chance to show her full potential!!   Needd some helpful feedback..

[Elrohwen]

I very seriously considered returning Hannah, but for very different reasons. When I got her she was hyper and destructive (at least in her cage) and she just seemed like too much bunny for me to handle. I felt like I was losing my quiet and lovely life with Otto. I’m extremely glad I kept her because I love her to death now, but it can be hard when you’re so attached to your first pet.

I wasn’t really in your situation, so I’m not sure I have much advice. My only advice would be to keep her for at least a week or two. Maybe let the rescue know what you’re feeling, but really give her a chance. Some of the members here can tell you how freaked out I was for the first couple of days, but after a week i was committed to her.

[Stickerbunny]

Unfortunately when you are living with your parents you have to respect their rules – no matter how silly they are! Just out of curiosity why does your mother not like where you two agreed upon in the first place? Smell? Space? Some problems can be fixed….

I would say do what you feel is right for the rabbits and yourself and don’t beat yourself up about it – if you explained what you were doing to your mom and she approved and then disapproved when you adopted the bun… it’s not your fault. :s

[stinkybinky]

Thanks Elrohwen. I feel alot better..I will let them know there there is a possibility Belle might be returned (though everyone loves her in the house so far, she is a lot different fromBinksy who is off on his own) , I feel very bad about disappointing the rescue . But right now the situation is not so bad, long-term wise I am trying to come up with a back up plan by re-doing my room…it really sucks I can’t put them in a big cage together but oh well.

[stinkybinky]

Posted By Stickerbunny on 07/11/2011 07:02 PM
Unfortunately when you are living with your parents you have to respect their rules – no matter how silly they are! Just out of curiosity why does your mother not like where you two agreed upon in the first place? Smell? Space? Some problems can be fixed….

I would say do what you feel is right for the rabbits and yourself and don’t beat yourself up about it – if you explained what you were doing to your mom and she approved and then disapproved when you adopted the bun… it’s not your fault. :s

 

My mom says its inappropriate where I am keeping them now (she said she is embarassed when visitors come [we never have visitors come in the kitcnen either] and that she can’t stand the smell] and wants to keep them in this room next to the laundry room. We are currently cleaning it up and will add fans. IT HAS no ventiliation and who knows what’s in there, I bet that rats hang out there and stuff. I hate that room but I’ll deal with it for now because I currently am not in school…but when I am I am afraid that they will get a heatstroke because my mom is so nonchalent with the rabbits health. I kept Binksy in the AC area and cool area, but that room has no ventiliation and I don’t feel it it is safe. I heard today when I was driving home that my dad is coming back, and yeah he hasn’t lived with us for years so there’s another issue. He would insist the rabbits be outside and that’ll add more pressures.edit* the room doesn’t have electricity either!

[KatnipCrzy]

Why are you not considering bonding and eventually being able to house them together?

[stinkybinky]

^ well, I am not sure how long it will take to bond them and I rather think it will take very long so I will be ready for the challenge lol.. Binksy is soon to be neutered so I am going to wait till he is neutered also. I contacted the rescue place, and the foster mom will leave a space open for Belle. For now the situation is better, and I am going to try my best to keep Belle. After I contacted the rescue place, my mom calmed down so hopefully she will not try to move my rabbits around. Now, we moved them to a room nxt to the laundry. Its not the best but I think its average or good enough (will post photos if requested). The situation is a lot calmer ‘right now’, I feel a bit relieved and I have come up with a back up plan for the long-term, which is my bedroom. Sending her back would be the last resort. I think the main problem is that I want to offer them the best habitat possible but right now Its jst average.
When Binsky was alone I felt like I could offer him a better habitat though that’s why .. I realized that Belle is so well behaved and her foster mom says she is 99% litter trained, so I am looking forward to her being litter trained so I can allow her to be free ranging, so that will be a huge weight off me feeling guilty. Not too fair for Binksy, but he will just have to deal with the confined area till he is litter trained T_T .

[Beka27]

It is really hard to have two unbonded rabbits when space is an issue. This will effect their exercise time since they either need separate areas or they have to be let out one at a time. Reading your thread here, I would lean more towards taking her back to the rescue. It’s very easy to become overwhelmed and it sounds like this just isn’t something that’s in the best interests of everyone living in the house. Binksy is still young, so when you’re out on your own you can always look into adopting another if you want, or he can live a very fulfilling life with you as his companion. I would rather see you make this decision now after one or two days, rather than have to make it in 3 or 6 months when it would be much harder to say good-bye.

[Kate Monster]

When you say that you’re returning to school, is that high school or college?

[jerseygirl]

I know it would be heart breaking for you but if things at home are still troublesome, it would be better she go back now rather then later. Especially if she can go to the foster home again. It would be better for her not to get settled with you then have to go at a later time.

 It does sound as if things are a bit unstable at home and you might not be able to look after both the way you want to. I would just talk to the rescue or foster carer and discuss it. It doesn’t mean she can never be your bunny. You can always let them know you are very interested and think she would do well in your home but that the timing right now is not the best. You could let them know you want to get your male neutered and an appropriate habitat set up (after you negotiate/twist Mums arm ) before you could bring her home permanently.

Do they have a sponsor program for there rabbits? If you did return Belle, would becoming her sponsor make you feel better about it?
((Hugs)) I’m sorry you’re in this difficult situation.
 

[Lintini]

I understand what you mean with having parents that don’t see your rabbits the same way as you. My dad will have nothing to do with them and complains about them constantly

I did make a decesion this summer to move my trio Bagheera, Lion and Velvet out into the aviary which is basically a little house we have out back. I didn’t want to have my rabbits out there because of raccoons but I arranged with my mom to have them in the double doored part so there is no way anything could harm them unless a grenade went off in my backyard. I am so much happier in my bedroom now with 3 rabbits than 6 …and the trio is SUPER happy with all their new room to bink around and play. I was really stressed out by the constant mess and constant cleaning to keep my parents happy, and for my own well being.

Just relax, don’t stress and see how things go and try to make the best out of your situation. Whatever you decide. I hope your dad accepts your rabbits and doesn’t stress you out more.

Binksy (very cute name btw) should do better with his litter training once he is neutered. One step at a time! Hang in there!

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