I’ve had my rabbit (angora, so loooooong fur) for three years…she still hates to be groomed with a passion. I find that (when she’s done getting groomed) after I give her some treats she’s usually okay with me after, she doesn’t hold a grudge for TOO long.
As long as you’re gentle with her, you shouldn’t hurt her. I groom my rabbit on the floor to prevent her from jumping away and getting hurt. Also if there’s a specific spot that is your rabbit’s “space”, respect it. I never remove/touch my rabbit, Moxie, when she’s in the cage attached to her x-pen (of course there are situations, like an emergency, when I would remove her). That’s her “safe zone”.
As for nail trimming, if her nails are dark and you can’t see the quick, there are the “press-press-clip” methods, and using a flashlight.
Also, it helps (in Moxie’s case at least) to give treats/pellets throughout the grooming session, and after. Also, try to make them quick, and not drag out too long.
