dysfunctional family relations?

[angie-la]

so my cousin is getting married this weekend, and I’ve been informed that ALL of my aunties, uncles, cousins, etc, wil lbe in attendance. my extended family is huge, and we’re all separated and scattered around the U.S. I feel that my parents and I have always been the black sheep of the family– we settled in the bay area, we’re nowhere near as wealthy as my other family members are, and we are definitely NOT as conservative as they are. I just recently graduated from college, which I’m sure came as a shock to most of them. All of my cousins go to ivy leagues, etc, but I attended a California state university [something I’m sure they don’t look so highly upon].

so despite the fact I have tons of clothes in my closet, I found myself scrambling around to buy a complete new outfit and get my facial and nails done for this wedding. I have a boyfriend that I hella love, and I’m definitely not trying to impress any guys at the wedding. for some reason, I feel like I need to impress my family? haha. is this weird? am I crazy? does anyone else have a crazy and judgemental extended family like I do that makes me do weird stuff like this? 

[LBJ10]

I don’t really have any family aside from my parents and my brother. My husband’s cousin, on the other hand, is sort of like this though. She is extremely nosy, asking questions that really are not her business. She will make rude comments that sometimes come off as degrading. For example, she asked me when I was an undergraduate what I was studying. I told her and she responded by saying “Oh, you’ll top out only at (insert dollar amount here) with that degree”. I don’t find myself trying to dress to impress with her, but I do try to arm myself with some great thing I did just in case she tries to poke around.

[Michelle&Lolli]

I don’t have weird family stuff like this but it did bring something to mind that never really occurred to me before.

I have an uncle who’s a lawyer. But he and my aunt are down to earth despite having money. I mean, it’s like a non-issue to them that the rest of the family isn’t in their “tax bracket” so to speak. Yet I think the rest of the family maybe tends to dress up a bit more when going to their house for any family get togethers. And I think it’s just because we know that they will look like they’re dressed more expensive. It’s not that they dress in all brand names or trying to flaunt their wealth. But they definitely don’t clothes shop at walmart, ya know? lol I know for myself, I tend to dress up more because I know how they will be dressed. Does any of that make sense?

And I have 2 family weddings this summer and I am trying hard to talk myself out of buying a new dress. Cause I don’t really need to. But it’s an EVENT. I could buy a new dress for it. But I have dresses I’ve never worn. And so my thoughts go……..lol

[Lintini]

Muhahaha, Bay Area represent with “hella” !!!

My family treats me like I’m 12 when I’m 24. I completely understand.

[angie-la]

yeah, usually I dress in $15 jeans, wifebeaters, and zip up hoodies. but my extended family all dress nice, obviously, and when they give compliments to girls it’s always, “oh you’re so pretty! etc etc” [even when I’m well in my 20’s. haha]

ps @Lintini yeeeee! haha.

[LoveChaCha]

I wear semi decent clothes. I don’t like shopping at name brand stores because I feel it is a waste of money. I just don’t see myself wasting money on something I could have bought like a kajillion things with!!!!!!

I really don’t know what to say, but I do understand that mentality and it is really not cool In Hawaii, we call it “High Makamaka.” Basically people that think they’re better than everyone just because they have better things, better education, etc.

[Lintini]

Ah I wear those too, nothing better than a sports bra with a wifebeater. I totally snag my brother’s tanks all the time haha!! Infact…that’s what I have on now! I used to wear them all the time when I did drum corps over the summer. It’s too dang hot in the midwest to not wear something like that.

JC penny’s at the Newpark mall had a wicked sale…all their arizona jeans in the jr’s department were 13$ ….it was AMAZING. I bought 5 pairs haha. I didn’t need that many but…dang! Who can resist that sale right? You should check out online, the american eagle clearance section. Good stuff in there! http://www.ae.com

ALL of my family right now are completely disappointed in me about my drama with my x so….guhh it sucks so much to be judged constantly. Like ooooo do you have straight A’s??? OooOo is your bf handsome?? Ooooo is he good enough for you? no. no one is good enough blah blah blah blah….omg…… *screams*

[peppypoo]

Angie-la, I totally know what you mean…kinda hard to describe, but you just wanna put on your best face and show that you’re attractive, successful, etc. Of course it’s present to some extent in all cultures, but I have a feeling it’s particularly strong in Asian families. Chin up, be confident, and don’t let them bother you! 

Not bay area here, but Asian represent?

[longhairmike]

i’m partial to the $5 cotton sweatpants, sweathirts, and shorts at target.. they go well with tshirts with metal bands and video game characters.
it has done an amazing job at keeping the golddiggers away. and when you finally wear holes in them, they get handed down to be bunny blankets

[LBJ10]

For some reason, that episode of American Dad wants to pop in my head. You know, where Stan invites his half-brother over for Thanksgiving to show the kids how good they have it. Then he finds out that his half-brother is actually rich and he brings his family over to Stan’s house for Thanksgiving to show his kids how good they have it. Haha!

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Ahhh there are no Cleaver’s. I disagree that there is any perfect family. And if there is-adopt me?

LOL

Show up, stun them, have fun and let it be Family is family…ya gotta love ’em…or you know…try?

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