Hi Zoe
The surgeries are a little nerve wracking, but they’ll be fine. A lot of females tend to wear cones after the spay because the procedure is more invasive than a neuter is, so the cone is protecting the site in the event that she chews or licks at her stitches. If she doesn’t wear a cone, you will have to constantly monitor her so she doesn’t aggravate her site.
As for care after the surgeries, you will want to restrict their space while they are healing so they do not accidentally open their sites mid-binky or jumping, one week for the male, and two weeks for the female. Check their incision sites at least twice a day, if not three times to monitor for infection. Make sure that your vet sends you home with pain meds, especially for your female. If they are in a lot of pain they will be lethargic, won’t want to eat, and could slip into stasis. If they aren’t already, they need to be kept separated for 2 months to let hormones drain and let their sites heal, as well as because there is a chance that your male can still get your female pregnant for up to one month after the surgery. Lastly, the first few days you will really want to monitor them. Make sure they are eating, drinking, and pooping. If not, force feed Critical Care of pellet mash and take them to the vet to get everything checked out. They will be pretty pooped out the first day or two and will probably want to sleep the majority of the day.
The most important thing is to just be there for them. Love them, pet them, give them lots of attention if they’d like. Good luck 