A Sensitive Question

[bullrider76543]

Sorry if this is long…
Now I need to ask a little advice on a very sensitive subject. My Son Billy’s girlfriend’s bunny crossed the rainbow bridge last night. 🙁 She was completely destroyed, Snickers was a flemmie mix and was 2 years old. Well the problem is that they have the girls uncle and little boy staying with them for a little bit. and her mom had to go to the ER yesterday with heart issues (a continuing problem) and when they got back found Snickers on her side passed. I examined her bun to find that the poor thing had its neck broken and windpipe crushed. I talked to her mom (not wanting to tell the gf) to tell her and she said that the guest and his 3 year old were at the house but Snickers was in her cage. We came to the conclusion that the 3 year old wasn’t being watched by his dad and probobly was trying to drag Snickers out by her head as he has attempted a few times now. And now there is a huge fight going on because she is blaming her brother for Snickers dying for not watching his kid! I totally agree its his fault, but I am more concerned with Billy’s gf who found out and is totally inconsolable. I don;t know what to say to her to even begin to help, and didn’t want to start anything, but I was a medic for 10 years and know basic medical examination. should I have kept my mouth shut?
 

[NewBunnyOwner123]

I would have told the mother just for future purposes to not allow them to watch any other bunnies in the future. But would have left the little girl out so she wouldn’t know

[Sam and Lady's Human]

Oh how heartbreaking for her! I have no advice, its going to take her time to grieve this horrible accident.

[bullrider76543]

I tried that, it was her mom yelling how she found out and Billy’s gf is 17 so I am sure she would have found out one way or another. it was the bulging eyes and perticeal hemorrhaging that gave it away before even feeling Snickers neck.

[LBJ10]

I think you did the right thing. They deserved to know what happened. And as NBO said, they will now know not to let them watch any future rabbits.

[Stickerbunny]

They deserved to know, keeping your mouth shut might have just caused further incidents in the future if the kid was continued to be allowed unsupervised around animals.

[tanlover14]

How absolutely horrible. Such a tragic situation.

I really have no advice but I’m pretty sure personally I would have told the mother. It’s her decision whether or not to tell her child so I don’t think you did anything wrong, BullRider. The mother should definitely know though. If they have other pets in the house (or decide to get one in the future) they need to be made aware of the situation to stop this from ever happening again.

Binky Free, Snickers! <3

[Amys Animals]

Oh my, I am sooooo sorry that has happened. I have no advice, really but you did the right thing by telling them what happened. This is so tragic.

Binky free, Snickers!

[AnnaW]

You did the right thing, Binky free Snickers.xxx

[Bam]

I agree, you did the right thing. The mother has a right to know, in my opinion. What she chose to do with the information you gave her is not really your responsibility, she’s an adult. It’s very sad though. I so hope Snickers passed quickly.

[LittlePuffyTail]

This makes me so sad. My dearest sympathies to the Bunny Mommy. How awful. Please tell her we are thinking about her.

((((((Binky Free Snickers))))))

[jerseygirl]

I feel so sad for your sons GF. This must be very hard for her to deal with.

I agree with the other members, I think you did the right thing informing her mother. What was done with that information after was out of your hands.
It’s obviously a stressful time for this family at the moment.

Having lost one of your own bunny family members before, your own family’s empathy will help the girlfriend I feel.

***Binky Free Snickers***

[bullrider76543]

Thank you all for your help and advice. its been a rough day and after Billy’s gf went with her mom for a little while out Billy and I kept ourselves busy building a new rabbit run for our buns. As long as I am keeping busy I am not thinking about it, I even lost it after burring her balling my eyes out. and Billy’s gf was a good bunny mommy she was always asking for advice and took good care of Sinckers. my only comfort is that Snickers cant hurt anymore and is over the bridge with all the other wonderful buns that have left us. again Thank you all so much!!

[Eucalyptus]

You did the right thing. Honestly, I think the truth is important and should be known. I would want to know. For one thing, she might have been blaming herself for the death, thinking she did something wrong or didn’t provide something and it was her fault. At least she can know why and how it happened, even if it’s not the easiest thing to hear.

On top of that, this “guest” should be told the truth so that he can realize how irresponsible he was with his 3 year old. Many kids don’t understand how to be gentle with animals. If your kid can’t be gentle, you need to supervise them, ESPECIALLY if it’s not your pet. Even if you think they understand, at that young age, you should still be more responsible. What happened is absolutely inexcusable.

Sorry, but this story makes me so upset. I just feel so bad for the bunny … it didn’t even have a chance in that situation.

[Hazel]

How awful, I’m so sorry this happened.

Considering the injuries, it sounds like Snickers got stepped on. If I understood correctly, she was found dead, in her cage? Unless it’s an x-pen or something where the kid could have actually walked inside the enclosure, it seems like somebody must have put her back, after it happened. I hope the father wasn’t trying to cover this up.

Binky free, Snickers.

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