Hello all,

I had previously posted about my then 10 month old (and 2 mos after spay) Netherland dwarf hotot, Sugar, reacting horribly when I brought a 4 month old male home with plans to neuter a few days after he arrived. Even though he was several feet away and she couldn’t see him, she became extremely aggressive and even bit me, which she had never done before, or since. I took him back to the breeder within 24 hours and exchanged him for a 4.5 month old lilac Nethie, who we named Shade, and now, after about 9 weeks, they are happily bonded! They never fought at all. Thank you to all who have shared their bonding stories, because your advice was invaluable as I researched bonding techniques. Here’s what worked for us:

Week 1 – brought him home, housed him in a large cage 8 feet away, pet him thoroughly, and presented my hand to Sugar. She sniffed for a few seconds and then went back to eating her hay, which I took as an excellent sign. He was neutered 2 days later.

Week 2 – Shade had healed well from his neuter, so I moved him into the other half of her ex-pen (which is usually 8×10 feet but divided in half), but placed cardboard and blankets between the pens so they couldn’t see each other. Territorial marking ensued on her side.

Week 3 & 4 – swapped litter boxes and removed visual barriers. I placed a sheet of green garden wire between the pens so they could sniff but not touch each other, so pens were about half an inch apart

Week 5, 6, 7 – swapped bunnies. Sugar developed GI stasis in the middle of this and spent a day at the vet’s and 2 nights in the care of our local shelter owner because I had to leave town. I resumed swapping litter boxes the day after she got back, and swapping bunnies once she was pooping normally.

Week 8 – began dates – I did a combination of stress-bonding and smushing then together, followed by time for them to get to know each other. First date was 7 min in a box in the dryer, then 7 min in bathtub. He flopped next to her within 2-3 min in both locations. Next day was 30 min in bathtub, and she groomed him! I then did five 2-3 hr dates daily depending on when I got home from work, most of which involved then eating together in the litter box and Sugar presenting her head for grooming, then Shade basically flopping on top of her head. LOL (They figured it out, eventually – I’ve seen both of them grooming each other.) We did have one incident of chasing in my room and she started looking aggressive, and I took them for a car ride afterward, and they ended on a positive note. After a 7 hour bathtub date, I moved them into the cage in their room (semi-neutral) for 12-hr daytime dates while I was at work. I put them back into their pens at night, but kept swapping pens. After 4 days of this, I left them in the cage for 24 hrs, and every time I checked on them, they were snuggling or eating together in the litter box. I cleaned her half of the pen, threw out all of their toys and hidey houses, and moved them there for their first overnight in their territory. I checked on them regularly and found a few tufts of hair in the morning, but none since.

Week 9 – after 6 days in half of the pen, I removed the central barrier, and they’re happily enjoying their new space! They have one litter box, 2 food and water bowls, and new toys, and she is still enjoying my company and grooming me. He is curious about me and will let me pet him, but tends to run when I first show up, probably as a result of all the picking him up and freaking him out during bonding. We’ll get there, but overall, I’m thrilled!