First, I wonder if she is spayed. If not, a lot of her “aggression” may be coming from hormonal-mediated territorialness which not only would react to you and your husband, but also to the scent of other rabbits (which you and your husband likely smell of, considering how good rabbits are at smelling).
While it appears she “doesn’t mind being held and loved”, I would pull back on doing it. There’s a chance that her not minding it is actually just her understanding that struggling while being held is dangerous for her, since she’s above ground and could fall as a result. Anxious rabbits can react as “flail-ers” or “freezers” when held.
It sounds like there’s a strong negative association with reaching hands (which is unfortunately common, considering some conditions rabbits go through as a child’s pet and/or being kept in a cage). Thankfully, learning principles tell us that it’s possible to weaken this association as long as you don’t provide reinforcing feedback for it– picking her up, which is unpleasant for her (considering she’s running from you) is going to reinforce the idea that hands are bad, so I’d stick to some passive presence first. This includes having your hand near her, but not wanting to do anything with her.
Also, keep in mind that human bodies are very confusing for rabbits, so especially with a rabbit who has such a negative reaction to human touch, keep in mind that she can’t read your intentions and none of our body parts (e.g., feet, hands) look like rabbits so she can’t pick up any signals on what they want from her. The ideal would be more exposure to you and your body without interaction will extinguish the negative reaction she has to them, and then you can transition into more directed interactions paired with treats.
For additional information on “aggressive” rabbits, see here: https://wabbitwiki.com/wiki/Aggressive_rabbits
The answers provided in this discussion are for general guideline purposes only. The information is not intended to diagnose or treat your pet. Seek the advice of your veterinarian or a qualified behaviorist.