I’m emotional!

[Denise12]

 

I’ve been so emotional about Buster lately. I feel horrible that she’s all alone with no other bun, and alone during the day and doesn’t have a bunny friend.  I want to get her a friend one day, I just can’t right now in my one bedroom apt. My husband and I love her so much and I just feel bad that she doesnt have a bunny friend.  He thinks i’m crazy i’m sure.  I’m also having anxiety about leaving her at the vet and getting her fixed next month. I’m so sad/scared that she’s going to be so scared. She’s only been out of the house once to the vet, and she hated it.  I’m also thinking about when the worst happens how horrible its going to be. I mean I should have her for 7-10 years, but that just doesnt seem long enough.   Why am i thinking about this? So sad. Sorry to have a sad post in here. She’s 6 months old and I know I have to enjoy her now but I keep reading posts about buns dying and I start crying, I can’t think about it .

 

[Sarita]

Oh goodness! First of all, try not to project your emotions on Buster…really, she is not alone – she has you and your husband. She’s fine and many rabbits are just fine by themselves…really, they are! I imagine anyway that she is sleeping all day – my rabbits do. You are right to consider that you are not yet in a position (housing wise) to get her a friend at this time.

Also, yes, she will be scared at the vets – I don’t know of many animals that love having their routine changed by going to the vet. But you have to leave her so they can do the procedure. I have to drop all my rabbits off at the vets when they need treatment rather than do an appointment – no I don’t like it, but really it’s better on the vet office in my opinion – they can take their time, evaluate, make notes, etc…

[Denise12]

Thanks Sarita….I don’t think I project my emotions on her. I just kiss her and pet her so much!
I’m sure she’s fine alone, i’m just being a crazy bunny mama.

[corpathina]

awww, don’t dwell on it! i got really upset when i had to bring MJ to get neutered, but he was absolutely fine afterward. i think we work ourselves up more than our pets do, sometimes. it’s really hard for us to clearly see things from their perspectives. we think they’ll be terrified or lonely, but we really can’t imagine what they actually feel. even if they’re not happy for a little while, i think they get over it pretty quickly.

don’t think about the worst right now! of course we all know that we can’t keep our pets forever, but the joy is definitely worth the pain.

try to focus on how happy she seems to be. don’t forget to give yourself a little credit for happy you make her! =)

[Elrohwen]

Aww, it’s ok to feel like that sometimes! We all worry about our fur babies.

I’ll tell you that she is definitely sleeping all day. I used to be out of the house for 10 hours at a time, but now I’m home all day and guess what – my bun sleeps! Haha. I was looking forward to being home with him, but he doesn’t even care that I’m here 😛 So don’t worry about her while you’re gone. I’m sure she’d like a bunny friend at some point, but I’m also sure she’s perfectly happy with her human companions especially since is sounds like she’s very spoiled and gets a lot of attention.

I’m also sure she hates the vet, but all animals do (and little kids do as well). She won’t like it, but she’ll be ok – she’ll probably forget about it before you do 😉

[Denise12]

Thanks everyone…you made me feel better

[bunnytowne]

have u read any of the bonding posts?      that would scare me off from putting buns together   lol

i have 2 and cotton thinks i am all his       he got so jealous of ruby when they were together         long story short   i came home to a cotton with a bloody lip          that ended that          they live seperated.   

I guess ruby  wanted a divorce and bit his lip lol.

[skunklionshow]

BT:  That’s what you get for trying to bond a PRINCESS!!!  That should have been your first sign that she wasn’t going to tolerate any rabbit’s crap

I think we all get wrapped up in feeling scared, sad, whatever for our pets.  This often comes from our own feelings towards ourselves/ our lives.  Are you feeling anxious? depressed? lonely?  Sorry I won’t psychopathologize anymore.

As someone who just lost a rabbit 1 week ago (I miss him very much) and providing hospice for my cat w/ just diagnosed intestinal cancer (he’s expected to not last more than 1 month)….in my heart I believe that pet’s have short life expectancies so that we humans can share our lives w/ so many more animals.  Just think, if your rabbit lived for the next 50 yrs, you wouldn’t have the opportunity to share your love w/ some bunny else that deserves and needs some love.  Just my thought that keeps me sharing my life w/ animals.  I’m currently trying to teach this philosophy to DH.

[Denise12]

All of the above skunklion. That is really really some amazing wisdom. I guess we have to welcome the opportunity to share our lives w/lots of animals. Thank you.

[jerseygirl]

I think we think about when they go to help prepare ourselves a bit. I’ve done this too Denise, and I’m amazed at how attached I am to my rabbits. I also believe rabbits really live in the moment. Being a pretty hihgh strung animal, can you imagine how stressed they’d be if thinking about future concerns all the time. Living in the moment is the only way for them. So Buster will be confused and scared initially at the vet but then she’ll have a medicated sleep, awake groggy and hopefully feel hungry and go looking for food. She’ll be surrounded by calm people looking after her needs, then she’ll go home to her familiar space and a doting parent. She respond well to this I’m sure.
A member here had a vet that walked thru the entire spay/neuter process and aftercare and found that helped alot in relieving thier anxiety. Is that something perhap your clinic can do?

[Beka27]

Everyone had great, insightful thoughts. Spaying is going to be just one step in your life with Buster. It is precise and calculated and should go off without a hitch. And it’s much better to do that now, than have to take a large risk and deal with cancer in a few years. Cancer is not calculated and precise. Anything can happen, even with the best care. Of course, you know this.

I am also one of those people who has a mind that wanders to “the last moment”. I try not to do it, but it’s hard sometimes. Especially when you read the sadder posts on this site. I usually try to only visit the “support” section once a week if I can help it. I express my sadness and post my condolences and then I move on to happier subjects. I don’t mean for that to sound insensitive, but I know if I dwell on it too long, it will put me in a funk.

As far as getting her a friend, you don’t have to rush that. We had Meadow for a year before we adopted Max and I loved having that special one on one time with her. And I never thought she was lonely or craved attention. If anything, we doted on her and spoiled her rotten. There are rabbits on this site who do not have bonded mates and they are just as happy being with their people.

[RabbitPam]

Everyone has pretty much said what I was thinking of replying already. They have made some very valid points. You sound like some other things are bothering you and it’s focused on your bunny. We often are anthropomorphizing our pets when we are feeling emotional, but it’s actually really fascinating to learn about how they really feel and react. Check out the Language of Lagamorphs for some really interesting facts about how bunnies communicate how they feel.

The forum leaders read many of the sad and troubled posts and it can wear you down with the troubles you want to help. It’s just because people post first with questions and needs, and not as much with the happier stuff. That’s why I always check out the Lounge, because it’s where we can go to enjoy our bunnies with pictures and silly stories. I would read up on the speutering info. to feel better – knowledge is helpful – and pay some attention to your own feelings. Somethings going on. Your bunny will feel much better after being speutered. Also, they really DO nap all day. Not lonely at all!

[vaderslave]

Lol my bun would prefer I leave him alone all day instead of all that annoying petting and snuggling crap I put him through Luckily, he doesn’t seem to mind travelling or meeting new people or going to the vet. You guys all talk about your high strung rabbits, he makes me feel lucky But one thing I have learned, animals rarely dwell. They get over stuff really easily; they’re very forgive and forget. So what may seem like a big deal to us humans is most likely forgotten within 5 minutes; we’re the ones that are dwelling lol.

[KatnipCrzy]

At least you know that if you do decide to get her a friend after she is spayed to adopt a rescue that is already spayed or neutered!  It takes a huge load of worry off your mind to know it is already done, they did fine, are ready for a home, and most likely old enough to judge personality. Plus then you can do bunny dating!

[lwayne]

Denise12, I feel the same way: you are not alone. I feel bad that my bunny Arduina is home for 12h a day some days and some evenings we are off being busy humans. But my S.O. and I already agreed on one bunny and I don’t think I have the time/money to care for two. It is hard on this forum with everyone and there zillion bunnies! [post more cute bunny pictures everyone!]

[Denise12]

Thanks everyone. I do check out “The Lounge” first now You’ve really helped me!

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