I wouldn’t characterize her behaviors as aggressive or dominant — they actually sound like normal rabbit behavior. Instinctively, rabbits are going to be chewers– their teeth are constantly growing, so it is an imperative on their end to use a lot of energy to keep their mouths occupied. Unfortunately, yes, this is very frustrating to us owners, but remember that a destructive rabbit is not necessarily an aggressive or dominating one at all. It sounds like your rabbit has a lot of energy and some trial, error, and time is needed to figure out how you can provide ways for her to release her energy that satisfies you both. Perhaps your rabbit from childhood was a more “mellow” rabbit, but what you’re reporting now is actually what I generally expect from rabbits!
Re: pen rattling/shaking, putting a cover on the outside of the pen can help, as it makes it seem like a wall (so it’s not productive for the rabbit to shake, since there’s “nothing” on the other side):
It may be that you need to revise how she is being kept, whether it be re-arrange your living space so there’s a large space (2 or more xpens) that she has to herself that is rabbit proofed, or you continue the free-roam and put more rabbit-proofing measures up. There are other options in between– again, trial and error.
One of my rabbits, Fable, is also a more energetic rabbit who routinely has spikes daily where she needs to dig and chew. At this point, she has learned where to go and what to do during those times. I have lots of cardboard cat scratchers on hand. Some lay down in “hot spots” of hers, while others are in a pile on the floor that she visits. Notably, she will get the most energy out when I actually “play with” her, which means I hold the cat scratcher so she can tear and dig it apart without it ripping. I have found this concept of “anchoring” chew toys/objects successful with rabbits who are particularly inclined to carpet chew or baseboard chew– I imagine there is something more satisfying with chewing something that doesn’t move so they can really get into it!
If she is getting on the couch to chew on it, you need to prevent her or teach her she’s not allowed on the couch. I say prevent OR teach because some rabbits will be insistent and not pick-up that their owners do not want them on the couch, in which case you must then prevent it. This may be by blocking it off or putting a shower curtain or something over the couch so it is unappealing.
Also, for space-sake, if she’s not interacting with the “toys” she has, she likely doesn’t acknowledge them as something to engage with so you can consider donating them to a local rabbit rescue or something. Many rabbits do not view a lot of the advertised “toys” as their toys. My Fable pretty much only has packing material exclusively, haha.
The answers provided in this discussion are for general guideline purposes only. The information is not intended to diagnose or treat your pet. Seek the advice of your veterinarian or a qualified behaviorist.