dating (feel free to lol)

[babybunsmum]

i shall warn you… this is about MY dating and not my bunny.  should it still be in the bonding forum maybe?  lol

so i’m 38 and single.  i have a busy and active life with my family and friends and pets and career and tv but no signifigant other.  my friends always encourage me to date and i shy away from it (for reasons i won’t get into here… no need to bore you… nothing exciting i assure you).  so every now and then i muster up the courage to check out an online dating website and stir up a date since finding suitable dates for me is otherwise impossible.  online dating sure can be interesting.  ha.  do i ever have stories.  no success stories of course.  yet.

so yesterday i check my new mail and this is EXACTLY what some guy, whos screen name is bubblegumlicker, sends me:

hey there , i’m 42 dating

i’m free on Tue and Thurs 9AM till about 3pm and some evening. i enjoy chating , smoking a Joint and having sex/// if you like to, contact me at (addy removed for obvious reasons)

hope to hear from you soon!!!

 

seriously!!!  never laughed so hard reading a message.  i wonder if this has ever worked for him? 

(ps… forum leaders… is this inappropriate and not PG enough?  hope not )

[ScooterandAnnette]

You note that he didn’t actually say he was single? He said he’s dating.

And people wonder why more women are apparently turning to other women instead of dating men! lol

– Annette

[MarkBun]

Look at it this way, if he sends this out to 300 people, one is bound to say yes.

[Kendar]

Wow, I think I would just wish him luck and leave it at that lol.

[TARM]

*makes a note of those two websites*

I went to a toy party once. I felt like I was the only person in the universe who doesn’t have a nightstand drawer full of toys. Not my comfort zone at all.

I meet lots of guys through Craigslist. I post an ad every couple of weeks, weed through the responses, and find one or two interesting people I’d like to meet, then go for coffee. I have yet to have a kid free weekend without Friday and Saturday night plans. I’m hitting the dating jackpot too…I have one guy who would ordinarily be way out of my league (OMG he is HOT) that I see pretty regularly, and a newish older guy who is a deputy director of a huge government agency…like I have the inside scoop on A LOT of stuff that’s in the media right now and I can’t say anything about it.

Of course you have to be wary of the Craigslist Killer types but I’ve been meeting men offline since I was in my 20’s so I’ve got it down to a science.

BTW, I’m 34, single mom, busy with the career and volunteering.

[babybunsmum]

oh gees… is it way rude not to respond?

lol markus. true. to each their own.

i’m so vanilla. lol

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Hahahahahahahah OMG you should check out the blog whywomenhatemen.blogspot.com IT’s sooo funny-it makes fun of that kind of stuff hilariously

It’s NSFW though (not safe for work) the other great blog is psychoticlettersfrommen.blogspot.com and it’s by the same author.

BBM-I’m Vanilla too-I find stuff like that shocking. I had to (had to-forced) go to an umn…toy party….the other weekend. I was so lost and so red for the whole thing omg

[TARM]

Lesley?  What else is on your blogroll?  Yours is WAY more entertaining than mine.

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

LOL I also read

http://fuglyhorseoftheday.blogspot.com
http://blatantanimalidiocy.blogspot.com
http://badwaystosellyourhorse.blogspot.com/
http://community.livejournal.com/bad_riding/

[LilynJestersMama]

I can’t believe that guy is still single…..he sounds like a great catch! 

hehehe

I met my hubby on match.com. 

[KatnipCrzy]

At least he is honest.    He must be seriously hot if that kind of attitude works for him. Because what other reason is there to overlook the dating (maybe married) pot smoking (no ambition) openly trolling for sex attitude?  And since he is so precise about the times that he has available- it makes me wonder if his other days are already “booked”!!!!

But somedays I think I would value the honesty over all the rest of this guys potential “bad habits”.

 

[RabbitPam]

Who remembers the Seinfeld episode where George had success with Opposites Day?
“I”m George. I’m overweight, unemployed and I live with my parents.” He scores.

[babybunsmum]

hahahaha

by that token i should take this guy up on his offer.

[Dave]

I met my fiancee on fitnesssingles.com.  She runs marathons, I run triathlons.  There are good men out there, I promise.  It does go both ways though.   It took me a while to find a good woman! 

[babybunsmum]

wow… v.cool to hear of the online dating success stories! thanks

i was blessed with an amazing father and also have other great male role models in my life so i think i have high expectations! why not right? i totally believe you when you day there are great guys out there. i guess it makes finding one even more special when it happens

[Sarita]

I love hearing about people who meet their SO’s on-line too!

I love Seinfeld! That George – his character was just so wrong…

[LilynJestersMama]

The cool thing about online dating is that you have the power to choose who you talk to/meet, as opposed to a function where you might get stuck talking to someone who you aren’t attracted to.

Also, it’s a great way to meet people who you’d never otherwise meet!

Yay for online dating! hehe

[Sonn]

OMG I gave up dating as soon as I started lol. I haven’t been on a date in 8 years when I was 16 LOL. I tried the online dating stuff definitely not for me way way too many ‘odd’ responses

And living in a small town doesn’t help at all! All of the interesting men here are like my brothers since we practically grew up together.

[TARM]

You haven’t had a date in eight years? Wow, that’s impressive. I’d like to be able to go 8 years without a date but I start craving that companionship and I cave.

[Sonn]

Lol yep 8 years. I am human and I do get lonely. But dating is just one big hassle and headache to me so I just don’t do it I am not very “people friendly” LOL. Most men I have met my own age are just like having a clingy 2 year old on my hip and I can’t bring myself to date ‘older’ men. But I do like my solitude a lot so I deal with it

[TARM]

I’m not really a people person either…but I still like to meet guys one on one on the off chance that maybe one of them will be “him”.

[babybunsmum]

yeah you have to ‘screen out’ the ones who aren’t there for the same reasons you are… and not give out personal info… and meet in a public place the first couple of times. then online dating is pretty okay. i find it a whole lot of work. but cool if you think you snagged and interesting guy!

i have a first date set for sat night with one guy who i’ve been chatting with for a week. seems really really sweet but he calls and messages me every day – some times more than once – even if i tell him i won’t be around. is that wierd? seems a little too persistant to me but then i haven’t had an SO for so long i’m not used to some one keeping track of me.

[babybunsmum]

wow i know what you mean about clingy! it’ll be hard for me to give up some of my time alone… i like my weekdays as they are really. not a lot of extra time. but weekends can be lonely. so i’m stinge-y with my time… unless i really start to like the guy. i’m a wierdo tho… i always have the biggest crushes on guys (at work or friend’s brothers)… guys who i know a bit about… guys who i would drop plans for at the drop of a hat if they asked me out… but who never ask me out. good grief. lol.

[TARM]

Yikes. Keeping track of you? And you haven’t met him yet? Red flag.

[babybunsmum]

i know right. i think ‘red flag’ on one hand… are my boundaries really that elusive that i have to explain them? and then on the other hand i thnk i’m like chandler in friends who finds stupid reasons not to date women. remember that ole episode? one girl was “too tanned” another “too big of a head”. except with me one guy is “too attentive” and another is “too nice”. lol.

[Dave]

I know it’s weird giving dating advice on a rabbit forum.  Don’t sabotage yourself before you even get to know him.  Most people are not themselves when you first meet them.  I have three suggestions, 1. know who you are 2. know what you want 3. know why you want it. 

Don’t waste your time, put yourself into dates or positions that will show your date who you are and will also force your date into showing who they are.  Don’t be afraid of who you are.

[bunnytowne]

I don’t date… I haven’t dated since I was 24…  I married at 21 divorced at 23 or 24…   Dated a real weirdo  named Joe.. my female roommates nicknamed him Joe blow as in go away lol  he was  areal nut job.  very suffocating then I met brian married divorced after 17years. I grew up he didn’t stil mr party hardy at 47 me becoming muslim kind of finished off that marriage but no big loss we grew apart years b4

became muslim we dont’ date. I had a guardian the Imam and I had seen who is now my hubby around at the masjid.  We had talked a few times.  So I asked my Imam about him he spoke with my present hubby and said yes this guy seems real good and he is well known at our masjid. So we both agreed to marry…

Doing it this way kind gets rid of the play around types and finds the serious I want to marry types. For the men do it the same when ready to marry established good job or what not they tell the Imam and ask him to find them someone.  They also ask family members. Then the prospectives meet over dinner at someones house and get to know each other… very prim and proper

I didn’t go through that part I just said yes cause I talked to him at the masjid b4.  Which we aren’t supposed to do tehehehe shhhh…

We been married 3 years.   He is older much older than me.  For some reason I go for the older ones. At least 7 years older if not 10 or 25 years older.  I find they are more settled. retired preferred cuz he has more time for me.

I dated a younger one twice.  What a boring time… ackh see ya…

I know a friend who met her husband on a comp matching service.  They are both christian and met through that type service.  they are very happy together…

OH those um humm    parties never been would be red thru the whole thing too….teheee.  been to a langerie party once.  when I was in my wild 20’s..

[bunnytowne]

that joint and sex guy sounds pretty busy…  isn’t that funny     definitely not for me….   I wonder how many women he sees and how much  he actually gets with an ad like that…  you know some women want the no strings attached so maybe he is very busy  ahahhaaa

[babybunsmum]

that’s some great advice dave!  thanks   it really does boil down to knowing and staying true to those 3 things doesn’t it?   i can get so twirly in my head when i step out of my comfort zone and make things more complicated than they need to be

btw… it is also wierd receiving advice about dating on a rabbit forum… lol.  but seriously tho… i think its cool and i appreciate it.  there’s a wide cross section of people that post here and it’s always great to get impartial feedback.   

bunnytowne… it’s so great that you found out what works for you.  it must have taken a lot of courage to make some of the changes that you mention!

 

[jerseygirl]

Well this has been an entertaining read! I have no advice whatsoever -I’m pretty much in similar situ as Sonn and v ok with it Just wanted to wish you all the best BBM!
Your opening line had me laughing…  

i shall warn you… this is about MY dating and not my bunny. should it still be in the bonding forum maybe? lol

What if we did follow some of the rabbit bonding advice? LOL! Dave(Steve&Pepper right?) did say “put yourself into dates or positions that will show your date who you are and will also force your date into showing who they are”
Bathtub maybe? j/k

[MimzMum]

I haven’t read all the posts, but I get the general idea. Geez, I’m glad I’m married, and if that status should change, I’m glad I will NEVER go dating again…totally NO interest.

I fear for my kids though. What a world to just be starting out independent life in! >.<

[Deleted User]

I don’t think it has to be bad… I see your point about being concerned for your kids (Mimz), but for a secure person dating shouldn’t be so scary.

[babybunsmum]

yup… i agree petzy. it’s really not bad at all. there are some real arses out there but as long as you are careful to follow a few golden rules (meet in public, don’t give out personal info too early…) and maintain a sense of humour about it then it’s all good.

i had a date last night! very decent guy. very nice looking. i’m not at all sure if i like him. lol. i’m willing to go on a date #2 if he is so we’ll see…

[TARM]

And there are people who still meet the normal way like in bars or at work or whatever. Not everyone hooks up through the internet…though that seems to be almost the norm now.

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