These are all great points, and thank you for your ideas and advice to me about this. I agree it is unfair and that’s why I’m trying to find a solution because i want him to be happy. As for cleanliness. i’m just really sensitive about cleaning. He goes about his litter pan then will come on the couch, i just don’t want to sleep on that

the idea of a fleece blanket is good but yes he will definitely eat it. i don’t care about wasting a blanket ive just read it’s dangerous for the rabbit if he eats it. i thought about just letting him on one half of the couch, and trying another blanket is a really good idea i hadn’t thought of that, but the reason I’d not is I got worried if I relent now and let him on the couch, it’s gonna be confusing to him, and undo everything since i’ve been so adamant he stay off. (he tries to get on there less than he used to.) What do you think?
I do try sitting with him but the problem is he’s upset if I do anything other than pet him. Read a book, write something down, get on the computer. He’ll start to rip the book or my paper. I’m happy to give him my full attention but I can’t give it all the time 
In the times he isn’t trying to get on the couch he is really content sleeping/hanging out by the couch beside me, which is great. we can be near and i can do something and he does his thing. Which is why I thought to try and get to that point. i’d like him to have full roam of my home.