My rabbit doesn’t like being handled either. But I find if I bring him to a room he has never been before, he is a lot more accomodating. Bring your rabbit somewhere that she is unfamilliar with so that you become the only familiar object and she will be more comfortable with you. Keep her on her back—rabbits go into a trance-like state when you do, and try using baby wipes to get the poop off. Do this sitting on the floor in case she decides to jump so she won’t hurt herself.
Don’t be afraid to wash her because she kicks. She may not like what has to be done, but you can’t let her pop around all poopy! It’s called tough love. My rabbit always kicks up a fuss when I have to do anything with him, but he forgives me right away after. Give her a treat when you are done. Be firm too—hold her tightly so she doesn’t wriggle away. If you keep her on her back though, she should go ito a trance and it shouldn’t be an issue.
Also this site has a how to do a “bunny burrito” with a towel–a method for containing skittish rabbits. Have you seen it? It may help. Look it up!