anyone wanna adopt me?

[xnovalentine]

gahh i dont know how much longer of living here i can take!

This is the only option I have at the moment for living arrangements, so I decided I’d stick it out. But its getting harder, and harder, and harder. My Uncle was oppsed to Lulla in the beginning and even told me I couldn’t come back here when Nick and I took a “break” for a few days, because of Lulla. I asked him again when this last bit happend and he agreed. Well, bunnies aren’t the most orderly creatures, and she’s shredded a blanket thats like emerald green so it pops out. The little bits she chews out get stuck to my sock/jeans and I track it around my bedroom. I went around last night and picked it all up cause he had nagged me about it earlier. But this morning I stepped in her pen area to give her loves and a treat and I unknowingly draged a couple (like literally 2) bits of hay and like a couple bits of the blanket. Barely even noticeable, I didint even see it. Well he did, and told me that he told me to clean up yesterday and that I need to find Lulla a new home.

Yeah effing right. Ugh he’s down here again…anyway…I’m not parting with Lullabelle, so if he’s serious about Lulla I’m out. Its not worth it. Blah i just needed to rant to some fellow bunny people who’d understand =) have a good day everyone!

[babybunsmum]

your uncle is obviously not a pet person.  maybe if you come up with an alternative – even if its not immediate but by the end of april for example – and tell your uncle of your firm plans, he’ll ‘put up with’ lulla for the remaining time you’re there.  some people are just really wierd about certain types of neatness.  my sister is like that to a certain extent but yet some things she does i would never tolerate.  a friend of mine used to insist that the dish towels hanging on his stove were hung so they were perfectly ‘4 cornered’.  so i guess everyone has their diff limits. 

do you have any friends who need a roomate?  maybe you could split an apartment with a roomie instead of coughing up the $$ togo it alone rightnow?

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Yeah for sure, some people are just too big of neat freaks to handle pets. I feel your pain!!

[Beka27]

this is a difficult thing.  when you’re depending on the kindness of others b/c of a situation it’s best to not “rock the boat”, so to speak.  but giving up Lulla is in no way an option.  i really hope you guys can get this figured out.

[charlie82]

ah I know where you are coming from. It’s rubbish living under other people’s rules. My sister and her husband secretly moan about the hay everywhere etc and I can’t really blame them, but the fact is they asked me to come live with them knowing I had bunnies so we have to compromise. I try to keep the mess down and they just have a little moan now and again but aren’t that bad really.In fact I’ve taken over most of the garden and house where my pets are concerned so i’m pretty lucky. I still find it hard though worrying what they think all of the time. I think you will have to consider moving out though if they insist that you can’t have Lula, or failing that do you not have any friends that could maybe look after her for you until you get yourself sorted?

[charlie82]

yeah also, is there no privacy where you are? it’s not right that he should come into your room, being his house or not. If they accept you staying there they should respect your space!

[xnovalentine]

Thanks guys =)

the situation is this: i can’t afford to live on my own. I’m in college, and I can’t afford to live in an apt. I’ve got someone who would be roommates with me, a fellow bunny person i might add, but with all my expenses I just can’t afford it, I don’t get enough from loans to live. I have a job, but it doesn’t pay enough. Honestly, I’m so overwhelmed right now my schoolwork is suffering and I’ve made the decision to quit my job, plus i hate it to endless limits and it adds tons of stress on to me right now, which I can’t deal with.

I lived with my aunt and uncle most of my life, so I guess you can consider this the equivalent of going back home with parents. My aunt and uncle aren’t very supportive of me going to school (because I’m a girl, and girls are supposed to get married and have babies, not go to college –no joke! lol) and they weren’t really thrilled to inherit me in the first place oh so many years ago. My sister refers to me as their “punching bag” as they get mad at me for stupid things because THEIR children are screwing up with drugs, legal things, etc. I’ve been able to deal with it over the years because I know it’s never going to change, but I’m such a mess right now I don’t feel like i can deal with it, shouldn’t have to, and i”m near snapping threshold.

As for my room, I have the entire basement. There aren’t any doors to the basement or in the basement, its just separated into 2 rooms and have entry ways, thats it. So to an extent I have privacy, but they do come down here unannounced and I have to duck into a corner if im getting dressed or something.

When I first came to live with them, I brought my dog Sebastian, who they didn’t care for. Eventually they fell in love with him over the years and he became a family pet. He passed away last summer, and I got Lulla a few months after, but at the time I had moved in with Nick. I think the situation will be different because a) lulla is messy b) lulla is destructive c) she’s got a pen area set up in which he says is “shameful” d) they think its stupid I feed her pellets AND fresh greens daily. Theres just so much about bunnies that they don’t like. My aunt is terrified of her and wont come near her, and my uncle just complains about how worthless she is. I’m not so confident it will turn out how Sebastian’s situation did.

Most of my deal right now is that I just can’t deal with stupid crap on top of the crap thats happened lately. I feel that the comments and nagging are unnecessary and inappropriate. I don’t feel like I should be put down, or my rabbit be put down, because they don’t like my choices or that I have to keep lulla in a pen. I’ve been so irritable lately that I’ve said things I’d never say (called my aunt stupid the other day…) and did things I’d never do (got a tattoo…LOL) and I know that at one point I wont be able to deal with the crap. I’m also bipolar, and I have issues dealing with impulse control (i.e. saying inappropriate things.) Not that is any excuse, It just makes “calming down” more difficult.

ANYWAY — lol i’ve complained all your eyes out! Thanks for all your input. =)

[babybunsmum]

((((((hugs))))))  sometimes it feels better just to say it (type it) all out.  or at least it may get you one more step towards clarity.  hopefully you can find a resolution that works for all of you really soon.  it’s a tricky situation for you to be in since you know they don’t always treat you with respect BUT since you are living under their roof there’s a certain amount of crap you may have to endure to stay there.  i think it’s good you’re realizing you have too many balls in the air.  breakups are equivalent to coping with a death so no wonder you’re irritable!  you may not see a tonne of options right now but you seem to have perspective which is the most important thing of all. 

what / where’s your tattoo?  you brave girl!  i’ve contemplated getting one since my late teens but now that i’m 37 it just doesn’t seem appropriate anymore

[Deleted User]

Hey Valentine….Just want to say, I feel for you! I know how it feels to be “unwanted” or feel “unloved”…I’ve dealt w/ it from my mom my whole life!!! I want to help you–here’s my idea…I am also a college student and I seriously have to take out loans just to get by (to pay rent, utilities, cellphone, car payment, car insurance, cable….). I work minimal hours to try to keep my grades up. I get a Stafford Loan through my college and I also get a private loan through U.S. Bank. I think if you go online you would be able to find a bank that would give you a reasonable loan with a reasonable percentage rate that you wouldn’t have to pay back till after college. I get these loans at the beginning of every semester, so for example, my schooling costs about $5,500 per semester and I get my Stafford for about $5,000, then I take out the extra loan for how much my college will let me. (usually they let me get $2,500 more). So then I use the extra loan to pay some of my bills up front. I try to get about $500 extra per semester just to have the extra cash. I hope this helps you, maybe if you get the right loans, you can move in w/ your bunny-approving friend! Good luck!!!

[xnovalentine]

I got “Sebastian” on the back of my neck. Its really small and simple, no hearts or skulls or anything lol. just his name written really nicely.

Everyone said it was going to hurt, and the neck was one of the most painful places to get it. So I was freaking out, and then she started, and after a few minutes I asked her if shes started lol. it didin’t hurt at all!

i’m getting my nose pierced next =) maybe this weekend?

 

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allenj1:

I’m sorry to hear that you feel that way. I understand how difficult that can be =/

Heres my college deal LOL

I’ve got 2 stafford loans as of right now, I get financial aid from a federal pell grant, some other grant for something lol, and a scholarship. After all this I have to pay $5,000 (22,000/yr at Bradley). I took out a $15000 loan, 5 for school and i get 5 a semester. I’ve calculated it out, with all bills, rent, utilites, etc, it will be $1000/mo. Which isn’t bad, but if you consider it, other things come up such a dr bills and such. Last semester most of the left over money went to pay for new glasses and dr bills =( So this semester I have enough left over to get me through the next couple of months while living here, and then i’ll have to get a job or take summer classes for more loan money. I tried to get more money in a loan, but they only allow you so much over. So blehhhh! lol I already have a car loan out, and now I have no income so a personal loan isin’t an option. I’m considering refinancing my car to help with that, but that won’t be too much less. so yes, screwed =) lol thankyou for your suggestion!

[charlie82]

Oh dear, I really feel for you…. 🙁

When I left university I never wanted to move back up North where my family are (for specific reasons) but in the year following I suffered badly from depression. It got to the point that I was read to die so I had no choice but to come back home and move back in with my mum and her partner (the reason I moved away in the first place). I had Charlie then and my mum’s bf used her as an excuse to get to me. He hated her and just made things so difficult and they also made me put her in a cage. Charlie was the only thing at the time that gave me a purpose to get up on the morning so I had no choice but to get out of there. Luckily I was working so I rented my own house. It was very tough and I lived like a student again just to get by but having that freedom was amazing. I had to move in with my sister last year for various reasons but it’s no where near as bad as living at home or your situation. In fact I think I ought to consider myself lucky that they accommodate me and my pets so well. I wish I lived over there and I would have helped you out!!

[Beka27]

“My aunt and uncle aren’t very supportive of me going to school (because I’m a girl, and girls are supposed to get married and have babies, not go to college –no joke!”

*gag*

wow. i’m sorry you have to deal with all of this. it’s sad that some folks still have these backwards viewpoints. i think it is awesome that you got a tattoo to memorialize your dog. that is very sweet. (reminds me of the old saying: if God didn’t want us to get tattoos, why would he have given us a blank canvas?) will you have the summer off school? it would be great if you could look for a housing situation (with a roommate or two to share expenses). just remember, this is all temporary. it doesn’t sound like your uncle’s house is the best environment for you… but you have to do what you can. if you don’t have classes this summer, can you work and save up money for the next school year?

[Holly]

awwww I’m sorry. My hubby is not a pet person either. He told me when I first got Holly if I didn’t figure out a way to do this or that Holly goes. Well, I think he loves her as much as I do. I haven’t heard that kind of talk in months. Yesterday I couldn’t find him and here he was in her area petting her.

I had to laugh. He likes her to face the wall and her butt to him when he is petting her. Last night Holly positioned herself the way he likes it as if to say ok pet me now. She’s a nut.

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