ADVICE PLEASE – should I keep her?

[Ali925]

So I had all intentions of trying to bond my new male baby bunny with my current female bunny (already spayed), once he’s old enough.  I mentioned this somewhere in this forum already, but I’ll just repeat it…  I brought home a baby bun last Thursday and it was supposedly a male.  I got a call from the person I bought “him” from , and it turns out he accidentally gave us the female.  (There were two similar looking buns in the same litter).  He had us check last night and although I’m no expert, Mr. Blu looks like Mrs. Blu     I’m going to go back tonight and have him check again, just to be sure, especially since I’m no expert, like I said. 

I have no problem keeping a female, except for the fact that we had decided to get a male with the hopes of easier bonding with my current female bun.  We were still taking a risk since we have to wait for the baby to grow up, be neutered, etc. and then start the bonding process, but we were determined to make it work (hopefully).  From what I’ve read, it’s VERY hard to bond 2 females…so now I’m torn.  I can exchange this bunny for the male look-alike, and I’m sure I’ll love him too…but my husband and I are already really attached to the baby we have and are having a hard time giving her up just because she’s a female.  It seems like such a bad reason.  She has such a good home with us   And we’ve already made good progress with her since bringing her home (litter box habits, etc.).  So it’s frustrating to give all that up too.

I know it’s not a definite answer that we’ll be able to bond them if we keep the girl, but does anyone have any positive experiences with bonding 2 girls??

Thanks so much.  It makes me so sad to think about giving her back…even my husband is crushed (he picked “him” out)…

[Elrohwen]

A female-female bond is the hardest and you’ll have to wait more months before you can get a female spayed (as opposed to getting a male neutered).

Personally, I would exchange her for the male. But only you can decide if that’s the right decision for you!

I don’t have bonding experience, so I can’t speak to female-female bonds – hopefully someone else will have experience with that.

[TARM]

I would just opt to have two bonded pairs and find go dating to find two boys. Problem solved. :0)

[Ali925]

Elrohwen, you’re definitely right about the waiting time and that was a big reason for getting the male as well. Not to mention going through a spay again…it was very nerve wracking for us and I know incredibly painful for my girl… She did amazing and I’m so glad, but not sure if I’d want to go through that again! Plus, I can’t help but think what will happen if they really don’t get along. I don’t want to have 2 living separately and there’s no way I’d give her up. So I keep telling my husband, we’ll end up with 3 bunnies I promise you…or 4 if I go with TARM’s idea!

TARM, haha I love your thinking!! I just don’t think that’s feasible for us right now…not enough space! Although I would love to keep her…

I guess my husband and I know what the right thing to do is, but I guess I was hoping someone would bravely come forward and say how lovely and easy bonding girls CAN be… although I know not true We’re pretty much decided at this point to make the exchange, we’re going tonight. Maybe there’s a chance I sexed her wrong…and then I’d be ecstatic. But likely we’ll be bringing home a new baby and starting all over. I guess that means thoroughly cleaning out Mrs. Blu’s cage and pen too… I feel like I should send her with the stuff we bought her already

Thanks again for your help.

Everyone on here is always so great…

[TARM]

Awww. Well, take it from someone who has 8 rabbits, 2 dogs, and 2 ferrets. You can always make space. But I get what you’re saying. It’s hard to give individual attention to that many animals. You’ll miss Ms. Blu but your bunny boy will make you just as happy as she would have. And she’ll get a home, it’s not like you’re abandoning her at a shelter for the sake of bringing home a boy.

Good luck to you!

[MirBear]

ms blue might have had a family waiting for her, and then she was gone!
id say make the change… twix was supposed to be a boy aswell,and her previous owner mis sexed her so she is a girl… i would have given her back except i fell in love with her before even getting her sexed for sure, and now i cant affored two spays so both of my females have to wait untill i get old enough to get a job before either can be spayed… and then the plan was to bond them, and they get along great already but im nervouse that once i do get them altered that they wont like each other anymore….
point being, if i had a chance to swap twix for a male after i got her i would have but i really didnt have much of an opption. i really wished i had of gotten her sexed earlier and then found out ‘he’ was a ‘she’  then i could have talked to the old owner and given her back. i regret not doing so because now BOTH of my bunnies have to wait another year or so before they can be fixed.

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