It sounds like things are going VERY smoothly and you shouldn’t worry! There isn’t always going to be mounting, and head wars are very normal, even in bonded pairs. I have found it’s not productive to worry about who is dominant as it’s often very hard to tell. They may not always groom each other after a grooming request, but as long as they don’t fight due to an unmet grooming request things are going well. 🙂
I don’t consider unmet grooming requests to be a negative behavior. Things that count as aggression or negative include:
-boxing, lunging
-chasing
-circling
-hard biting, fur pulling
-mounting that leads to a fight or chase
Positive:
-food sharing
-litter box sharing
-cuddling
-grooming
-relaxed behaviors in general
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The answers provided in this discussion are for general guideline purposes only. The information is not intended to diagnose or treat your pet. Seek the advice of your veterinarian or a qualified behaviorist.