That’s a really tough situation. Whenever the buns fight badly enough to injure each other it’s important to assess the situation. How long did you let them cool off after that fight?
In really tough bonds I’ve had luck with both adding an element of stress (car rides), as well as using a very large very neutral space for bonding sessions. It can also help to get an opinion from a bonder at a rescue, if there is one near you.
I also like to use very large spaces for bonding, I’ve always had lots of fighting in small spaces (despite what many blogs recommend). I think of it in terms of the “fight or flight” response. When a scared animal has no space to flee, they can only fight if they are attacked, so things can escalate very quickly.
It would be understandable to quit, so it’s really your decision. If you wanted to try one more test to see if you should keep trying, I would see if you can set up a very large area (like 2 or 3 x-pens linked up) at a friend’s house or yard. This will make sure it’s VERY neutral and slightly stressful. Then take the buns there and do a really short date in that area (like 2 or 3 minutes). If they still attack each other immediately, then I would call it quits. If they do OK (maybe some tension but no immediate fighting), then I think there is hope that it could work out and you could keep trying.
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The answers provided in this discussion are for general guideline purposes only. The information is not intended to diagnose or treat your pet. Seek the advice of your veterinarian or a qualified behaviorist.