Now that the mini’s have upgraded to the same size/style of litter box, we’ve begun moving soiled litter/boxes around between the two pairs. The mini’s didn’t care at all about Smudge and Scout’s litter being introduced to their box. S&S were definitely more curious and somehow I got lucky that it almost seems to encourage them to pee on the mini’s litter instead of urine marking around their cage. (Counting my blessings there!)

We decided to try our second date today and I’m not sure how I feel about it. S&S continue to be the curious of the four – they both wanted to sniff the mini’s. Freckles remains completely uninterested. She mostly ate the willow leaves they all had and then she full on loafed down to go to sleep in a corner after grooming herself. Rascal seemed a little anxious but mostly kept to himself. I worry about how much damage S&S could do since they are significantly larger than the mini’s – Scout is over twice as large as Freckles – so I have kept a gloved hand on the ready when I allow S&S to get closer. Scout did sniff Rascal from behind, and I thought she was going to nip him because her tail was up though her ears were forward facing, but she ran back to the other side of me like she was nervous. After I talked to her and Rascal in a calm voice, she flopped down along side my leg and stayed sprawled out for the rest of the date. Smudge wanted to get close to the mini’s and he is who I am absolutely the most nervous about since he can change his attitude in a heartbeat. I very carefully let him get closer to Rascal who was also interested in sniffing. Before I knew it, Smudge let out a little growl sound and nipped Rascal’s nose. We quickly separated them and Rascal went to cuddle with Freckles after giving her one little nip that she was unbothered by.

It feels like I’ve got a few positives, lots of neutral, and only the one nip tonight. I’ve only ever bonded S&S since the mini’s came to me as a pair when they were 3 months old. Am I doing this right for the group dynamic? Is there a way to encourage Freckles’ interest in S&S or is her lack of interest okay for now? (I think she’d be just fine being the lowest in their hierarchy.) Should I keep being the helicopter mom worried about nips to the face since those seem more dangerous? Or should I stop dates and only do swaps for X amount of time? (They’ve lived side by side for over 3 weeks now.)

Thank you for your feedback! It makes me feel a lot better that you felt this was a positive date. I don’t separate when I suspect they might nip, I just tend to keep a hand nearby to separate if they do get aggressive. I know that the nipping will bit part of their process to establish hierarchy, but I would prefer butt nips and not face nips. lol

We introduced stuffed animals this morning too. Smudge used to sleep with one because we could tell he really wanted a friend to snuggle as we were working on bonding him with Scout, so I put “Franklin” (his previous stuffy) in with our mini’s and gave S&S a new stuffed animal to get their scent on before we swap them tomorrow.

We had the best date so far last night! Scout was interested in the mini’s and went to sniff them. She took off back to her own side without any nipping. Even Smudge sniffed without nipping. And both girls groomed and laid down to rest (separately) while the boys munched on some willow leaves about two feet apart. I call that a success! 🙂

Little pros, some cons, lots of stress.

Pros – still swapping litter boxes, we’ve done cross petting side by side without anybody attempting to bite/nip their neighbor

Cons – still just the referred aggression and nervousness among the four buns

Since my last post, we did a couple more dates that seemed pretty neutral. The girls were more nervous but nobody showed any aggression toward each other.

Then last Saturday, 1/8, we had to take Rascal to the animal hospital to get his eye looked at. We decided to take a break from dates as he started his antibiotics. We swapped litter boxes twice throughout the week but wanted it to be as little stress as possible for him.

Today we decided to do a marathon date and it did not go very well. Scout came in incredibly tense (I think the referred aggression between her and Smudge has put her on edge). Rascal was angry because he wanted to play/nap. Freckles was shy as usual but interacted more today than normal. Rascal and Scout got into a minor spat, which set off Smudge, and made Freckles more nervous on her side of the bonding space. After about 15 minutes, I realized Scout needed to go back to her homebase because she was just too nervous and tense. Rascal was so mad about being on a date that he full on bit me, so I opted to let him go do his own thing. I only had Smudge and Freckles together for another 10 minutes before I called it quits. They did pretty good I think. Smudge attempted to nip Freckles side/butt a couple times but it was pretty gentle and I think more so for dominance. Freckles didn’t react to his nips. As much as I don’t care for how the date went, I think it could be good in that they’re actually starting to interact and determine their chain of command?

After the date we noticed an increase in referred aggression between S&S. Scout seems nervous around Smudge, sometimes instigating until he comes barreling at her. I knew it could happen but it hurt my heart tonight to separate them into two living spaces. I have a divider in their pen and I don’t expect them to fight through the bars since they’ve not injured each other and they can get away from each other. What I’m most curious about is if they can still come out to play in their shared area? F&R are free roam and I haven’t wanted to switch up too much of their schedule due to their age, so S&S come out to play when F&R go to bed. (And a few times throughout the day to stretch their legs.) I’d hate to have to give them separate times because it shorts them even more and they have baby energy to burn off. They also still remain mostly friendly as we continue to see them mutually grooming each other and cuddling when they’re tired.

I really do have faith that we can do this. The buns all have so many similarities and nobody is overtly aggressive/dominant. I think Smudge wants to be top bun, but once he feels like he’s in charge, he is such a sweet and gentle soul. I saw this in his relationship with Scout, who he still grooms and wants to cuddle despite the current aggression. It’s stressful to me to feel like we had a setback today because we’ve been doing prebonding stuff for 3.5 months (1.5 months of it has been living in the same room). I wish I knew how to calm their nerves, particularly my girls as they seem to be the most nervous/stressed. Any feedback or tips?

Dang! Terry, Maggie, and Greebo sound magical!

Dana’s post – What did you use for “nose guards” to keep them from nipping through the pen? I struggled to find anything that was big enough to zip tie but small enough to keep their little noses from getting through. Currently I have the litter tray screens from the BinkyBunny store coming this week which I’m hoping can double as guards. (Also, omg your bunnies are cute. Especially the bun with the little brown spots/nose.)

Luna, Atlas, and Nimbus – I like the idea of using food to lure them in. I tried scattering food in the bonding pen the other night because most of the group are little chonks who love to eat. For the most part they do eat in front of each other, but not necessarily with each other. (It seems each pair sticks to “their side” of the bonding area and shares food within that pair.)

HipHopBunny – those girls seemed tough. The chasing reminds me of Smudge who will definitely chase though he’s definitely improved recently.

I also read through the entirety of Susanne’s bonding process with Ruby and Maxwell. That seemed so challenging but what a relief she finally got the bunnies bonded!

I was using a sheet between the two pens (before S&S were separated). I think the visual of the mini’s was stressful for Scout, but I also know it’s important that she get used to seeing them. I’m hoping once I get a suitable nose guard, I can place her pen wall very close to the mini’s so she’s able to approach them without the ability to act aggressively toward them.

The referred aggression between Smudge and Scout seems to have died down. We still let them out together in their run space and they haven’t been nipping/chasing the last couple of days. We also took the last two days off from dating but continue to work on cross scent things like swapping boxes, petting one than the other, and we have two little stuffed bunnies that we swap between them. Scout is still nervous and she hikes her tail up pretty far but her ears stay forward. She doesn’t growl or lunge right now, so that’s progress in my eyes.

Scout seems to be my wild card. She’s very friendly, LOVES to be the center of attention, but I think her aggression comes from fear. I’m thinking the pen walls being closer so she can explore her curiosity/fear about the minis will be positive, and in addition I might have her date with Freckles 1:1 a few times so Scout can learn there isn’t a threat. (Freckles actually immediately groomed her the other day when I placed them together and covered Scouts face/pet her.)

Two questions I have about the bonding space that I can’t seem to find a concrete answer on though:

1. Do you think it matters that I sit in the bonding space with them? We have been using a hallway of my house that none of the bunnies have ever been in and I would say it’s about 2 ft x 3.5 ft. I keep my back to the wall so nobody can run behind me and surprise attack another rabbit.
2. What are considered “semi neutral” areas? I have limited space that none of the bunnies have been in, one room where S&S have been that the minis have not, one room where F&R have been that the littles have not, and our bedroom is where they all sleep with us which is also the final home they’ll share.

Sorry for my novel. I’m just trying to do right by all four of these fluffballs and I hope to make it as easy as possible on them since F&R are older.

Thank you! I think we’ll move to our kitchen. It’s next to our living room where the mini’s have free run, but the littles haven’t been in there and the minis don’t seem to care about territory. If they did, I suspect we would’ve noticed when I moved the littles into our bedroom next to them. I’ll use the sheet idea so Rascal can’t see the living room floor or he’ll be more interested in going to eat snacks and play with his toys. lol

Now where I’m being torn is because of the diagnosis Freckles just got. I obviously don’t want to stress her because of the heart situation. However, I want Rascal to not be all alone when the time comes that Freckles isn’t here with us. Rascal has never been a single. They’re litter mates and I never even separated them as babies during the hormone stage (I thought they were both boys until Freckles went to get neutered). And even when Freckles was healing from her spay, Rascal would sleep next to her pen until she rejoined him in their permanent home. Freckles has always sat by me during dates, and she is the most submissive of all four. Earlier this week during dates, I placed Scout (my wild card) next to Freckles and Freckles began to groom her immediately.

What’s your opinion? Keep trying to bond? Only do prebonding and not dates until Scout shows less fear-based aggression? Stop all together, knowing Rascal might be on his own and then bond him while he’s grieving? It’s such a hard situation we find ourselves in right now. Selfishly, I want them all together. I want to see all four cuddle at least once. But I am willing to put my own wants aside to do whatever is best for the bunnies because at the end of the day, I made a commitment to them to take care of them until the very end.

Yeah… that diagnosis was an absolute bomb drop. I did find the mesh at my local home depot though, so that’s awesome when I decide to go back to bonding. I think it will be really helpful for Scout to be able to approach the other bunnies without being able to get at them. Currently she can’t share a pen with Smudge because there’s too much nervous energy/chasing with her if the mini’s are moving around in their pen next door, but they still come out to play together and snuggle. Right now the mini’s are out in the living room and the littles are cuddled up in a shared area in our bedroom.

But I don’t want this whole thing to turn sad right now, so here’s a photo of Freckles and Rascal snuggling the other night after dinner. And a video of the littles (who are massive compared to the mini’s now) releasing baby energy while we did a pen change. 🙂

https://drive.google.com/file/d/12DucnMDrZqyyuYexIIpl-j2d12hKBO9O/view?usp=sharing

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1I1xv01tcK_evluu9kSOrzXkw3rJVjkIt/view?usp=sharing

Back to bonding! I’m just going to keep updating this thread to have a record of the steps we took and in case it can help anybody else.

I’m heartbroken about Freckles passing last week, but I’m not letting that stop me from moving forward in making all of the bunnies friends.

On Saturday we took the visual barrier down and put everybun in their own pen. Smudge and Scout still get along fine during their run time so we continue to allow them out together, but they can’t live together because they nip at each other when Rascal is nearby in his pen. Rascal remains completely unfazed by S&S existing in his space. He’s still doing alright after Freckles passed, but I noticed last night during a rain storm that he was anxious again. It’s been a long time since he acted afraid of the loud rain and I think that was because Freckles helped comfort him during that time. I’d like him to have that comfort in the other bunnies.

I have a long weekend because of President’s Day so I want to start face to face dates again. However, I don’t want S&S to be able to tag team against Rascal. I’m debating doing 1:1 dates to help reduce some of the tension. Where I’m stuck is who I start with and work with the most.

Smudge very much wants to be top bun. I honestly don’t think Rascal cares as long as he has comfy places to sleep and good snacks to eat. My thought is maybe Smudge will learn quickly that Rascal will allow him to take the lead which will reduce some of Smudge’s dominant behaviors like nipping and mounting (Rascal has never tolerated being mounted).

Scout, however, is my absolute wild card. She is so sweet and friendly, and she took to Smudge like PB&J, but she is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo defensive when it comes to Rascal (and previously Freckles). Even now with their pens touching and chicken wire between so no noses get nipped, she will hike that tail right up and charge the wall (with ears forward like she’s listening, not flattened like she’s mad). I’ve purposely put her connection on the food side so her and Rascal have to eat side by side. She charges when she sees him but after a few moments she’ll calm down, sometimes laying against their connecting wall, but when he moves she’s right back to her bratty behavior. I’m very nervous to put her with Rascal because she is almost twice his size and he’s an old man at almost 10 years old. However, I wonder if some 1:1 time could help her realize that Rascal poses no threat to her which will help take some of that aggression away and make everything smoother in the bonding process.

If anybody has feedback or thoughts, I’m always open to that.

Last night I tried something different. S&S have run of our three seasons room while Rascal has free roam in the living room. The two rooms are separated by a sliding door. I really want to have positive associations so we opened the sliding door, put both our baby gates up (one in each room’s side) so nobody could get close enough to bite, and we placed their salads right next to the gates. Rascal, as usual, didn’t mind S&S being there by him. Smudge was a little upset at first but showed zero aggression. He didn’t even chase or nip Scout like he has in the past. Scout threw her tail up a few times but she never charged the gate toward Rascal. She showed more nervousness which is really where I think her aggression stems from (she’s very “I’m gonna get you before you get me”) and she slinked real low toward the gate a couple times, but then went back to playing and binkying all over.

I’m back! Lots of great updates!

I did salad dates through the baby gates for about 1.5 weeks before I couldn’t take it anymore and started face to face dates again. Salad dates were going well and nobody was having issues with seeing the others as they ate.

I cleared out my dining room which isn’t totally neutral since it’s kitty corner from the living room where Rascal has free roam, but I figured it’s neutral enough for Smudge and Scout who are the territorial ones of the bunch. I started the dating process again on 3/5, only going for 8 minutes the first date (5 with Smudge only and letting Scout be involved for the last 3). We’ve done a date every day – I sit on the floor in a no man’s land while my husband stands by with leather gloves. At first everybun was leery and nervous. We had to intervene a couple of times when S&S would pull fur and once when they got into a brief tussle after Rascal approached them. Rascal was jumping up to my chest to hide away/be comforted the first two days but he hasn’t done that since. Rascal still is a little apprehensive and we’re being really patient with him since he lost Freckles only a month ago. He’s old and much smaller than S&S (4.5 lbs compared to Scout at over 7), so I can understand his anxiety about all of this. I do wish we still had Freckles so Rascal had a comfort buddy throughout the process like S&S have in each other, but I’m proud of him for giving it a shot.

In just over a week, we’ve gone from 8 minute dates of anxiety to 42 minutes today with total relaxation! At this point, Scout will approach Rascal for sniffs and then bounce away to a spot on her own. But there is no nipping! No fur pulling! And no more hiking up her tail! I am soooooooooooo proud of her because she was so aggressive toward Smudge and Rascal originally. Today Rascal suddenly approached her from behind and it definitely startled her, but instead of turning around and attacking anybody like she would’ve in the past, she jumped to a different spot where she was alone and could observe the boys. All the bunnies were relaxed enough to eat, Rascal was starting to doze off, and the babies were all stretched out relaxing in the sunlight. We only ended our date tonight because our dinner was delivered and we needed to eat.

I know we have more work ahead of us but I am so excited to see how this progresses! I’m going to be over the moon when we move from the neutral behaviors to positive interactions. I will keep updating occasionally as we have successes or setbacks too. I’m looking forward to one day having the title of this thread updated to show *Bonded Trio*. 🙂

Still bonding and it feels like I’m in a rut. We typically bond for at minimum 30 minutes and there are times when we’re able to supervise for an hour. After about an hour, Rascal seems ready to end so we usually let him go rest. We’ve also had to take some nights off because of my work schedule or when Smudge decided to impale himself with a stick and I was letting him heal. (Why do bunnies always find a way to do something when the vet is closed? lol)

There is some nipping from S&S with each other or with Rascal, but it rarely involves fur pulling. The babies will chase Rascal though if he runs into the space they’re in. At this point, Rascal either sits off to the side or next to me/in my lap the whole time. He doesn’t try to interact with Smudge or Scout, but they have a growing interest in him. We started face to face dates with the three of them March 5th and we’ve done 33 dates. I’d say the majority have been neutral but I’m wondering how do we help push them to more positive behaviors? S&S still have their bond and they really only nip at each other when Rascal enters the mix, otherwise they’re still cuddling and grooming. But I desperately want Rascal to have a buddy since Freckles passed. He sleeps a lot more and he doesn’t groom himself very well, so a friend could really help him out, not to mention make my life easier with only one pen set up.

I know it’s been a few months since I chimed in, but we’re still in the dating process. It’s been about 6 months. We date up t0 6 hours at a time at this point before I need some sort of mental stimulation. lol

Smudge and Rascal aren’t necessarily friendly toward each other, but they don’t show aggression toward each other. Smudge will visit Rascal and they’ll share some hay before Smudge goes off to do his own thing. Smudge will also lay the closet to Rascal – about a foot away from him.

Scout is still my menace. She is temperamental around Rascal. Sometimes the tail hikes up, sometimes she’s nippy, and sometimes all she needs is my hand petting her head to stay calm and then leave on her own. We just started doing 10 minute car rides so her and Rascal have to use each other for comfort. It seemed to work well in the moment as they definitely leaned into each other. I don’t understand what her deal is with Rascal since he is the chill old man of the group and she had zero aggression when she was bonding with Smudge.

Is there something new I should try? I really don’t want to give up since it’s not outright aggression or one bun being attacked. I’ve done tons of reading and try to trick her into accepting him all the time (even with banana on her head that Rascal happily licks off of her).