Hi all, quick background first
Lop – desexed male, 4ish years smaller dutch mix
Lorelai – desexed female, 4ish years medium florida white/maybe new zealand
They’ve been living side by side for two months, things swapped, show no aggression to each other while in their spaces. Love to lay side by side on shared side and just hang out together.
We’re doing dates in a neutral / semi-neutral space (they’ve been in enough that it’s pretty familiar to both of them but it’s not a space either have been in alone) and started to introduce items to them. Food looks like it might become an issue fairly quick-
99% of the time Lop wants to be in charge and 95% of the time Lorelai lets him. She’s groomed him, he has never groomed back. She’ll tell him if he’s being too pushy with a light nip or nudge and that is usually quickly the end of that. He hops away for a bit, comes back and they’re happy around each other again. However we have noticed as we introduced food (Hay spread over the floor) that if Lop tries to eat some of it Lorelai will leave whatever she is doing (even if it’s eating her own hay) and do the same light nip and nudge, Lop doesn’t listen in this case, she gets more persistent, and then Lop gets fed up with her and usually will turn and give her a nip back but it’s definitely pushing the line of a more serious scuffle than their usual nip/walk away. The fact Lorelai stops what she is doing to actively push him off food concerns me- Lop is already a picky eater and I’d hate for him to also get scared to approach food.
Any tips?
Maybe moving to a new space they haven’t been in and introducing food there?