hey friends! i’m back with yet another question about bonding.
so, i separated my boys for quite a while and let them thoroughly forget about each other. then, i began prebonding again and decided they were finally ready to try a quick tub session. for the first ten minutes, thumper shoved his head under baxter and they both “hid” in each other. i’m sure they were scared because the tub is slippery and they don’t “know” each other, etc. then after that, they both kind of just minded their own business on opposite ends of the tub. occasionally, one would move around and the other would get defensive–ears back, looked ready to lunge, but then they wouldn’t. they’d just realize they weren’t a threat. so all in all it went pretty great! thumper even flopped down and groomed himself a bunch next to baxter.
the only thing i’m curious about is nipping. at one point baxter looked like he was about to groom thumper, but instead, i think he nipped his head or neck? thumper just turned around and hopped a little bit away, and then nipped baxter’s butt. baxter flinched but didn’t move at all. is that just them communicating with each other?
one more thing: i always read about ending a session on a positive note, so that’s what i always tried to do/that’s what i did this time. i went to smush their faces together and pet them a bit, but then they must have been like “woah he’s moving toward me” because they both got defensive and actually lunged at one another. there was a tiny bit of fur pulled, but it was really quick and then they hopped away from each other without me having to intervene. am i going to ruin it for them because of that? obviously i don’t think i ruined the progress just by doing it once, but i guess i’m just curious what you guys think about it. i don’t want them to think the other one is getting territorial when really it’s just me moving them. i just didn’t know how to end on a positive note when they were on the opposite ends of the tub. (we did end on a positive note after that, as i managed to smush them and pet them for a few minutes.)
thanks in advance for any help!