Posts that engage in arguments have been deleted.
There will be differing opinions. Rudeness will not be tolerated. Stating a differing opinion is fine. It is one point of view that a person may feel is fact and stated as such. But there will be other points of view. If OP and a member do not agree, that’s okay. No need to argue about it.
Be kind.
Be helpful
Don’t scold
Do not resort to “reactionary” comments and judgmental tones. That is usually venting method, not a good communication method.
In written form, words can come of harsher than they seem. Both author and reader need to be aware of this. It’s best to ask the author or OP questions to clarify instead of assuming. For example. “I feel like you are judging or seem harsh. Do you mean to come off this way or am I reading it wrong?”
Or if you feel the OP or member is overlooking something, then there are productive ways — Ask, do not assume. Help with suggestions to the problem, and stay away from scolding tones and words. And if your suggestions are not heard or used, you did what you could. It’s up to the member to take the advice and use it. Let it be.