My nethie hates attention unless he initiates it. I can only pet him if he comes near me, and I show him my hand first so he can choose to be pet or not. Most of the time he runs off all happy without me petting him. He sometimes will even sit on my feet or lay next to me, but unless he shows me he wants attention, reaching for him will only make him run off. I think of it like consent with him. Unless he actively shows me he wants to be pet(since he cant speak), I wont reach for him at all. Petting him only when he ‘asks’ has really helped our bond and has helped him become more secure and comfortable when strangers come around
He hates to be picked up so I pick him up as little as possible. To get him where I need him to go, I use pellets/treats/greens
Your bunny is lunging as a way to show you that she really dislikes what you are doing. I want to add that bunny tummies are often ticklish (atleast, all three of my bunnies have ticklish tummies). If she wants to be pet, she will let you know. Instead, you should try bonding with her on her level. Lay on the floor and keep yourself busy (laptop, book, handheld game, draw, watch a movie, ect), and let her do her thing. If she comes near you, say hi, but dont reach for her. If she explores on your back/stomach depending on how you are laying, let her explore and dont reach for her. This is the easiest ways Ive found for buns and humans to bond as it shows the bun you are not a threat, and that you wont grab/reach/chase whenever your bun does not want it 