I’m so sorry this happened to you. In a way, it may be a good thing that the emergency vet was at least honest in telling you they couldn’t treat your bunny until there was no other option. As stated above, some vets will “see” rabbits when they have no idea and won’t tell you they have no idea. My (ex)boyfriend’s dad was/is a vet and when my Nefertari broke her back, he took her in. She was getting better, then “took a turn for the worse” and before we could euthanize her she died in my arms. Found out years later from a friend who had a friend that worked at the clinic at a time that the guy “had a rabbit that broke its back and he had no idea what to do with her”. So yeah, while it’s crappy that THAT’S the clinic you’re referred to, at least they are an honest clinic. It’s also nice to know that when things became impossible for finding another clinic, that they were willing to do the best they could despite not knowing much.
At the same time, you shouldn’t be referred to a clinic that can’t help you, and they should’ve done what they could before waiting so long.
But you did everything you could for Tobey. He knows you were trying to help, bunnies are just so frustratingly fragile. I’m still so sorry this happened to you and I’m sending healing vibes your way