i read somewhere she has to accept me as top bunny

Not sure where you read that but you are actually her slave now. For life.

Just kidding…kinda.

What sort of behaviours are making you scared? Often aggression from a rabbit is from their own fear.

Your bunny knows you are not a bunny, so you don’t have to try and be top bunny. A bunny will never listen to you the way a dog does. Please throw out all all ideas of establishing dominance over your bunny. Your bunny knows you are big and potentially a threat. The bunny will never try to dominate you. I know ideas like these about the relationship between humans and pets used to be very popular and they still are in some parts of the world, but it’s really not a modern ethology-based view.

Gaining a bunny’s trust is about letting the bunny know you are a resource. You bring the food, the water, the treats, the pets and the care, the fun toys and games, you protect the rabbit from danger etc. You are not going to hurt or eat the bunny. This is what your bunny should learn about you: That it’s good to be around you.

Let your bunny come to you to check you out. Bunnies are curious by nature. Don’t grab the bunny, don’t lift it up unless you absolutely have to. Reward her with (tiny pieces) of yummy treats (tiny pieces because you probably need to reward her often in the beginning and you don’t want her stuffing herself with treats). Bunnies do not want to be squeezed under any circumstances.

If you do this, your bunny and you will bond, but it won’t happen over night. Bunnies need time. You will need to be patient and don’t expect too much too soon.

Also make sure your bunny has a hiding place that she can seek out when she feels scared or just wants to be alone. Like an upside-down cardboard box with doors cut out.

Gaining a bunny’s trust is about letting the bunny know you are a resource.

So true! Haha

Pepperbunnymomma, have you ever read The Language of Lagomorphs?
It’s well worth a look.
http://language.rabbitspeak.com