I know this scenario! My male, Merlin, is the most chilled out bun ever. His fav things involve sleeping under the bed, relaxing in the sun and sitting in his box tower to watch us all go past. He likes strokes and will tooth chatter, but never binkies or plays ( i think he’s too old and dignified!)
But my girl, Luna, is a MADWOMAN! She loves to throw her tin food bowl around to hear it clank, digging, (ripping carpet) doing kamikaze leaps from things, running around the place at 6am and 10pm (you could set your clock by her.)
Buns are different, and you can enjoy both of their companies. Give your lady some things to throw, mine loves empty plastic pots, for the ‘bonk’ noise they make when thrown, loo roll tubes, tinkly balls stuffed with hay, all that. As for digging, mine was a nightmare until i found some straw matts for her to shred up. She has since left blankets and carpets alone, so something to think of!
I get to play with Luna and snuggle with Merlin. it sounds like you have the same – best of both worlds!