Well, you could write your parents a letter or send them an email about it. Letting your parents know will be the only way to stop this.

I agree with Sarita. You need to tell your parents exactly how you feel. My brother and I used to fight much worse when I lived at home. I used avoidance but he would come find me to pester me and I would respond negatively…. The only other advice I have is, don’t respond and she loses the satisfaction of getting a reaction out of you. I would tell you to avoid your room, but that would be hard to do.

Also, my brother and I get along great since we both moved out and went to school. So, hopefully you guys will do the same when you aren’t stuck together all the time

Unfortunately smothering her in her sleep is not an option as attractive as it may be. I would go the ignoring path. Not easy I know but it drives them up the wall. The behavior may escalate for a while but eventually they will get tired of the effort for no return.
I also agree with Sarita, you need to find a way to communicate this with your parents.
I had two older sisters one of which was and at times (even in her late 50’s) is still a troll. Now when she is being obnoxious I point out some of the little tricks I played on her that she never twigged to when she was younger. I.E. Some of the tasty and creative additions to her sandwhich fillings  when she would bully me into making her snacks.

When all else fails, remind her… She has to sleep sometimes and she can’t stand guard over her stuff 24/7… Retribution may be swift, covert and brutal !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whether or not you speak to your parents, you may want to journal each time, with the date, she terrorizes you and give a brief description. You’re too nice. If it were me I’d have already knocked her out.

Oh, that sucks big time.

You need to teach yourself to not cry when you need to talk to your parents. It may be hard, but you need to remember that they love you, and it shouldn’t scare you so much to talk to them. While being sensitive like you are can be a good thing, you need to find a way to reign it in, so that you won’t get taken advantage of later in life, like your sister is taking advantage of it now. Find something that gives you more confidence, and remember how it feels, and hold onto that feeling with the rest of what you do in life

I agree with meow and Roberta. If your parents aren’t going to put a stop to this, you’ll have to do it yourself. If she gets physical with you, don’t be afraid to defend yourself. If she knows you’ll just take it, she’ll keep doing it.

I wouldn’t be too worried about getting in trouble. If they won’t punish her, they won’t punish you either. Unless your parents are biased towards your sister.

I know it’s easier said than done but once you’ve shown her you won’t put up with this any longer, things will get better.

Good luck. My brother was a big bully when I was a kid and my parents never did a thing about it – they know it happened, my Grandmother knows it too and understands precisely why I don’t care much about contact with him now we’re adults (we exchange like maybe a sentence or two every few years). My parents just said it was “sibling rivalry” and “normal” and waved it off. Even with bruises, even with him in FRONT of my Mother telling me I was too fat to eat when I cooked myself food, even with me hiding in their bedroom to get away from him some days (they slept days, so I would sneak in and lay on their floor til they got up for work). So, yeah… talking may help, or it may not. And unfortunately, if it doesn’t, there is little you can do about it. Fighting back just makes a bully worse when you have to live with them. I hope your parents will talk to her for you though.

She can’t control her farting! Lol I think what you are experiencing is common in siblings who share the same room. Stickerbunny, your seems like straight up abuse though, bruises?! :/ my twin brother and I got in a fight once when we were younger and it involved him choking me, lifting me off the ground. And kicking me in the stomach after he released me and i fell to the floor. There IS a BIG difference between nit picking, as in poking and annoying you, and actual fighting where it can cause legit emotional damage in the future. I grew to forgive my twin brother. We are actually very close in the adult world and call each other almost every day to talk because we are thousands of miles apart.

It’s sibling rivalry but what kid wants to be told that? They will only understand it when they are grown up and witnessing it with the next generation lol

This too shall pass. :p you can talk to your parents if you want but they may not do a thing about it. This really is just a part of growing up and learning to live with people, even when they may not be as pleasant to be around.

Posted By colleenbunny on 06/14/2013 01:17 PM

Posted By Stickerbunny on 06/12/2013 02:56 PM
Good luck. My brother was a big bully when I was a kid and my parents never did a thing about it – they know it happened, my Grandmother knows it too and understands precisely why I don’t care much about contact with him now we’re adults (we exchange like maybe a sentence or two every few years). My parents just said it was “sibling rivalry” and “normal” and waved it off. Even with bruises, even with him in FRONT of my Mother telling me I was too fat to eat when I cooked myself food, even with me hiding in their bedroom to get away from him some days (they slept days, so I would sneak in and lay on their floor til they got up for work). So, yeah… talking may help, or it may not. And unfortunately, if it doesn’t, there is little you can do about it. Fighting back just makes a bully worse when you have to live with them. I hope your parents will talk to her for you though.

They had to go out for the past two nights. One thing that might be even worse is her farting…. I could BARELY go to bed last night.

Well, she can’t control that lol she can control the picking on you though.

And yeah I know my brother was abusive, I left out most of what he actually did cause it’s a bit TMI for a rabbit forum. :p Let’s just say I have learned to forgive, but will never forget, so we will never be close. I was just illustrating the point that parents often wave off siblings fighting, no matter how serious it may or may not get because it’s “normal”. Hopefully since they have a guest room though, colleen’s parents will let her move into that.  

I shared a room with my sister my entire life (well, from when she was born when I was 6). We were always at each other’s throats, but our house wasn’t big enough to have our own rooms, so it was just something we had to deal with.

If your house is large enough to give you your own room, can you ask for that… a guest bedroom is pointless if you have children who can hardly stand to be in each other’s presence? Or possibly a room in a finished basement? If they say ‘no’, continue to fill them in on what is going on. If she’s bothering you, tell them. If you cry, you cry. The next week, tell them again. You have to keep them informed of what is going on. At some point, they may finally realize that this is affecting you negatively and work to find another solution.