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Just to warn you guys, this is probably going to be a very long post as I have had a lot going on.
So for the past few months our family has been under a lot of stress. First, my sister had a stalker and whenever he shows up somewhere my sister was, she would have a panic attack and would shake and cry uncontrollably. Also, my Aunt decides to leave my Uncle after about 20 years of marriage! Her daughter who married last summer also decides to get a divorce too!
To top it off I have been struggling with ballet. I have been in it for 3 years and am now in the highest level ballet. I hate my teacher as she singles me out and picks on me until I feel like crying. She acts like she hates her job and wants to retire. I also have been having some issues with my ankle, knees, and hip that are making dance very difficult and painful. Besides that, I am not enjoying it any more. Ever day I have dance ( which is 4 days a week) I wake up and feel discouraged and dreadfully count down the hours until I have to leave. My Mom has threatened to pull me out of dance if I continue to complain but something is holding me back that makes me want to stay in it, but I don’t know what!
All this stress made me very excited for our 2 week vacation to Florida! A few days before we left, our cousins decided to come to Florida for a week. I used to be best friends with my cousin but the last few years me and her have had a lot of tension between us. I was OK with the fact of them coming for a week as we would have a whole other week after they left to our selves. But of coarse, It ended up being one of the most stressful trips I have EVER had. First my Aunt walks ALL THE TIME! Its becoming to be unhealthy ( she does it so she doesn’t get fat although she wont admit it)! She walks 6-7 miles a day! Now she has her kids walking with her! So ever morning they would go for a two mile walk on the beach, then later for another 2 mile walk in the neighborhood, and then at sunset another 2 mile walk on the beach! Every time they would go for a walk they would ask me if I wanted to come. I would say no because I HATE walking and walking on the beach hurts my hip. Then they would make you feel like you were lazy because we didn’t want to go. Then a few days before they were supposed to leave, my aunt got sick while driving. She felt like she was going to pass out and kept on tipping forward. She tried to drive home but 3 hours into the trip she got sick again and we had to go pick her up. She ended up staying another week until her husband could fly down to drive her home!
We were very nice to them and didn’t show that we were upset because it wasn’t her fault she was sick. But we only had 2 days after she left to have a family vacation.
Ever since I came home, mocha has been scared of me! every move I make he goes running for cover in his house! I changed their set up a little, maybe he isn’t liking it. I guess I could switch it back. I am just really discouraged because before I left for Florida I was able to pet him a little.
Sorry for the long rant but I have been very stressed out lately. I appreciate every one who took the time to read this.
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First off, so sorry there’s so much negativity going in for you right now. That’s a LOT to handle, I think anyone would be stressed by all that.
As far as the dancing, if you dread it that much, get a new teacher. If you’re at the top level of the sport, you obviously enjoyed it and had a passion for it at some time. Don’t let the teacher ruin that for you. Some people do well with the style of teaching she’s using (singling you out), some don’t. I had a music teacher like that (I’m a classical musician), and it destroyed my confidence. I really regret not dumping him as a teacher sooner.
And that really sucks about your vacation, I hate when things don’t go to plan when you really needed that destress time. Maybe try to have a tiny “vacation” every day. Sit for 30 minutes, relax, do whatever the heck you want. Eat ice cream. Watch tv. Play with the bunnies! Make it a point to schedule a bit of down time every day for yourself.
As for Mocha, you know bunnies are creatures of habit. The cage rearrange, plus you leaving and coming back, probably just shook him up a bit. Just give it some time, I’m sure he’ll readjust.
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I know this is true at least for me, when I do something that I love, but have to do it under someone else’s standards, I start hating it! I am an artist, and taking art class upset me cuz I was never doing it the “right” way…when I don’t have those deadlines and restrictions to meet, I love art! When it starts to feel like a job, I can’t stand it. Some people can do art for their career, but I’m not one of them. I want the freedom to do what I want when I want, at least when it comes to my talent. I’m not telling you to quit, because by the sounds of it you are very very talented, but maybe a fresh start might be good for you, somewhere you can be more expressive and do your own thing. I know nothing about dance tho, so my advice may not be too good lol
Sorry to hear about your mocha
be patient he will come around 
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Looks like to me then you have found another passion, and you can always have dance to do in your spare time, but instead of it stressing you out with your teacher, you can use it to relax and express yourself without worrying about how good/bad someone else thinks it is. Thats why I won’t do art for a living. Its my relaxer, not my money maker lol
sorry about your horse I have never owned horses but I can imagine how tough it would be to lose one
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Awhhhh I’m sorry things have been so stressful lately!
First off, that is so scary that your sister has a stalker. I would just be very careful but that kind of stuff can be dangerous.
Similar thing that you’re going through with dance happened to me with gymnastics, it was so serious, I was doing 15-20 hours a week for many years and I just lost my passion for it and it just became a stressor. I’m not saying you should quit, but I’m glad I ended it, though I still wish maybe I could have done it for fun sometimes. That’s why I try not to get too serious about horse back riding.
I am sorry that you lost your horse
. Losing a horse is really a painful thing to go through. What kind of riding did you do? Would there be any chance you could join a stable and keep a horse there (or lease/share board one)?
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