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BINKYBUNNY FORUMS

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- 09/16/2011 at 10:18 PM
  MoveDiagonally
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  My husband and I have owned our home for two years. About six months ago a friend of ours needed a place to stay after a bad break up and we offered him our spare room until he could find a place. I feel like six months has been “long enough” but he has been too busy going out and partying to save up money to move. Which by itself wouldn’t bother me too much, he pays rent and I’m not his mother…. BUT he has a large malamute border collie mix, Aspen.
  
  I am a dog person. I love dogs. I love Aspen but he is a handful. He is a rescue from a neglectful home and can’t really be around our dogs because he has not been socialized. He is destructive and has torn up and shredded a chunk of carpet in the room his owner is renting. He ripped up our trim around our back door and in the room. He ripped into our back and garage door. He has shredded our clothes, blankets, and pillows… And what has our roommate said when all this has happened? “I’m sorry”. No offer to pay for damages, nothing.
  
  The roommate is rarely ever home and it falls on us to take care of Aspen. When I complained about it he told me that we “didn’t have to” take care of his dog… As if leaving him locked in a bedroom he was destroying was even an option! I am just so frustrated. I did not adopt this dog and to be honest I WOULD NOT have adopted this dog. The rescue roommate adopted from conceiled his history of aggression and he cannot be around people he does not know or children.
  
  I don’t want to come off as if Aspen doesn’t have his good qualities or that I feel he is undeserving of a good home. He can be very sweet and is a prolific cuddler (when he calms down). I just feel like he needs a home that can deal with him and an owner that thinks spending time with him is more important than going to a party.
  
  Husband wants to kick out roommate but last time we mentioned him finding another place to live he told us he would have to “get rid of” Aspen because he can’t afford a place that allows dogs. When people make comments like that they are usually trying to keep others emotionally hostage and while I hate emotional games I don’t want harm to come to this dog. I just want to get my life and family back to normal.
  
  Sorry this ended up being longer than I intended. >.<
  
  EDITED TO ADD: We also pay for Aspen’s monthly flea treatments, clip his nails, and give him baths. Roommate doesn’t/won’t do these things.
  
  To offset the complaining see a cute picture of my dogs below:
- 09/16/2011 at 10:44 PM
  Monkeybun
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  Honestly, I would boot him out. He is letting his dog, which he doesn’t take care of, destroy the home you worked hard for. If he has to rehome the dog after moving, it isn’t your fault. He doesn’t sound like he should own one anyway. The dog would be better off going back to the shelter, and getting an owner that will help the dog get socialized and obedience classes.
- 09/16/2011 at 10:54 PM
  Joyfull_music
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  I have to agree with Monkeybun. Most shelters will take a dog back and try to re-home it. The dog is in desperate need of someone who will take proper care of him. He is destructive because he is bored/frustrated. A trait common VERY in both of those breeds.
  
  Your dogs are very cute. The boxer mix looks a lot like my boxador. Do you know what he is crossed with? Because he seriously looks like a boxador to me.
  
  My boxador:
- 09/16/2011 at 11:17 PM
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  Monkeybun & Joyfull_music: That’s where my husband is at and I’m getting there… At first I thought roommates behavior was a product of his break up (he was engaged and with her for 6 years). I was willing to excuse the behavior because at one point he was a really good dog owner and friend. Now I just feel used by the situation and need to stop letting his disrespectful and irresponsible behavior slide. Thank you!
  
  Joyfull_music: First off, your dog is so cute! I’m not sure what she is. The vet guessed she might be mixed with pit or american bull. Some people have mentioned Labrador. Her nose isn’t quite as long as your pups but longer than a boxer.
- 09/16/2011 at 11:45 PM
  LizzieKnittyBun
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  Ugh, I would be outraged at this behavior. If he were actually trying to save up money and fix his life, that would be one thing. But partying all the time and just letting that poor dog be shut up and destroy your place…. that is inexcusable behavior. This guy is either extremely thoughtless, or he’s so low that he just doesn’t care about anything anymore.
  
  I would give him an ultimatum. He either pays for the damages and stops the partying so that he can take care of his dog, or he has to leave. I totally understand you don’t want this poor dog to be abandoned, but it sounds like that’s where it’s going no matter what you do. This “friend” is using you. I have a feeling that he’s going to get rid of the dog anyway.
  
  No good deed…
- 09/17/2011 at 3:20 AM
  jerseygirl
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  I agree with the other posters. It will be tough but necessary. Your friend may not see it this way, but you and your husband would be better friend to him by actually kicking his butt into gear.
  
  If he uses the excuse he’d have to get rid of Aspen then maybe it’s a good opportunity for the dog to go into better care. You could offer to find Aspen a suitable home if you wanted. Honestly, I think you and your husband would oversee that better then your friend would. One thing though, I wouldn’t allow him to go back to the shelter he came from. Highly irresponsible they let a dog with those tendencies go out without adopters knowing about it. There are better shelters out there! Malamute/border collie…he must be gorgeous despite the behaviours.
  
  You needn’t feel responsible for either your friends situation or his dog really. You’ve been generous enough already. A suggestion: You could tell your friend that your husband and you made an agreement with each other that it would be 6 months before you extended the offer to your friend to come stay. Then you have a way to bring up that it’s time without it seeming personal. You’d have to stay firm and not take on board any of the excuses he brings up though. I hope you can come to a happy resolution!!
- 09/17/2011 at 4:28 AM
  LittlePuffyTail
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  I’d tell him he has another month to find a place. You’ve given him long enough to get his life back together. I have no tolerance for adults that just want to party all the time and not take responsibility for anything.
- 09/17/2011 at 6:09 PM
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  Posted By Monkeybun on 09/16/2011 10:44 PM
  Honestly, I would boot him out. He is letting his dog, which he doesn’t take care of, destroy the home you worked hard for. If he has to rehome the dog after moving, it isn’t your fault. He doesn’t sound like he should own one anyway. The dog would be better off going back to the shelter, and getting an owner that will help the dog get socialized and obedience classes.
  
  EXACTLY.
  
  This dog deserves better than him, and you deserve better than him. ”Get rid of” the roommate.
  
  If he makes another comment about giving up the dog, encourage him. ”You know, we’ve been thinking about that; we feel that at this point in your life, it’s probably for the best.”
  
  Maybe even offer some support. ”It will be hard, so if you want, we’ll go with you when you surrender him.”
  
  Don’t allow him to emotionally hold you hostage. You have your own home, animals, and family to think about.
  
  And BTW, I don’t even want to think about what type of person would have a dog cooped up in a bedroom while other dogs are allowed to play in the house, go outside, etc. I know that you could not NOT take care of the dog. You’re too good of a person!
- 09/17/2011 at 6:25 PM
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  Honestly, the dog deserves to find a new home – the guy isn’t a responsible pet owner OR room mate. Get rid of him and offer to help him rehome the dog.
  
  The dog is adorable though. Too bad she got stuck with such a worthless owner (sorry, but he is not treating her right!)
- 09/17/2011 at 10:19 PM
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  Your dog is a boxador just like mine. I am sure of it. She has the EXACT same body type as my Zeke. I do not see any pit in there at all. Pits are much more stubby and round. I will have to find a better pic of Zeke for you sometime with him standing. You would think they were twins! Except Zeke has his tail. His muzzle is a little bit longer like you mentioned. What is funny with my dog is how he has a long lab-like muzzle with a boxer under bite. He always looks like he is pouting.
  
  Also in my experience, and I do not know why, vets suck at determining dog breeds. You are better off asking an experienced trainer, or a walking dog breed encyclopedia like my self. I am very good at it.
- 09/17/2011 at 11:23 PM
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  Thank you everyone!
  
  You guys are right that Aspen would be better off in another home. He would definitely make a good dog for someone who would put the time into training him and redirecting his energy.
  
  It’s time for things to get back to normal. Husband mentioned today that in the past roommate has talked about getting a place that doesn’t allow dogs and just keeping Aspen in his car. What?! Not acceptable! Husband and I are going to have a serious discussion about how we’re going to go about getting our house back. Hopefully we can figure out how to help Aspen in the process.
  
  (Stickerbunny – The dog in the picture is my dog not Aspen )
- 09/17/2011 at 11:50 PM
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  Joyfull_music – I think the vet said “pit mix” because most mixes around here are. I never saw much pit in her either. Boxador sounds cool! I’ll have to tell Ripley what she is
  
  Your dog is so handsome! I loooooove our dogs coloring. Do you know if it’s still called brindle? Or something else because it’s darker? I wish my pups had their tails.
- 09/18/2011 at 11:05 AM
  jerseygirl
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  Joyfull, I can certainly see the lab in your Zeke but what about the white markings Ripley has? Do you think that’s a clue to any other breed? (I am thinking of a breed but would feel ridiculous to say it )
  And no, it’s not Dutch. Lol Though I may be confusing some of the clues in picking rabbit breeds with picking dog breeds. I have talent in neither but I do like the puzzle.
- 09/18/2011 at 6:07 PM
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  Yes the coloring is still called brindle. There is even a newer variation of it called reverse-brindle. The dark almost completely overpowers the lighter streaks. Black boxers are becoming popular, and a black boxer is actually a reverse-brindle. You have to really be looking to even see the brown, but it is there.
  
  The white on Ripley’s dog is from the boxer mix. Most boxers do have white on their chest, paws, and face. I also notice she has the “boxador ears” almost every boxador I have ever seen has these distinct looking ears that are lab shaped, but a little shorter, and are held higher and more forward facing, like a boxer.
- 09/18/2011 at 11:34 PM
  jerseygirl
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  lol. Yeah I had that light bulb moment well after I’d logged off. Heheh
- 09/20/2011 at 3:25 PM
  TriBun
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  Aww Ripley that is crappy! I’ve had friends turn into roommates turn into enemies. He has to go. For the sake of your friendship, your house, and your piece of mind. The best way to do it is set a date. A firm date! Give him a month. This is plenty of time to find another place. You will see that date get closer and him not even TRY to look. He will use everything he’s got to manipulate you. Be prepared to move his stuff out on the lawn. Be firm. You are being used in the worst way!
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