I would ask for it. Your grandpa doesn’t want her to have it, you need it, buns need to not destroy your stuff. Sounds like a good idea to me. bee and Indy won’t die if they have to be in an xpen, though they may make you think they will for the first bit.

I would ask for it and not tell the cousin. Haha. It would be sad for the buns to be locked up while you’re away, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting some nice things for yourself without teeth marks. I’m sure your grandpa would be happy to give it to you knowing you’d love it and take good care of it, and just hope the cousin doesn’t find out.

Well, is this going to fit in your bedroom first of all? I think you definitely deserve something nice as long as you don’t have to pay storage fee’s and it will work for you right now.

I would ask for it. The example you posted is a very polite and non-pushy way to ask for it as well. It seems you are close with your grandparents and have been great to them, so why shouldn’t you be entitled to it?

as for the buns, I know how you feel! they’ve destroyed the curtain and all this other stuff in my living room, so as much as it breaks my heart, I put them in an x-pen when I’m gone. but, you can always let them out for supervised free time when you’re home. the x-pen really is a decent space for them, we are just bunny suckers =P

I say ask. Doesn’t sound like a fun bedroom set to move so make sure you have plenty of strong men to help :~)

I would definitely ask him for it. It would be a legacy set that you will cherish for years, and it sounds like you will grow into it more, not less. In fact, you are already ready to appreciate it and treat it well. You will have bunnies for many years to come as well, and I remember that point where you want the bunnies trained and limited if it means you can have your home the way you want it. By limited I mean their own room, or an xpen, or certain areas for play and exercise but other areas off limits.

I am also concerned that the cousin is being sneaky, and with a bad substance abuse habit may just sell it off for more drug money etc. It’s not dishonoring your grandfather’s wishes to want something you really do want for it’s own value, not it’s $ value.

It’s often much better to be able to give children and grandchildren heirlooms while you are alive so you really let your exact wishes known. As long as you don’t end up like King Lear – out on the moors with only a Fool for company.
Ask him.

I’ve got my grandparent’s on my dad’s side dining room table with chairs and hutch. They are not fancy but are sturdy wood pieces. I would not take anything for them since they were theirs and they’re gone now. I say ask for the furniture and then don’t say anything to the cousins.

You could also offer to pay something for it. Your Grandfather might not accept any money for it if it’s going to family but it’s still nice to offer. Sort of demonstrates you value it and respect him. I’ll say little about the cousin who owes 20K and is trying to…

If you did get this set, could you actually raise the bed or would the post prevent this? I’m always thinking about bed raisers.  It just such a good way of protecting a bed but still allowing floor space for other stuff such as storage & bunnies!  To pen the buns is definately wise though, I’m surprised you haven’t penned Bee & Indy sooner. lol   I don’t think owners should feel bad about it as, like you say, they just sleep in a small area anyway. By containing them we’re not only protecting our things but protecting the rabbits also.

I would definitely ask for it! And if you get it, I want to see pics when it’s set-up! If you scale your room down as far as extras (like the fish tank and other unnecessary furniture, I think it could work.

It’s nice to have nice things! As a couple, we’re finally moving more into the stage of our lives where we are buying quality furniture, rather than strictly trying to save a penny. All of our cheap (excuse me) CRAP has finally broken down or deteriorated so we are replacing with real wood furniture and stuff that will last longer than a year or two. I eventually want to get a really nice desk (I have an old Sauder one that’s literally falling apart!) but that will probably have to wait. Nice wood desks are EXPENSIVE!

I’m curious Lin…is this the same grandpapa that you were just sailing and flying with? Because it seems as though the two of you have a very special bond and I can see why it would be important to you to want these lovely items.
Some relatives simply see things as having a price tag on them, whatever their motives…and others know that there is some value beyond money to something that someone who is dear to us owned and used in their lifetime. I have a lovely old dresser and telephone table from my grandfather’s house (who I grew up with) and when I look at these things, although they haven’t been in the best of shape since our move from California, I can still see my Papa there, and hear his voice and it cheers me to remember how it was when he was here. I am certain that how you treasure him will come through in your voice if you ask your grandpapa for his permission to have these items.
I also understand your wanting the buns to not further destroy your things. It is a hard decision to make, keeping bunnies from romping where they wish, or live with tattered essentials… bunnies are masters at teaching us that, “it’s just STUFF, Mom!”

I’m trying to become a little less attached to ‘things’ myself, and would like to teach my kids the same lesson as we all have revolved around our stuff a bit too much in our lives, to the point where it’s become a big problem. Not meaningful heirlooms, but just knick-knacks, you know. At any rate I don’t want my kids arguing over who gets what someday. They don’t get along well enough as it is. It’s a sad thing.

Very pretty!

ooo pretty. I am glad your dad is fine with it too Get cleaning!

That’s gorgeous! How soon does it need to be out of the house… if you have time, you might want to paint or something once everything is moved out. Have a nice fresh room!

Ooooo! Very gorgeous!

I’m late, but I was going to suggest maybe offering to buy it. I always think it makes asking for things a bit easier all around because you’re not being seen as cheap/freeloader/greedy, etc. I’m sure your grandpa would’ve just gave it you anyways. For me personally, I don’t feel comfortable just asking to have something so unless it’s offered to me or being sold, I don’t ever say anything.

Try not to feel guitly about the change to your bunny’s freedom.  I have hand me down furniture for both my bedroom and living room.  So whenever I am finally able to get new furniture, nobunny is going to allowed to even THINK about touching it.  LOL  

That’s lovely! My kind of bedroom set. It sounds like according to your Dad it’s yours. He will get your Papa’s blessing, but I think it’s now a gift for both of you, since he loves you, you love him, and you both love it. Your cousin had her gift. Your turn now.

Was just going to ask if you’d taken the carpet out yet! Good chance to do it.

I like green walls and think it goes well with that colour furniture. But you gotta have something you want to live with. One consideration is choose something that won’t clash with the wood tone as the set will be dominant colour in the room.  What ever colour you decide on paint, make sure you LOVE IT because it’d be such a pain if you want to change it after the bed arrives. Lol

I love green, but I prefer very muted earthy greens. Get to the hardware store and grab some swatches of your favorite colors. Now is the time to do it!

I understand your grandpa wanting to stay out of it.  And I think that’s good.  Of course, it might not be the resounding approval you were seeking from him, but I think it’s obvious he wants you to have it.  They might look at your dad as just keeping all the good stuff for him and his family, but let them think that… 

An FYI:  I edited your cousin’s name out of your recent post.  Just for privacy reasons…