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When my boyfriend and I took home Peppy and Milo, it was always with the understanding that they were under his name and he would keep them, since I’m planning to move to another city a couple of hours away in a few months. Needless to say, I love them to bits by now and can’t bear to move away from them
. They are both adopted under his name, and he loves them every bit as much as I do.
Since I’ve gotten involved with the bunny shelter here, I’ve started to seriously consider the idea of adopting a bunny for myself. Though I’ve “had” four bunnies, none of them have been entirely mine; Tammo and Remi are family pets and Peppy and Milo are technically my bf’s but I love each and every little bun so much, regardless of whose they are. I’ve never entirely lived by myself before, and knowing me, I will be terribly lonely without company and a little bun sounds like just what I would need. While I’ve been looking for apartments, I’ve even been asking about their policy on bunnies…the place I’ve picked out will let me have a bunny with no extra fees.
I kind of feel bad about the whole arrangement because it almost seems like I’m trying to replace my little babies or something
. There would be no plans to bond the propspective bunny with Peppy and Milo in the forseeable future either. Plus, from a practical perspective, my boyfriend will be visiting with Peppy and Milo every couple of weeks; would it be a problem to bring them over temporarily if there were another bunny living at my place? On the other hand, I love the idea of being able to take another bunny from the shelter since I know that I will be giving him a good home.
Ok yea, I’m not sure where I’m going with this…I don’t even know if I have a question, I’m just venting/looking for input of any kind. Opinions? Considerations that I haven’t thought of?
I dont think you would be replacing Peppy and Milo. You are adding to your bunny family!!!
The biggest concern I would have is are you going to have time for a rabbit? You will be going to school and possibly working…
Then again, even a home where the rabbit is being taken care of but spending limited time with you is probably better than being in a shelter.
I am in the process of adopting a new bunny that I cant keep at my apartment. I am keeping her at my parent’s place and letting my brother be a foster parent for a while for me. I guess I am of the mind set that if you can afford to take on an animal and you will be giving it a better life, do it!!!
When Peppy and Milo come to visit, you can cage the new bun or let them all get to be friends!
I don’t think your getting another bunny is a bad idea with the arrangement you are expecting, but I think you should get settled into your new home before you make any decisions.
You may find that Peppy and Milo visit more often than you originally expected, or that plans otherwise don’t quite go the way you expect in ways that make getting another bunny not a good idea. If every thing works out as you thought it would, then you can get a new bunny a few weeks after you’ve moved in. If things aren’t quite as you imagined them though, you will be free to change plans without trying to figure out how to do so with a bunny.
Also, moving will just be easier without the bunny.
I second Eepster. I would wait say, a month or two after moving into the new place so that you’ve established a routine for yourself and with your bfs visiting schedule to see how a bunny would fit in.
I’m about to do the exact opposite, Kate and Spence are ‘my’ bunnies and I will be taking them with me when I move for law school in July. My boyfriend is going to be sad, but he’s going to come visit us. He’s considering getting another pet too, but I think he’s leaning towards a cat.
I would also wait a little bit. It’s hard to move, especially long distance, so first getting yourself relocated, and set-up will be much easier without a bunny. Then when you’re set to go, you can look into bringing a new bunny home.
I read that you’re going to medical school? I totally get wanting a companion, but I think maybe you should give it a couple months, adjust to the move, change of pace, courseload etc.
I don’t see it as replacing your bunnies though. Maybe you could look into fostering since (I assume) the goal is for someday to be back with you boyfriend and the 4 bunnies? If you have your own bun then, you might not be able to bond them and then you’ll have to make accommodations, where as if you if you foster and wait a few years until you’re all settled together, you could find *your* bunny with playdates and such ![]()
Speaking as someone finishing up 2nd year of med school and about to launch into a month-long cram session for USMLE Step 1, the addition of a bunny into my apartment has been the highlight of this last semester (which has been pretty awful, to be honest). It’s really nice to come home to Daphne, or study on the floor with her while she tries to chew the sticky paper tabs off my notes (she seriously LOVES grabbing the tabs, and then she looks ridiculous with a blue 3M tab sticking out her mouth like a tongue – which I do grab away from her, so she’s not actually eating it, haha)…anyway, I digress. The point is: med school will be better with a bunny
I’m not sure moving with a new bun versus getting a bun in the new city really makes a difference – in fact, with your involvement with the shelter in your current city, it might be nicer to take a piece of “home” with you. As for the babies you already have, they’ll be visiting plenty and you can think of them as cousins to your new bun and someday merge the whole fam together.
Fostering is a good idea too!
i would habe to agree allie! i went to school a few hours away from my family and my pet included. i had a guinea pig at the time and had to leave him with my brother and i hated being away from everything that meant something to me, incuding Keenan, my guinea pig. i was TERRIBLY lonely when i went to school and begged my parents to let me stay home and not have to go back. i hated being away from my family, friends and my baby boy. it was awful and to this day, i still hurt when i think about it.
i got keenan back after 2 years and thankfully he lived to be 10 years old but he helped me through sooo much and i was devestated when he died in his 11th year. i wish i could have taken him with me when i moved for school. it was have made even getting settled in go a lot happier.
this is just my 2 cents. i can understand everyone elses point of view of wait til your settled and bringing one with you. depends on yourself. i personally wanted to bring him with me. a piece of hime, comfort and love with me right from the begining to share the journey with but i couldnt and it broke my heart.
I think you could do the move with a new bunny. My only piece of advice would be to set aside a room that will be unpacked last and put his/her cage in there. Unpacking can be soooo overwhelming for everybody! Just make sure not to put the cage in the middle of all the chaos.
Thanks for the input everybody. I can’t imagine not having a bunny, but it’s true that it might be easier to get settled without one first. Even so, I don’t think the logistics of moving with a bunny would be that bad, since I really don’t have all that much stuff. Like Tate said, it would be fairly easy to keep the bunny in a carrier until space for an xpen could be cleared out. I’m pretty sure I’d have time in the long run for a bunny, and my boyfriend/parents could care for him if I need to be gone for a while.
As for eventually reuniting everyone, it’s really a shot in dark when and if that will ever happen. Because of my prospective career path I will be moving every few years for the forseeable future, while the boyfriend will probably remain in the same city. I don’t think I would consider permanently reuniting our big fuzzy bunny family until I have a relatively permanent residence and won’t have to uproot everybody randomly. And, to be entirely realistic, I do realize that things may come between us in these years, though I dearly hope not. For what it’s worth though, Peppy and the bunny I have in mind had a chance to meet while we were bunny dating, and they got along quite well.
I’m honestly not sure if I could foster…I’ve always thought it was amazing how foster parents can give so much love and attention and then bear to see the bunny go in a few months. I don’t think that’s something that I can do
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I’m wondering, though…would it be stressful for the bunnies to “visit” one another every couple of weeks? While I would like them to be friendly, it would be kind of sad if they got too friendly to the point of missing the others when they leave. Of course, I wouldn’t leave them together without a barrier during visits.
I’ve also been talking to my boyfriend about this; I think both of us would like me to eventually adopt another bunny, and we also said too that they can be cousins, lol. But wait, if they’re cousins then that would make the bf and I….ok nvm that.
Kate – isn’t it cute how the boyfriends fall for the bunnies? Everybody assumes that the bunnies are mine and that he puts up with them, but few people know that he was the one that convinced me into adopting a bunny at first, since he wanted a pet. I always say that he will appear to be a bit odd, being a guy living alone with two bunnies (though there seem to be some pretty cool bunny guys on the forum, no offense!)
Allie – thanks for the input from a medical school perspective…I think life is infinitely better with a bunny, much less medical school! What are you planning to do for Daphne when you’ll have to be on call for extended hours during rotations?
I just want to wish you luck with whatever you decide. It is tough to know what to do when you can’t foresee the future. I was going to suggest fostering, too, but I completely understand why you wouldn’t want to. I couldn’t do it either.
Posted By peppypoo on 05/15/2011 01:10 PM
I’ve also been talking to my boyfriend about this; I think both of us would like me to eventually adopt another bunny, and we also said too that they can be cousins, lol. But wait, if they’re cousins then that would make the bf and I….ok nvm that.Kate – isn’t it cute how the boyfriends fall for the bunnies? Everybody assumes that the bunnies are mine and that he puts up with them, but few people know that he was the one that convinced me into adopting a bunny at first, since he wanted a pet. I always say that he will appear to be a bit odd, being a guy living alone with two bunnies (though there seem to be some pretty cool bunny guys on the forum, no offense!)
Allie – thanks for the input from a medical school perspective…I think life is infinitely better with a bunny, much less medical school! What are you planning to do for Daphne when you’ll have to be on call for extended hours during rotations?
Excellent question. Not quite sure, yet, to be honest. It sounds like only two of the rotations 3rd year are notoriously bad with hours (Ob-gyn and Surgery – lasting 8 weeks each), so that’s definitely one reason I’m going to finally get an X-pen for her to at least have “some” room to hop around in for the 12+ hours I won’t be home. Also, one of my roommates will be on a completely different rotation schedule (she’s doing the “easy” ones with little call when I’m doing the “hard” ones), so I’m hoping she’ll bond with Daphne and let her out once in a while when she’s home. Plus, I’ll probably give the BF a key so he can stop by and let her roam around when he’s not on a tough rotation either. Essentially, I have a feeling that Daphne is going to raised by a pack of med students next year, haha
I honestly think it sounds like a great idea! Whether you move first, or move with the bunny, I think it will be great to have a companion.
When your bf visits, I wouldn’t let the bunnies meet at all – just keep them to separate areas. Sometimes introducing a new bun can break an existing bond and you wouldn’t want Peppy and Milo to start fighting.
Good luck with med school! Not sure how many days in a row you have to be on call, but I wouldn’t worry about leaving a bunny alone for 12 hours one or twice a week. We leave for work at 7:30 and often don’t return until 7:00 in the evening. If we go out with friends it’s even later and the bunnies are just fine! We feed them in the morning and then right at bedtime (which we keep pretty consistent, since we’re lame and get tired at 10:00). That way we never miss a dinner time like we would if we fed them earlier in the evening.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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