Not dumb at all! I was confused by this for a while also.
Oat hay is harvested while the seed heads are still attached and immature. Really good, fresh oat hay is also greenish or yellowish and has dried leaves on the stems. Oat hay is considered a food.
Straw is what is left in the fields after the grain has been harvested, so it is all stems. Very tough, little to no nutritional value, it is considered a bedding or a mulch. Straw is also much cheaper than oat hay because of its limited value as a feed. The ‘hay bales’ people put out around Halloween are almost always straw.
My buns love the little clusters of seeds and the dried leaves. They sometimes eat the stems, sometimes not. Dr. Harvey in particular is a fan of oat hay, she says the stems and tough coatings on the seed heads are good for bunnies’ teeth.
Now, can some horse person explain to me the difference between ‘grass hay’ and ‘forage hay’ ?