Hi Lisa! : ) My goodness what time is it in Oz? Anyhoo, yes a lot of vets like to wait a bit longer to spay the female and a lot of times that means past 4 months because it is invasive and it is major surgery. They can be spayed that early, but it is not necessarily always done that early. It’s best to go with what the vet recommeds and is comfortable with. I think that the consensus is that it be done before one year of age.
As for separating mum from the girls. Well, with any kids, they will pester her and it is possible they will still bug mum and try to feed. Often as soon as the babies are weaned, they are separated between males and females and mum goes off on her own and is sceduled and sent in for a spay and recovers by herself. By that time the babies are socializing with each other, mum gets to to heal in peace and the babes just bug one another with their boundless energy and antics. = : )
Anyway, that’s my take on the subject.