Sorry about your previous bun.
Female bunnies are known, generally, to be more difficult (due to territorial nesting tendencies) than males. It does depend on the breed and individual personality. Neutering/spaying too late can also result in a problematic behaviors that are hard to train out.
My doe, Mars (spayed), is more curious and energetic than my buck so she also gets into the most trouble. She digs like crazy, chews, pees specifically on tiles as well as her litterbox (weird but at least its easy to clean), and always manages to find something to get into and is soooo defiant. She is somewhat affectionate (at least more than my buck) in that she’ll approach me and tolerate some petting; though she completely flips out if I try to pick her up. She is quite a climber and hops up to the highest points she can get to, like the top of the armchair headrest. She doesn’t hesitate to explore new territory or new objects (including taste tasting them immediately), even jumping up on the glass coffee table in spite of its slippery surface. Basically, she’s a brat that’s a joy to watch her antics.
My buck, Reese (neutered), compared to Mars, is less hyper, just chills out most of the time – though has his 30min-ish of binkying and bunny 500’s each night and morning, more aggressively than Mars so wears himself out much faster – chews a bit, doesn’t approach too close to me very often and is more skittish about petting or sudden movements or sounds. He approaches new territory and objects with caution. He also doesn’t like being picked up but resigns himself to it more quickly with less thrashing than Mars. He doesn’t get into much mischief – though Mars sometimes teaches him bad habits as he’ll copy her but lose interest sooner – and is better litter trained.
They are both Tan breed, which is known as a “cheetah on a double espresso” and whip smart and very trainable for tricks. But they’re not lap rabbits because they can’t sit still and are too nosy.
My previous buck, Peter, was a Netherland Dwarf and was somewhere in the middle. He chewed everything no matter how many toys I tried to distract him with or deterrents I used. He was hyper with impressive binkying and bunny 500’s (though mellowed out a bit with age), and enjoyed being pet, would sit beside me on the sofa for attention. He would even cuddle with me in bed at night occasionally. He wasn’t as difficult as Mars but not as easy as Reese. He was also neutered late.
As said, it will just be a matter of spending some time with some buns in the shelter and choosing the bun that captures your heart or the bun that chooses you.