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Ok thank you for all your advice. I will try all of it this time.  I’ll let you know how it goes. I appreciate you

So after 5 hours with them today, it feels like they are 98% or so bonded. The biggest problem is still Pancake trying to mount occasionally. It seems like she’ll try a few times in a short window, but most of the session she is fine. (although, I’ve been doing afternoons so could get worse if different time) Today, there was a mix of sleeping…[Read more]

I’ve had really good luck bonding in larger spaces (like 2 x-pens linked up). Since you’ve already tried smaller spaces I think it’s worth a shot to just try the larger space from the get go. But a space the size of an x-pen can work too. I have also routinely taken buns for sleep overs at friend’s houses when I’ve run out of neutral space…[Read more]

Thank you! How big of space would you recommend for the bonding sessions? I have time. I stay at home. So time is not an issue luckily. Should I start with big space and not do the small? The permanent home I had them in when I thought they were bonded was about 9.5 feet by 4.5 feet. That’s where they stayed unsupervised and I let them out t…[Read more]

Ah ok! Yes that is a pretty fast timeline and a relatively small space. I think I would aim to do several days or even a couple of weeks of very long sessions before going for the marathon, with maybe some overnights scattered in there. Try to vary the time of day as well.  I would go for a larger space to encourage the type of movements that…[Read more]

Ah I see! If she starts getting relentless again with the mounting, I’ll give a car ride a shot. They are fine together in a carrier so it’s an option for sure.

I don’t want to get my hopes up since they’ve got stuck around this point in the past, but it does feel like we may be getting over the “hump” (fingers crossed!).

I tried to delete some…[Read more]

Thank you so much for the response. I started in a large Tupperware bin for 30 min. Then next day two hours. They were fine and grooming each other in these sessions. Then I moved to a 2×3 pen in neutral area with just water and hay. Started with two hours they were great. Next day increased to 3 hours they were great. Snuggling and flopping next…[Read more]

I was thinking the car ride might actually help her to stop mounting! Weirdly enough I’ve noticed a huge drop in mounting whenever I’ve done car rides. So just something to consider 🙂

Sounds like they had a great session in the closet though, so fingers crossed they keep it up!

That’s frustrating about the photos! I’ll check with the other mods…[Read more]

That’s very stressful, sorry you are going through all that! It sounds like maybe things just progressed a bit too quickly? Can you describe how long the sessions were when you were bonding them, leading up to the 48 hr period? Also what was the space like that you were working with them in? Also, did you happen to see what triggered the most…[Read more]

Hi, thanks for the response.

I haven’t done car rides, and I’m thinking they might not help because as of now, when I go to pick Snoopy up after a session he runs to her for help and tries to snuggle in lol. So I do think he sometimes sees her as protection already. And really he hadn’t been tooooo aggressive.. just a lot of one bites (ripping…[Read more]

Oh man, I’m sorry you have been having a tough go of it! It sounds like the closet is working out well for them though! And I agree, there are enough positives that I would want to keep going as well. It’s interesting he gets so upset with the mounting, even with them both grooming each other a lot, but it sounds like they will get there…[Read more]