I have the urge to hurt my rabbit?

[HerculesandMolasses]

Ok I do not know what overcame me but I suddenly had a strong urge to actually hurt him; I actually had to tense so I wouldn’t go and strangle him. Of course, I didn’t hurt him and now I don’t want to hurt him, but does anyone know why I wanted to hurt him?

[Roberta]

I have no idea why you would want to hurt your bunny and without knowing your age or circumstances I could not speculate. I would suggest that you discuss it with your doctor if you find you are having mood swings and unusual impulses. If you find the feeling coming on you again remove yourself from the area and if you are still concerned consider rehoming your rabbit until you can get to the source of the problem.

[Reeem]

They only urge i get to ” hurt ” my bunny is because i wanna squeeze her cause shes adorable , i obviously dont. I love her to bits and pieces.

[MoxieMeadows]

I agree with Roberta and Reeem.

The only urge I get is because I love my pets so much I just wanna squeeze them.

[HerculesandMolasses]

I don’t really want to strangle him I just want to hug him hard but obviously I can’t so maybe I’m confusing those?

[HerculesandMolasses]

I love my rabbit to death too but maybe I’m confusing hard hugs and strangling.

[Bam]

Hercules, the strangest feelings can come over a young person, I’m guessing you are very young (don’t say what your actual age is if you’re under 18, it’s not safe on the Internet and that’s why the BB forums have a rule against it!). It may sound condescending but I don’t mean be to one bit, honestly, I do remember being very young.

If you get these strange impulses a lot, perhaps you should tell your mother about them. She seems like a great mum who cares about Hercules. The important thing is that thoughts remain just thoughts/impulses, nobody can help what strange thoughts suddenly get in their head. It’s our actions we can help. Growing up is all about learning to not act upon bad thoughts and impulses.

You don’t want to hurt Hercules because you love him so much. This was probably just a sillyness that came over you.

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Posted By HerculesandMolasses on 9/07/2015 6:31 PM

Ok I do not know what overcame me but I suddenly had a strong urge to actually hurt him; I actually had to tense so I wouldn’t go and strangle him. Of course, I didn’t hurt him and now I don’t want to hurt him, but does anyone know why I wanted to hurt him?

Not sure what is going on — I definitely can relate to wanting to just hug my bunny (like you mentioned in a later reply), but in the first post, you did say you had a strong urge to actually hurt him.  IF that is the case, it sounds like a strange intrusive thought. Which is actually not that uncommon, (when it happens, people normally think afterwards — “what the heck? like you did, brush it off and move on and only experience it on rare occasions) but if you have a bunch of those thoughts and you can’t turn them off, then it could be a type of OCD symptom which you can get help for.  Just let someone you trust know that you are having intrusive thoughts like that.  We are not OCD specialists or counselors, not qualified here so we can’t be relied on for something like this.   So I ditto what others have said — talk to your mom, or someone you trust about this so you can get relief. 

Helloworld!!

[Avantika]

I think she simply meant that she wants to hug her bunny real real hard, like squeeze him. If this is the thing, then it should be fine as long as you actually dont squeeze him. Rabbits (or any pet for that matter) look so unbearably cute and until and unless your impulse is to actually cause him harm and pain, it’s fine I guess.
Dogs are very cuddly and they reciprocate. Some cats may too like to hang out around their hoomin. But bunnies get terrified easily, are not fond of being picked up and smooched. Because of this, we bunny parents have to keep a lot of restrain even if we dont want to. I would like to hug Moshu all day, and kiss her pudgey nose, but a little excess of cuddles and she is ready to sink her teeth in my skin. .____. *sigh*

First clarify what you actually meant. And we would like to help you and your bunny, you wont be judged for anything.

[redbunbun]

What you may be experiencing is a documented psychological phenomenon called cute aggression. If that’s what it is, it has nothing to do with actual aggression, and it’s completely normal.

Cute aggression’s prevalence does not mean that people actually want to harm cuddly critters, Aragon explains. Rather the response could be protective, or it could be the brain’s way of tamping down or venting extreme feelings of giddiness and happiness. The scientists are currently conducting additional studies to determine what drives the need to squeeze.

[HerculesandMolasses]

Yeah I just really want to squeeze him really hard but I don’t want to hurt him. I always feel like squeezing things really hard if they are cute, but I don’t unless they are inanimate.

[vanessa]

Once, when I was much younger, I also had a strange impulse. My friend had a young cute @#$% (I won’t finish the sentence). I was afraid to hold her because I had an impulse to throw her against the floor. I would never intentionally hurt a life, it was a strange impulse. I never told anyone, and I avoided those situations for a while after that. Once I grew up, I never had such an impulse again. I’m glad you feel you can talk about it. Please be aware of your emotions, and be conscious about being rational.
I agree with what everyone is saying. Biologically, a young person has a lot going on. We can’t see all the things going on in the head the heart the emotions, hormones and impulsive uncontrollable chemically mis-wired thoughts. It’s part of growing up. It is importan tto be able to see this for what it is, and choose to be rational. Hugs.

[The Law Bun]

[Avantika]

@RedBunBun … Ah, so there exists a technical term for that too ^_^

[MoxieMeadows]

redbunbun— That’s interesting.

[Boing]

I agree that you should tell a trusted adult. I’m not a psychologist, but it really does sound similar to OCD compulsive thoughts. The good news is that these can be minimized (and many people outgrow them), with help, and are generally not reflective of your true feelings! Meanwhile if you have any more, leave the room with the bunny.

[Sr. Melangell]

I always want to cuddle my bunny but he won’t let me so I leave him to play, I do get frustrated if he is banging, but I won’t bang on his cage or do anything to him, I leave the room, he goes quiet, sometimes, your bunny loves you, so does mine and I love mine to pieces too, same as everyone else, but Olly will not be handled so I lean over and give him a big kiss on his back, I have a friend and sometimes I’ll say on the phone. “Aww you are such a cutie, when I see you I’ll give you such a big hug.” Maybe its like that, you can show bunny you love him by not squeezing him, maybe give him some banana or a few raisins, a gentle kiss on his head, if he will let you.

[vanessa]

I like Pinkie’s post 🙂

[tori rose]

All the wanting to squeeze cute fluffy things just keeps replaying the despicable carnival scene with the unicorn in my head. In all seriousness though, it will help to talk to someone I’m sure. I tell my little kids I’m going to squeeze them till they pop one day when I hug them and I truly feel like one could if it didn’t mean causing harm or pain lol. I’m sure it took a lot of courage even just to write this post too so don’t feel alone in those weird feelings, just make sure to keep your actions in check when you get overwhelmed by them. Talking helps tremendously for any concerns you ever get, just make sure it’s someone you can trust and that can actually help you sort out whatever problem you feel is going on.

[Paradigm]

Since you’re talking about wanting to cuddle squeeze him rather than actually hurt him it may not be a problem.

If you have having compulsions or imagery to hurt your rabbit but actually really don’t want to then it could be an OCD sign and does not mean you’re any danger to your rabbit at all.

Be cognisant of the fact that just because you think or feel something does not mean you will do it – it can just be an expression of your anger and as long as you do not actual hurt your rabbit there is no real issue with this provided it is not an ongoing thing (if you were to feel as though you wanted to hurt your rabbit in this way multiple times a week it may be an issue that needs to be resolved by seeing a professional).

If you or anyone does else does get this angry then either put your bunny away for a bit, or leave the room yourself. Whichever you feel safest doing. Feeling that your angry at your rabbit and want to hurt them doesn’t mean you will hurt them any more than wanting to die means that you will commit suicide. (This is not to say that they cannot be linked, but there is no need to jump off at the deep end immediately.)

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