Mourning & Adoption?

[Flint]

As most of you know, we had to put my baby bunny to sleep after having her for only two weeks.  We just put her down on Friday and now, Sunday, I was exploring our rabbit rescue’s website now that they have re-arranged it.  I happened to scroll through the adoptables and I absolutely fell head-over heels for a bonded pair, Angstrom and Kisses.  Is it too soon in the grieving process to be looking to adopt?  My heart is already aching that they aren’t here with me but I don’t know how to feel about that having just lost Remy.   Of course, I will also provide you with photos of the two that stole my heart –

Aw, why aren’t the photos working?

[Sarita]

Everyone is different and I think if you are ready and this pair needs a good home, then it’s the right time for you.

[Sarita]

Try putting the photos as an attachment…that’s what I always do. You have to use the reply button to do this.

[Flint]

That’s what I did. I’ll try again.
I put in an application and I’m waiting to hear back.

ETA – Photos still aren’t working.

[MoxieMeadows]

I clicked on the link thing and a little box popped up, and I clicked some stuff and the photos popped up, so I was able to see the link photo things.
They are adorable.
So I think that if you are ready, new buns may be a good idea. But I always take my time when looking for another pet after the loss of one.
I wish you luck!

[Flint]

They are in my signature now. (:

[mossling]

It all depends on you. Make *sure* you are ready, though, and it’s not just your grief taking. Several years ago, I lost one of my dogs. A few weeks after he died, I wanted another dog. I NEEDED another dog. I feel I love with a pup at a local rescue. I adopted him, brought him home, and I immediately stated having overwhelming, debilitating panic attacks. Every time I looked at the puppy, I’d totally lose it. No matter what I’d thought, I was not ready for a new dog. He had to go back.

Some people find a new animal helps their heart heal. Some people think that’s what they want but discover the hard way that it’s not. In the end, only you can say. You didn’t have Remy for long, maybe a new friend would be good for you. And that little gray lop is stinking adorable!

[Ouisie]

I think adopting animals is a fantastic thing to do and if you feel ready to love again go for it. My only concern is that your vet is so far away and the awful ordeal you went through with Remy.

[JackRabbit]

100% ditto what Ouisie said.

With a bonded pair, you’ll want to plan ahead for things like both going to the vet together (even when one is only going for emotional support of the other). Vet-wise, because your vet is so far away, you might speak with him/her about emergency/backup plans. Does the vet know of anyone closer to you that could see your buns in an emergency, etc. Could tbe rescue help in an emergency? If you don’t already have one, prepare a bun-care kit with things like simethicone, etc. Check with friends and see if there’s some that would be willing to let you borrow a car or provide backup transportation if needed. When there’s an emergency it’s so hard to think clearly and our emotions often take over.

Good luck with the app for the new buns!

[Bam]

We all handle grief differently. When my bridge dog died, my heart broke, I don’t think I’d ever fully “understood” that she actually could leave me, she was like a part of me. I got a new puppy 19 days later. It took my mind off the grief (but I still did cry over Nala for more than a year and I think of her every day still – although now most of the thoughts are happy-thoughts about how lucky I am to have had such a dog in my life) but I didn’t fully bond with the new pup until after more than a year I think. But I don’t think she ever knew that because I really did dedicate myself to her and she’s become an awesome dog who is just great with children, other dogs and pets and people etc.

So there can be a good outcome of getting another pet soon after the demise of a very loved pet. I did choose a puppy that didn’t look at all like Nala though, because that would’ve been unfair to the new dog: She was NOT a replacement, you can never replace someone you love but you can love other beings as well.

Angstrom and Kisses look just adorable!

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