I have made a few edits in this thread to remove the inappropriate comment and the ensuing back and forth.
Roberta, thank you for trying to tone everything down.
Jane, welcome to BB… and I am so, so sorry this started off on the wrong foot (AND in a thread where you are seeking sincere help). That should not have happened and we’re gonna get it back on track.
Lexy, you are also newer here, so I am asking you to read the Forum Rules before posting again… This is the link for your reference:
https://binkybunny.com/FORUM/tabid/54/aft/10084/Default.aspx
I have copy/pasted the section of the rules which addresses why your posts were edited.
BinkyBunny is a Snarky-Snooty Free Zone
A. Be Respectful & Kind: No Flames Allowed. Posts that are disrespectful, and/or belittle, ridicule, embarrass, criticize, or threaten other members will not be tolerated. This does not mean that you cannot voice an opposing viewpoint, but if you do so, please express your viewpoint without relying on the above tactics. A good way to express an opposing view point is to make sure you stick with what you would do, why you believe the way you do, but don’t pick apart why someone else is wrong. Know the difference between a personal opinion and a personal attack. **It is also important that the person reading (being on the receiving end) of a different point understand the difference as well.
B. We Do Not Tolerate Poor Manners and Snide, Snotty, Snarky, Snooty Remarks:
(You know, those annoying little things that get under people’s skin) Stuff like starting posts with….”Um…yeah….that’s not the way you do it.” That “um” or “uh” followed by some correction is highly irritating. It has that rude “ick” factor that needs to be left at the door. That’s the kind of stuff that drives us crazy, so don’t do it. (For reference, other examples to stay away from: “Sorry, but…” and “Excuse me, but…” and any other snitty post starters will not be tolerated. If you want to help someone understand a possible error in diet, care, or whatever, find a way to do it that isn’t the written equivalent of an eye-roll.
If you don’t agree with someone, that’s fine. You don’t have to, but agree to disagree and don’t get defensive and snooty about it.
If you can’t treat people like they are intelligent, then don’t post. We all are here to learn, and there are many of you that can educate, but be sure to not come off as a know-it-all by offering advice in such a way that belittles and would embarrass the other person.
This is Jane’s thread and she needs help, not criticism. Regarding the hot/not hot issue, people perceive temperature differently. There may be a heat wave, but some people are always cold. Other people may keep their house very climate-controlled in the summer and barely know what’s occurring outside.
I am always cold and my husband is always hot. Our house is chilly year-round. It’s August and I’m drinking a HOT cup of coffee, wearing flannel PJ pants, and cuddled with a blanket.