I lost something special…

[Lara]

So, my boyfriend and I broke up. We love each other so much; but this semester has been rough on us individually and collectively. I had two surgeries with complications after both of them and have been trying to keep up in school. (I missed two thirds of the semester.) He graduated a few months ago and had been having trouble finding a job in our city. (I live in New Brunswick, so there’s not much of a market for people with his qualifications.) So… about a month ago he moved to Toronto (about 1500 km away from where I live) with the plan that I would join him when I finished this school year in May. Anyway, we lost our wonderful connection and closeness somewhere, and his moving away when he did robbed us of the chance to reconnect. It seems like every time we’ve talked lately, we’ve discussed the inevitability of breaking up. So, we did it. We’re both broken hearted, but we are not willing to watch our relationship die a slow death…

I’m so sad and lonely. I feel like this relationship was so special, and I feel cheated out of a chance to make it work. I just don’t know what to do… my heart is in pieces. Anyway, sorry to be so depressing, but I just needed to tell somebody. Only my family knows, and they don’t really provide much comfort in situations like these.

 

[LittlePuffyTail]

So sorry to hear about your situation. I’ve never been in a long distance relationship so I can’t really relate but I do have experience with a broken heart. Maybe it’s just the best for right now…maybe you will both realize you meant too much to each other and eventually get back together. You know that saying…if you love something let it go…

You have the best things to help you through a hard situation…bunnies and a forum full of people you can talk to anytime.

[Barbie]

Oh no, I’m so sorry! I know how hard an ldr can be. I’m in one right now, and I know how incredibly painful and difficult it is to be apart from each other. (((HUGS!))) and (((Snuggles from Leroy))) I think if I was in your position, I would have done the same thing though.   If you ever want to chat, you can PM me and I can send you my email

[Lara]

I can’t believe this day! I just found out that my Grampa was diagnosed with lung cancer today! Fortunately, there are just two small spots, one in each lung, and it hasn’t spread. Please, if you pray or make wishes or anything of the sort, say or make one for my Grampa! He is the best grandfather ever!

[Barbie]

Oh my gosh! How stressful for you! I’ll pray for both you and your grampa!

[angelicvampyre]

Big Hugs

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

*HUGS*

A peice of wisdom my best friend shared with me, when I was struggling in a past relationship (we did love each other-we just were bad together) was that I didn’t have to wait until we hated each other to break up. I think that finally hit home for me, and we did break up before that. I’m not saying it was easy. It never is. I just wanted to agree with what you two decided, about not waiting for it all to be gone for the decision.

It’s always hard-no matter if this is the first break up or the last. *HUGS*

Everything I’m typing right now, from my own experiences, sounds either silly or cliche. So I won’t go on and on BUT we are here for you-virtual shoulders to cry on-all around the world. We do care about you-and we’re rooting for you to recover quickly and rise up We know how hard it can be and you go right ahead and vent *BIG HUGS*

[Cassi&Charlie]

I’m so sorry for you Lara, I know how hard this is. I did a LDR for a while and it was so difficult to keep that amazing bond we had together and once we lost it, neither of us were in a position to re-make it.
I’ve found that not stressing over the little stuff really helped because I’d get really stressed about one thing and then everything stressed me. Treat yourself well, eat properly (I don’t but still it’s good advice) and take your time. I’m really sorry for your loss. It’s so hard.

[jerseygirl]

I’m really sorry your going through these things (relationship and your Grandpa) especially this time of year. You and he really do sound as if you have much love and respect for one another in taking this step. Will you be able to keep in contact or is it total distancing at this stage? Hugs and vibes to you Lara and prayers for your Grampa too.

[Beka27]

I’m sorry to hear this Lara! I’m going to keep your Grandpa in my thoughts… and as far as your relationship, it should get easier with time. It always hurts when something ends or changes and it’s unrecognizable from what it once was… but I always say that it’s better you know this now before you make larger decisions together (like moving, marriage, children, etc…)

[Sarita]

Hugs to you Lara. I don’t have any advice to offer on the breakup but only virtual hugs.

Also sending healing vibes to your grandpa and some extra strength vibes to you.

[Lara]

Thank you so much, everybody, for the support… it means a lot to me. It feels so strange to not be with him anymore, but we’re planning to stay friends and see what happens. We’re best friends, so I’m grateful that we still have a chance to save that. It would hurt way too much to lose him altogether.

On another note, what is it about bunnies that make them so aware of when you need a cuddle or need to see a cute little fur ball spazz out in a series of crazy binkies?! I love my buns so much. I don’t know what I would do without them!

[jerseygirl]

I know! I think many animals have that ability. A few nights ago I hit a low suddenly. I saw a report on TV that just got to me and I just started silently crying. I gravitated to where the buns were and Jersey just sat beside me, not wanting anything for a change. They are so comforting.

[KytKattin]

I am so sorry to hear that! This is probably my biggest fear in going to the college I want to go to. It will be 3 years that we have been together when I leave, if I leave. Part of me will always regret it if I don’t go, but if we don’t make it then I will always regret that. I am so confused on what to do (expect a topic on this in about a year). I am glad that you will still be friends though. At least you have that, an who knows where it might go.

I will be sending healing wishes towards your grandpa! I hope he pulls through this!!!

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