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    • Lintini
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        Thanks again to everyone here who has helped me become a better bunny mother, and for saying such kind things during my struggles with losing my family member…then jumping into getting Indy Bun. It’s been a rough 6 months but I just wanted to say thanks for all the helpful tips and helping me take better care of Bun and Indy. You are all so awesome here and I love this community. So thank you with tons of love. I seriously couldn’t have done it without you.

         

        -Lindsey


      • Monkeybun
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          *snuggles from monkey*


        • luvmybunny
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            *hugs* that’s what we are hear for, Lintini!


          • jerseygirl
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              I’m glad your in a more positive zone right now – keep looking after yourself! We’re here for ya!   *goes off to click on ads so BB.com keeps operating* ;o)


            • Lintini
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                Well I’m trying to be, I had a melt down last night…just tons of things going on…heart being broken from bf of 3 years now dating a new girl….grandma being gone…schools not going well….drinking too much ….my parents don’t see any of my problems…I withdrew from my form and analysis class which i need for my music degree…that’s a setback ….college algebra didn’t go well…was going to fail that….I am NOT good at math. I’m very depressed…I ditched my orchestra rehearsals all week. My director is talking about pulling this chamber piece off the program because people keep ditching rehearsal. I told him I had the flu this week. When its really the bottle flu. I’m pretty much a mess on wheels. But the only thing keeping me sane is seeing Bun and Indy begging for raisins and doing binkys all over my room. Seems like a lot of BB members are having bad times…I think its the weather. The weather makes people depressed when its cold and icky….and maybe just extra depressed for me lol. *rant* sorry


              • Monkeybun
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                  *hugs from Monkey* Sorry to hear it isn’t going well, let me know if you need to talk


                • MimzMum
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                    Oh Lintini! (((((((hugs)))))))))))))
                    I will ditto what Monkeybun said. I left a message in answer to your good vibes in my ‘sack of woe’ thread that basically dittos this. I check the board each day, if you need to leave a message just to have a shoulder, please don’t hesitate.

                    Snuggle those cute bunnies of yours, I just look at Bun’s picture and I smile. The one that used to be your avatar that was the shot from the rear always made me think of how it still looked like a face, with her tail being a nose (sort of) and the feet her upside down ears (sort of)…I always got a grin out of that, when I realized that her head was on the other end!


                  • RabbitPam
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                      Lintini,
                      I’m so sorry you’re going through a tough time. I’m sure you know this, but drink is actually a depressant, not a mood lifter (even though we can reach for it to lift our mood) so that’s actually making your depression worse chemically. I hate to see you on a spiral down. Can you get some support where you are? Any support groups? If it’s effecting your life goals, and you’re missing out on things you normally love to do, or work hard at, then it’s hurting you. Maybe you can just breathe a bit for a day or two, and just relax with a cleansing bath and clear water and really healthy food. Copy what your bunnies do that leads them to doing binkies. They are on to something, lifestyle wise. I bet you would feel revived and refreshed.

                      If you find yourself “needing” a drink, step back and take a look at that. It could be a warning signal that you can handle right now, but won’t be able to in a few months. A bit of counseling will help you deal with the issues troubling you, and keep you from adding new problems to the pile.


                    • Barbie
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                        Oh Lintinit! I’m sorry to hear you’re having a bit of a rough patch… I don’t know if you saw my post onf MinzMum’s sack of woe thread, but I really like this site for math help =) http://tutorial.math.lamar.edu/Classes/Alg/Alg.aspx

                        Anyway, that’s not the real reason I wanted to post. Since you’re in college, see if your school offers any free or low fee counseling sessions. I know my school does. You get like 10 per quarter for free and then can pay for more if you want. It’s through the Student Success Center, if you’re school has one of those, check there, or call around at your school’s Student Health Center. I know my friend went to some counseling sessions and she said it really helped. Actually, I’ve been considering taking advantage of them too. Let me know if you ever need to talk. And focus on the positive I know that even when I’m having a bad day at school, I just have to think about getting home to see Leroy and it raises my mood ((((hugs!)))


                      • katie, max & penny
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                          yes barbie- i go to counseling at my school for free lintini, i highly recommend it! its so nice to be able to talk without fear of judgment.
                          (((((uplifting vibes)))))


                        • Lintini
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                            Thanks guys, yes we do have counseling at school for free, I went to one and cried myself into exhaustion, mostly dealing with the loss of my grandma. The drinking…no idea, I don’t feel like I need to..I should just stop, it just makes me sleepy. I skipped my next counseling appt because I didn’t want to get dressed and go to school. Great reason right? That’s me. I used to be fun and go out all the time and hang out with friends. Even my bf doesn’t want to hang out with me, he tells me he is sick of me. *big sigh* Indy is digging all of a sudden in his cage now and shredding the paper. I’m going to go make him a diggy box. MEh I didn’t mean to turn this into my depressing life thread, but thanks everyone

                            I’m going to go up the the stable with my mom now and take care of Opie, maybe I’ll ride him.

                             

                             

                            He’s paint/quarter horse. And he has blue eyes! I think thats why the cam is making them evil glowy haha.


                          • mrmac
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                              Aww Lintini I am sorry to hear you are going through s much. I think BB goes through phases! I must say I am feeling especially unmotivated lately to do much of anything. Take things slow, figure out what YOUR personal priorities are. If you ever need to talk or vent, I am always here to listen! (This goes for everybun!) Take some “you” time, see what is really the root of things. Hugs to you, Bun and Indy are there for you too.


                            • jerseygirl
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                                It’s totally natural to fall into those funks. Since you made that first big step at seeing the counsellor recently – do try go again when you can. It’s what they are there for. Hoping you can get out of the low times in a healthy way. Having beautiful animals such as Indy, CranBun (PlumBun ) and Opie (omgoodness is he beautiful!) to spend time with would definately lift your spirit.


                              • MimzMum
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                                  What a beautiful horse! 0_0 I SO wish I could ride again, but I’ve become so terribly allergic to horses that even if a neighbor’s horse’s hair floats over on a breeze, I can’t breathe and my windpipe swells and closes off. You just have to go take a ride on Opie for the both of us! ^_^

                                  lolz…what is it with your pets…they all get those glowy eyes…SPOOKY! ^_^ (Still thinking of Bun and her lightsaber picture.)
                                  Where do you keep your horse at, if you don’t mind me asking? When I was little I grew up in Woodside, California and the street we lived on had quite a few acres for stables…my dad was a member of the San Mateo Mounted Police and he raised Arabians for the parades and shows they would do for the Shriner’s Hospital in S.F.
                                  We also had a Palomino named Trigger. My folks were grandparent age and BIG fans of Roy Rogers. lol. ^_^


                                • Lintini
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                                    In the Hayward hills, right next to Cal State East Bay. I think the place is called Hayward Hills something…It keeps changing hands. My mom boarded there for 24 years, and just moved him into Castro Valley. Opie is 8 years old.


                                  • RabbitPam
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                                      Lintini, what year of college are you in? I’m wondering because we used to call the second year “sophomore slump.” It was this weird phenomenon that hit the majority of college students in their sophomore year. Just got tired, bummed, grades dropped, out of sorts, you name it. Like catching a universal mood flu. Anyway, that might be a factor.

                                      When you’re too tired to get up and dressed to go to the counselor or class, that’s depression. Very hard to fight it, but it will really help to toss on some sweats and go back to the counselor, since it’s free and you already have a rapport. I had it at my school, too. A psychologist once said that when a patient of theirs resisted coming, she knew she’d hit paydirt. In other words, what is bothering you the most will cause you the most resistance to getting help. Get past it and feel better. Don’t know why that works, but it does.

                                      Reward yourself with a ride on your horse afterwards. What a beauty! Glad your mom is there for you, too.


                                    • Lintini
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                                        Nah my parents don’t even know im suffering. It’s mostly just issues with the passing of my Grandma. Nothing is going to bring her back, and crying myself into exhaustion doesn’t help me any. You know my last memory of her before she went into the hospice care, I was sitting on the couch with her and my dad, and she thought I was my cousin, and was calling my dad my uncle. She didn’t remember I played french horn, she didn’t know who I was, and didn’t even know what my major in college is. Thinking I was my cousin was an added insult because Tierney is the biggest loser in the world…TWO DUI’S …boyfriend in jail….barely graduated highschool, does drugs, etc. I AM NOT TIERNEY.  It litterally shattered my heart. I was extremely close to her…growing up I was told I walk like her, and I have her eyes when I smile, and have the same nose as her. I wanted to be just like her, and I have my same love for animals from her. I can’t believe my ****** last memory of her is her not even knowing me. It hurts SO BAD. I would visit her and my papa in hawaii every summer for 2 months and I loved her so much. We didn’t even have a funeral for her. She’s in a box in the enterainment center. I don’t even want to watch TV there because she’s just sitting there…. The entire thing is so…weird. Time heals…maybe. I just think to myself she’s in hawaii right now, with her birds, and the beautiful weather and ocean. She isn’t really gone.  But she is =/  I got my first part taken away from me in band because I skipped both rehearsals this week. I lie to my director and tell him I’m sick. Sick in the head more like it. Sorry Dr. B, can’t make it to class because I miss my Grandma? This horse that is in the stall next to Opie looks like my Grandmas horse. Everything reminds me of her. No one understands, and my parents have no idea. I told my dad once, he never spoke to me again about it. No one knows what to do, no one wants to talk about it. I still can’t believe my grandma didn’t know who I was. You know its typical, life sucks, and i’ve had such a nice life so far, and its totally typical that one of the people I love most in the world would forget who I was. Sitting here crying silent tears is so painful. I can’t even form sentences in this post. I don’t know when I can get over this because just of my last memories being so painful. Who can understand what it’s like to be forgotten. Maybe some can…but not exactly how I feel. Can she just be in hawaii still ? sigh. I can’t even re-read this post.

                                         

                                         

                                        Pam, I’m a senior, but yes…things started going downhill 2nd year.


                                      • Lintini
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                                          I want to share this with you…I have this photo of her when she was young and used to model. She is so beautiful, gosh I miss her. Here is a photo from my prom too, it’s old, but we have our hair the same and maybe we look a bit alike. Don’t mind me scribbling my dates face out…lol I did that years ago…don’t know where the original photo is! lol



                                        • Monkeybun
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                                            What I would suggest for you is to focus on a good memory rather than a bad. My last visit with my grandfather on my moms side was when we went into the hospital with a cancer that was making him bleed out of every pore in his body.. it wasn’t pretty. Mom sent me out to my other grandparents house while she took care of him and my grandma, who was also in the hospital with a different cancer, for about 6 months. But I focus on the memory of him and I and our annual first snowfall snowball fight. Laughter and wet mittens, was the best times ever with him. I prefer to remember him as he lived his life, not how he died.

                                            Go to your rehearsals, trust me, it will help. You love your music, so go immerse yourself in it. Pet your bunnies and piggies, ride your horse, remember the good times. It will be the best memorial for your Grandma that anyone could give, just you living your life and remembering the wonderful times.

                                            *hugs*


                                          • Lintini
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                                              That last memory was the last time I ever saw her. I was never brave enough to visit her in the home, I was hurt too bad from her not knowing me and I didn’t want to visit her then break down again when she didn’t know who I was. She didn’t live very long in the home at all…but I want the memory gone. you know that zappy memory thing from men in black? I want one.


                                            • Monkeybun
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                                                I know the feeling Like I said, focus on something else. It helps, trust me. After I saw my grandfather that once int he hospital before I got sent away, I never saw him again. I know exactly what you’re going through, and trust me, you aren’t alone. Next tiem you don’t feel like getting up and going to practice, do it anyway. Put your emotions into your music, and it will help you heal.


                                              • jerseygirl
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                                                  It may have been your last memory of her alive but it doesn’t have to be your last memory of her ever. The memories that live are the ones you choose to recall and dwell on. You can honour your Grandma by bringing forth those memories that connected you to her. Please do not allow the memory of hurt & loss define your life. It was just a human mistake by a lady who was unwell. She may have ‘forgotten’ you or misnamed you in that moment but that is a blip compared to a lifetime of love. She may have even known it was you, felt you there with her but just blurted out the wrong name. My Nana & Mum do this. When you find yourself going back to that memory – mentally say a word like Stop, Delete, or Switch – whatever works for you – then replace the memory/negative thoughts with a more positive and empowering one. It seems silly, but this is your memory zappy thingy – you get to control this.

                                                  She is very striking! And you too! How tall are you?


                                                • Lintini
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                                                    I know you are right, I’ve heard many times to think of only the good memories, but it’s hard. I was so so excited to have them move back from Hawaii to Cali, but that happiness didn’t last long. Grandma needed too much help, was in a wheelchair now, and even had a lady come to help take care of her. She cut her hair too…it was terrible. Grandma always had her nails done, and her hair blonde in a french twist…ALWAYS. And that nurse randomly chopped it off one day and I got in a huge fight with her about it. That was like…taking away her idenity. I know it sounds stupid…but she had that hairstyle before I was born…and I’m 23 lol. My grandma was disappearing in front of my eyes.

                                                    We are both or were both? — 5’9”. That side of my family (father’s side) is very tall, and my mom’s side is very tiny! My mom is 5’3” !

                                                    I don’t want to bother you guys with this stuff anymore…I know probably some people are reading this and think I should just grow up and this is part of life. But thanks for all the kind words…i’m trying to get over this stuff, its just hard. I’ve totally crashed this thread heh.


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                                                      haha – It’s your thread!

                                                      I know probably some people are reading this and think I should just grow up and this is part of life.

                                                      For what it’s worth, you are not being immature. You’re grieving. Yes it’s part of life but it isn’t easy and not something you can just say “get over it” and get on with life. People who think that perhaps have not experienced loss. Hugs to you. Peace vibes to you.


                                                    • Lintini
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                                                        I know, but I’m embarrassed now for dumping this all on you. I just exploded on here with what I’m dealing with and I didn’t intend to


                                                      • jerseygirl
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                                                          Honestly, it’s better letting whatever out then letting it circle around and around in your head. Believe me. Easy to give the advice but I’m not so great telling people what’s going on either.


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                                                            Lintini, you aren’t the first one here to express a deep grief and you won’t be the last. Don’t add that to your feelings. We have people who feel this way about their bunnies, and are embarassed to admit it to their friends and family and only feel understood here, so grieving over your grandmother is much deeper because she was a constant, important person in your life.

                                                            Often the first major loss for a person is a beloved grandparent. And the first time you experience grief it is devastating. No one can describe it, but it can even hurt physically. It takes its course, like a flu, and after some unpredictable time you feel better.

                                                            But the others are right about not dwelling on the last day. I can give you an explanation that may help if you take it to heart. What you were experiencing was the disease she had, not the real her. She was in dire shape by that moment, and her thoughts were severely impaired by illness. She knew you, she knows you now, but think of her that day as if she was watching a movie in her mind while sitting in the dark theater. She couldn’t actually see you there. She just saw the scenes playing in her mind. If you were in an absorbing movie and your friend with you suddenly whispered “what’s my major in school?”, you’d be like “what? I don’t know. Shh. I’m trying to find out whether Rhett leaves Scarlett.” It’s like she couldn’t switch tracks in her mind right then.

                                                            The grandmother who you knew and loved, and who loved you deeply, was not lost to you before that day, and is not lost to you now. She is available to you in your heart, and wants to help you lessen your suffering. That’s why you are here, why we want you to see a counselor, why you find peace with your animals. Being reminded of her all over is the way you are healing your memory of that bad moment with better memories. They are coming unbidden, and they seem to hurt, but they are reinforcing the good memories, so let them happen. You know, I associated the smell of the ocean for years with my Nana Jen. I mean, the entire ocean reminded me of her! But after a while it felt so good to conjure her up with just a breeze.

                                                            She was very beautiful and so are you. But please take our advice and find someone to talk to in person. It will help. Trust me.


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                                                              Pam, your post brought me into years, you are so right and thank you so much, you are so kind. That was way better than anything the counselor at school told me. She told me I needed to eat better and sleep more. thank you thank you thank you.


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                                                                You’re very welcome.
                                                                And by the way, she’s right. Yyou need to eat better and sleep more.

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