Anybody else ever feel like this?

[SassyGirl]

I”m sad all the time now & I don’t know why. My lifes good, great even, so why am I not happy? I want to be happy, I should be happy, so why can’t I be? Everything’s going good, I have staight A’s, great friends/family, & I have a role in the childrens play ( I’m a bunny). But I’m sad ALL the time, I’m slipping away from everybody & that scares me. I’m not sucidal or anything, I’m just sad.

 Well I take that back, I”m not sad ALL the time. I have my good days where everything’s normal. But then something will set me off, & I’m sad yet AGAIN. I don’t want to be like this, I shouldn’t be like this, but I am. And I have no idea what to do about it. So I lie. If I’m feeling sad I try to ignore it. I get up & put a happy face on & try to be me. Marrisa the all American 17 year old everybody knows & adores. I go to school & act cheerful, then I go to play practice & act like an overactive, hyper as heck bunny. Then I go home & I still act cherful.

 But thats all it is-an act. I feel like I should tell somebody, but I don’t want to be a burden. I’ve always taken care of myself. I don’t like to depend on anybody. I just don’t know what to do. This has been going on for like about a month, & I hate it. It’s probaly just a phase, I dont think I’m deppresed. Anyway it helped to write all of it out, I feel like a burdens been lifted off my shoulders. I’ll start a diary or journal since it helped to write.

 Anyway thanks for reading my long rant, & if anybody has any ideas on how to get me out of this slump please tell me.

 

[jerseygirl]

Oh Hon – time to see the doctor. What you describe sounds like depression. It can affect anyone at anytime and it’s really common. Please see a doc about this. Hugs to you.

[Lara]

Well, first of all, there is nothing wrong with telling people about this, in fact, you should. Everybody feels down in the dumps sometimes, but if you feel like nothing makes you happy and you just can’t shake the sad feelings, you should try talking to a school counselor or your doctor to see if talking can help you feel happier. Sometimes, that’s all it takes. Other times, people require medication to manage depression. If that’s the case here, you should not feel embarrassed or bad about needing help. Depression is a medical condition like any other, and like any other condition, sometimes medication is required. As a nursing student, I find that many people are reluctant to resort to medication because they feel like they’re “crazy”.

Anyway, start with talking to somebody and see if some counseling can help you deal with your sadness. That is the first step that you should not feel bad about taking. And don’t worry about being a burden to your friends and family – they love you and want to help you feel good. Besides, oftentimes, peoples’ social supports like family and friends are what give them the strength to work through their problems.

i really, really hope that you start feeling better about things. I know how hard it can be when it seems like life is perfect, but you can’t enjoy it. Best of luck and keep us posted! You’re in my thoughts.

[Furface]

I know it can be very hard to open up to people that you are close to about these type of feelings – even though they are not your fault & there is nothing wrong with having them.
Is there anyone you would be comfortable talking about them with? A doctor, or guidance councellor perhaps.
It’s perfectly normal to go through periods of feeling not happy but it does help to have someone to talk to.
Are you sad about anything in particular?
Are you under any type of stress? Agueing amonst famliy members? Illness in family? School? Career choosing worries? Boyfriend or girlfriend troubles?

[jerseygirl]

I had started to put this in my previous post but perhaps it’s better here….

Please don’t try and sort it out on your own. It just gets messy. Part of depression is endless negative thought patterns circulating in your mind and you end up confused and feeling more helpless. It’s a chemical thing that needs to be addressed but also, counselling can really help break some of those thought patterns. Don’t dismiss what you’re feeling or try compare it to anyone else you know who is suffering from depression. It is different for everybody. Of course – I cannot say this is what it is. It could be issue such as hormone imbalance for example but at the end of the day you’re not feeling right and it’s important you address this. Don’t do it on your own. Talk to someone – parent(s)/teacher/schoolcounsellor/doctor/hotline for this sort of thing. Wouldn’t your friends or parents be upset to find out later that you were dealing with this alone? If you can come out of this funk you will be a great help to others that are feeling this way too as you would be able to empathise.

[SassyGirl]

Yeah I guess I will. I’ll see if I can go to therapy. I was thinking since around this time last year some bad stuff happened to me maybe thats whats making me so sad? I thought I got over all of this, but I guess not. Sigh….

[jerseygirl]

Good! You know, talking about it even here is a really good first step too. As to the question you ask in the thread title; yes, I’ve felt like this & I can bet alot of other members have too. Most people will have a “depressive episode” in their life at some point. I can relate – “being puzzled at feeling sad but think you shouldn’t as everything in life is pretty good. Having a better life than others you know that are less fortunate so feeling you have no right to feel this way…guilt”…those types of thoughts.

[kralspace]

Sassy,

I agree with jerseygirl and Lara, I’ve suffered bouts of depression all my life, it is a medical condition that can be caused by or aggravated by a lot of different things. The most insidious thing about it is that it does make you want to ‘slip’ away from relationships and things you enjoy, makes you feel isolated, which in turn makes you feel worse.

Please talk to someone, hopefully someone who is experienced with depression. And don’t let it get you down if someone tells you to ‘just snap out of it’ or that you could feel better if you just wanted to. Just remember that people who have never suffered a bout of it have no idea what it feels like, and that it’s not just a matter of being sad and don’t take it personally.

Your family and friends love you, you’re not being a burden by letting them know what you’re going through, you’re giving them the chance to help and support you by finding the help you need, be that medical, counseling, etc. It’s hard, but there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Please write, journal, whatever you feel like doing, you’re in my thoughts and prayers, I find that petting a big soft bunny often helps 😉
Kathy

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Posted By jerseygirl on 10/18/2009 07:03 PM

Good! You know, talking about it even here is a really good first step too. As to the question you ask in the thread title; yes, I’ve felt like this & I can bet alot of other members have too. Most people will have a “depressive episode” in their life at some point. I can relate – “being puzzled at feeling sad but think you shouldn’t as everything in life is pretty good. Having a better life than others you know that are less fortunate so feeling you have no right to feel this way…guilt”…those types of thoughts.

I’ve certainly had those kinds of feelings. You’re not alone.
 

[Monkeybun]

I’ve had them as well, as have many people I know. It’s not an unusual thing, and you definitely shouldn’t hide it from people that care about you. Talk to someone you trust, and see a doctor about it as well, it can easily be managed. Monkey sends snuggles!

[katie, max & penny]

Hey darlin. I’ve been diagnosed with depression for almost ten years now and I’ve been on a regimen of medicine and therapy.
here are some warning signs:
-not wanting to do things you normally would want to do
-you would rather sleep all day than get out of bed (not just laziness )
-you feel helpless, hopeless.

I think it sounds like you’ve got some depression goin on- you can go to your regular dr to get a recommendation- and sometimes they even have a specialist in the building, which is nice! there’s absolutely nothing wrong with going to see a therapist. i still get a little shy and embarrassed talking about it to my family and friends and its been years!

vibes from max and penny!

[skibunny8503]

Oh Sassy, I’m right there with you! I’ve been having spells of depression. I’ll wonder why I’m depressed and that everything in my life is pretty good. This year has been really rough though so I think I’m still getting over some stuff (I won’t post because it would be waaaayyy to long!). I almost feel overwhelmed (we just got married last year and all this responsibility! I didn’t know it would be so hard and to not living with my family anymore…just so much change for one person to handle). I tell my husband he is my therapist because I tell him everything I’m thinking and he gives me feedback. He told me to think of something that really makes you happy or you enjoy doing. I like listening to music so he said when you start to feel that way to listen to music. It doesn’t help that he’s shifts are all over the place and sometimes I don’t see him that much and I’m alone.
Talking to people can make a world of a difference! It really gets stuff off your shoulders. Sending happy vibes your way!

[Deleted User]

Sassy, I want to suggest something else. You’re pretty young, aren’t you? Maybe it’s a matter of transitioning yourself into being more like an adult which means discovering other things that will make you happy than those that you’ve known so far. — I used to be melancholic before I hit my twenties. I had a broken heart and it stuck with me for a couple of years. But talk to somone for sure so you can feel better.

[Lintini]

After reading this post, I made a doctors appointment on Tuesday. Sassy I have felt the same way as you for almost a year now and I am miserable. It’s the exact same, I have a great life, but I am so sad all the time and would rather sleep all day then go to my classes. I am a senior in college and I can’t get myself up for school when I need to finish. I’ve already stopped going to one class that I NEED TO TAKE and I have been threatened by the orchestra director to sit out of our first concert because I have missed 3 rehearsals. I also drink a lot alone and it’s really bad. So I have decided I need to change things up for myself and I need to get better. Maybe when you get a chance you can stop by a school counselor and they can help you. It feels so good just to talk to someone who cares and wants to help. It makes me even more depressed that my parents can’t see how miserable I really am. Anyways, thanks to all the replies and for making this thread, it really opened my eyes and hopefully I can start a new me on Tuesday. *runs off to snuggle bun* Feel better soon SassyGirl <3

[Monkeybun]

Good luck Lintini! Hope the doc can help you out, and I hope you can go to your concert

[Sage Cat]

Petzy – interesting idea.
Sassy – You are coming up on a big life change – could also be a combination of things.
Lintini – Way to go!!!!

Yep, me too! I have a very mild form of depression. I can see evidence of it all the way back to grade school.
Sometimes my depression gets aggravate by situations I am in. For example when my Ex told me he wanted a divorce – I was so depressed I could not eat. I ended up loosing 20 pounds in one month. Luckily I had a really good therapist. I also went on a mild “Happy Pill”
That was 6 years ago. I’m now off the “Happy Pill” and doing really well. I still have down days. But, recognizing them and telling J about it makes a huge difference in my getting through those times.

[skibunny8503]

That’s great Lintini! Glad this has opened your eyes on things and you’re making a point to change. I think that’s the first step to getting better is to recognize the depression and seek help. I’m kind of putting my foot in my mouth at this point but money is tight and I’m a very stubborn person, so I haven’t seen a therapist but I have seeked help in my husband and talk to him all the time. I’m lucky to have him because he’ll never let me sulk alone and always gets me to smile within a 1/2 an hour of being sad. I’ve been trying to put things behind me and get a new outlook on life. I had some friends that used me and also were very horrible to me (I’ve never had a friend be so nasty to me….in a nutshell she was jealous of me getting married and I gave her to many chances to keep the friendship).
I’ve heard doing yoga helps relax you…I gotta bust out my wii board and do more of that. My new years resolution for next year will to be a more happier person and to not dwell on the past and let things get to me.

[VelvetLion7]

Oh Sassy. I’ve felt like that for a few months now as well. I read your post and it felt like I could have posted it with a few exceptions. Like down to I’m in a children’s play. And it is like a sad feeling for no reason or like now I’m always a little numb. Things that mattered to me don’t seem to matter any more. I have normal days too but often I come home from school and just don’t want to do anything. I just feel like hiding somewhere. I’ve started slipping away from people too and it is scary. But I’ve found that talking helps it a little and I just wanted to say “hang in there.” =)

[TARM]

I’m a certifiable depressed, anxiety ridden adult who has suffered with this since I was a kid but only got diagnosed and treated five years ago. I’m on daily meds and I am so happy I finally went to the doctor.

However…another thing you might be experiencing is seasonal affective disorder. It’s a mild form of depression that occurs in the fall lasting through the winter months. A couple of ways to combat this are 1) get a light box and trick your body into thinking it’s still light out later in the day and 2) exercise. Exercise releases endorphins in your body that help balance the brain chemicals that are wonky and making you feel sad.

Good luck to you and I hope you get everything worked out quick!

[Kokaneeandkahlua]

Being depressed in teenage years and young adult is almost the standard. And this time of year is when it really bothers people the most.

I have clinical depression, of the long term kind.

I am on AD for it, and like the dr. said-they aren’t the answer. It’s like this; your sitting in a dark room, and in your lap is a book with all the answers. Antidepressants are the flashlight-not the answer.
Sooo they basically help you get better, but you have to do some work on your own. Change the way you think about things, the way you let things hurt you or bother you.

Anyways *hugs* and see your dr. you’ll be happy you did

[Jenna, Chubs & Comet]

My boyfriend has been suffering from clinical depression since he was about 15. He goes to therapy and takes medication, and his life is better for it. It’s so much more common then people think! I’m glad you’re taking the first steps to improving how you feel!

[KytKattin]

Depression runs in my family. While I don’t think I’m clinically depressed at this time I had a really hard time getting back onto my Thyroid meds after being off of them for a couple of months to have a radiation treatment. While I wasn’t depressed while off my meds, I also didn’t have energy to do anything but sit on the couch. I was majorly depressed for about a month after being on my meds again for about two months. Even though I had energy I had horrible thoughts. I even had thoughts that the world would be better off without me. I talked with my doctors (I have 4 regular ones at this point) and the meds started to work and I’m feeling pretty good now. One thing that they will probably test you for if you haven’t been tested for it before will be your thyroid levels. Before I was on medication (just over a year ago now) I was lethargic as well as depressed (basically I had a slightly working thyroid then). Sorry if that is confusing! Both depression and thyroid conditions are very common, but for some reason no one likes to talk about them!

[skibunny8503]

I know when I saw my doctor awhile ago and told him that I was feeling a little depressed that he said at my age and with just getting married and all that change it isn’t uncommon.  He said that about (I can’t remember the exact percentage) 1/2 or more maybe of the people in this town suffer from some kind of depression (mostly because of how the economy is doing…loss of job, worrying about income, ect.).  

[feeona]

oh dear, my heart is there for you man! i suffered deppression due to my ocd so fortunatly for me that went away when i dealt with my ocd!
you defienatly know something is wrong here and its time to start searching for a way out!
there is just one thing i would like to warn you about ! its that all GP’s you go to dont want to know about mental illness and even some phsycologist are not always right . it took me 2years and 4 GP’S and two phsycs before i found a perfect match of a psycologist and psyciatrist to help me with both meds and some behaviour modifocation!

im praying for you to find a straight path to help x x x

[KatnipCrzy]

My brother once made the comment to me that I seem to be strong and OK during difficult times- but it is the “good” times that my mood seems to be down.  I had not realized that about myself until he made the connection.

So sometimes even if things are good you don’t have the strong instinct to make the best of everything and be happy all the time.  I know I am like that!

[Monkeybun]

Funny how all us depressed people have bunnies. They must be great therapist animals, with all of us drawn to them Bunnies rock!

[SassyGirl]

Oh yay I’m not alone!That what scared me the most, is being alone through this. I finally came clean to my mom, & I made an appointment for Friday to go see my doctor. My mom told me that depression runs through her side of the family.
I’m pretty relived I came clean, even though it is hard for me to talk about my feelings. Like I said before- I don’t like to depend on anybody. I’ve been hurt before so it’s like a copping thing for me. It’s like if I take care of myself then nothing bad will happen to me. I need to get out of that mind thought, but it’s hard. I’m trying though.
I’ll keep everybody updated as I go through this. It’s actully easier to talk to you all then anybody else. Maybe it’s becouse it’s not face to face? Well there is one friend I tell everything to. His the one person who understands everything about me.

[luvmybunny]

I can relate, I was diagnosed with depression when I was in college. I take medicine and I do great! I have a normal life, a good job and don’t feel sad everyday like I used to. Seriously, see a doctor, it’s the best thing you can do. If you can’t talk to anyone close to you, talk to us, we are here for you, Sassy. Things will be ok. PM me if you ever need to talk about anything

[Monkeybun]

I always found it easier to talk online too, its easier to say stuff when you don’t have someone staring at you

[SassyGirl]

Thanks everybody It does help to talk. It’s such a relief not having it in anymore. I’m ready to go & get all my “issues” sorted out so I can move on. And tell all the bunnies thanks for all the cuddles. Made Flopsy jealous though hehe. His mad at me right now, of course I also did all the monthly stuff today so that might have something to do with it……

[SassyGirl]

Just thought I would update everybody. So my doc had a appointment spot open up, so I eneded up going today instead of Friday. I told him EVERTHING. All my emotions & mood swings & all that jazz. Right now he dosn’t think it’s deppression, he thinks it may be my birth control pill. So he switched me to a diffrent one. He also thinks I just got way over stressed with school, becouse I had the psat & a couple of other major tests.
So I’m going to drop one math class ( I was taking two to get ahead). I’m supposed to go back in two weeks & see how I am then. I’m really hopping it was the pill, & swithing to a new one will help. I didn’t know that the pill could cause mood swings, I guess I should have asked more questions about it. I did go ahead and make an appointment with a therapist though, just to be sure. I want to get all this sorted out you know?
Anyway I hope this makes since, I’m trying to type this in a hurry, I have practice in an hour.

[Monkeybun]

Well, birth control pills are pretty much pure hormones, so it IS quite possible that could be it. God knows I have huge huge mood swings when its hormone time

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